I tried to talk to my girlfriend about how i am not happy with the way she is treating me. For instance, i layed down with her in my bed because she was very upset about all her problems yesterday, and i held her and kissed her for two hours while she cried! This morning when i got home from one of my jobs she tried to make up a story saying somebody just called here for you(meaning it was another woman) and said it was my cell phone number i just got that she was calling from! I called the phone company to prove to her it wasnt! I allowed her to move into my home with me along with her three kids who are always fighting and not listening to us. She was supposed to get a job before i bought this home for us all, so she could help out with all my new bills. She seems like she is trying to find another man for her and her kids while i pay everything! It seems like she doesbt care about my bills now! I am so deeply hurt now, because i am only trying to help her and her kids out!
2006-09-22 07:14:25 · 28 answers · asked by bubba 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have tried for almost two years of my life with her and her kids. I have been trying to explain to her for the past 4 months now, that i dont appreciate her snooping around in all my things (including opening my mail and glueing it back together) - Many times when i come home from work from one of my two jobs, i notice she has snooped into something of mine, and she always tells me no she hasnt, but i know she has! She continues to not tell me the whole truth, and just told me agin that she doesnt want me to talk to no other woman on a game site i play here online! I do still love her, but i dont know if i am IN LOVE with her anymore! I was treated this way from my marriage and i told her upfront when we met, that i dont ever want to be hurt like this again, thats why i left my wife in 2003. She sais she cant live without me and that she loves me, but i cant seem to believe her, what should i do ? WOW, i really need a friend(woman only answer please)
2006-09-22 08:04:24 · update #1
I don't know i'm just bored
2006-09-22 07:17:52 · answer #1 · answered by angel79172 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she is really in love with you but feeling insecure about your feelings for her.Tell her your not interested in any other lady and that you only play games for a little distraction not to meet ladies.I would tell her if she doesn't stop with all of this nonsense then it's going to destroy the relationship.You should also watch what you do.When your in public make sure you don't check out other women and tell your wife she is beautiful as often as you can.Men seem to think that women only need to hear the sweet talk at the beginning of the relationship and fail to make us feel unique and special later on in the relationship.It is important to have time alone without her children so that the two of you can focus on each other without any distractions.Also make sure your giving sex at least one time a day that will reassure her that your not getting it someplace else.I don't think you should hold the fact that she has children against her because you knew all about that when you got with her.If your going to make any decisions on the relationship base it on only the things she does.
2006-09-22 14:13:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you have is a trifling women.. Sorry to say, I don't want to come down hard, I know you still love her. But she's no good for you. You can't help a person that don't want to be helped. And then two, it sounds like you hardly know her yourself. It's like having a stranger in your home with kids.. It must be a tough situation knowing that when you leave your house your privacy will be violated.. You need to get rid of your charity case, she's only gone make the situation your already in harder. This sure doesn't sound like marriage material.. Your wife or future wife would never violate your privacy. ( Or at least shouldn't).. Anyhow, you have played captain save her and her kids for sometime now. Buckle down on her.. Tell her to get RIGHT... Or GET LEFT..
I wish you luck..
2006-09-22 08:21:42 · answer #3 · answered by The'Truth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, it sounds to me like this woman doesn't care about you as much as you care about her. I would give her one last warning; get a job, start helping, and start giving you the same respect you give her, or one of you are moving out. If something doesn't change after that, I would find an apartment, pack my bags, and leave. While I realize it would be tough for you to do such a thing (as you seem like a very caring person), you have to think of yourself, too. Are you happy where you're at? Is this the way you want to carry on? If you answered "no" to both of my questions, you know what you have to do. Besides, there might be another woman out there who would suit you perfectly, and you will probably be happier with her.
2006-09-22 07:24:07 · answer #4 · answered by Awesomeness!!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your right. It does sound like she's using you. A person that is in a committed relationship will do their part to make the relationship work in every way. I know you feel sorry for her and may love her, but don't let her walk all over you. Talk with the girl openly and hopefully you'll get an answer to all of this. Give her an ultimatum, either she straightens herself out or you can't continue in the relationship. You can't live like this forever. Either she will find someone else or you'll lose your sanity.
2006-09-22 07:22:49 · answer #5 · answered by gel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your 360 says you like the Bible, Bubba...When the earth around you is sinking sand, go stand on the Rock. You've got to clean the slate with this woman, get her and her children out of your house and out of your life. Pray for guidance in finding a good woman. I'm not some Bible thumping nut, but I do believe God answers genuine heart-felt prayers.
I wish you all the best in finding someone to make your dreams come true...Someone worthy of a good man such as yourself.
2006-09-22 16:40:33 · answer #6 · answered by midge 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes i would say end it. Sounds to me like she is emotionally unstable.
She is obviously using you...she doesn't care about you. She is too self centered it seems.
Bro...no matter what you wish she will not change. Not for you at least.
I would not even give her another warning. It will just prolong your drama and pain. I would predict she would get a dead end job and somehow not keep it for long.
Spare yourself the long drawn out headache and just kick her out.
Shame about the kids but you need to take care of yourself first...not some chicks kids.
2006-09-22 08:02:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's time to stop the insanity. Tell her she needs to start contributing or her and the kids are out. You are not a homeless shelter (at least I don't think so). You are not a charity. A mature adult relationship includes both partners making an effort. She sounds slightly nuts. Ultimatum time.
2006-09-22 07:20:24 · answer #8 · answered by noambition 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a nice sensitive guy ... and guys like that usually get used and abused. You shouldn't turn into a total a**, but don't put up with her crap anymore!!! It sounds like she is using you, and she knows what she is doing is wrong, so she tries to accuse you of cheating (so that you become the bad guy) and then she doesn't feel so badly about what she is doing. You deserve better than that, and one day you will find someone who truly appreciates you!!!
2006-09-22 10:54:40 · answer #9 · answered by Punjabi_Princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GIve her a timetable. Get a job in a month and start paying the bills in eight weeks. If not, find another place to live.
2006-09-22 07:19:55 · answer #10 · answered by TrueSoul 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to let her go. Some women dont appreciate when they have a good man. they rather be mis treated for them to be happy. she needs to help you because you are supporting her and her 3 kids.
2006-09-22 08:43:15 · answer #11 · answered by Angel Eyes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋