sneaking right next to me then when done want to cuddle with me? Not like I am an unwilling partner. I am always up for it so to say.
2006-09-22 07:09:24 · 16 answers · asked by bdntitest 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You just ain't gettin it done bro.
2006-09-22 07:12:43 · answer #1 · answered by dirftwood22 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
You need to discuss this with your wife, not us. Any relationship which lacks open communication is doomed to fail. I truly encourage you to broach this with her and find out what is going on. Now, if she is an older woman, like in her late thirties early forties, she has reached her peak sexual years. She will have a very strong sex drive and she may be worried and not understand what is happening, or how to tell you she needs more than you may be able to give right now. It is good she is using a toy and not out seeking a young lover, which, sadly, many do. Just talk wtth her and work this out betweent you. she will probably be embarressed at first for being "caught" but once that is over, she will probably be releived to discuss it. Also, women worry about their men's egos. Men don't take well to being told they may not be meeting their woman's needs fully, so she may be worried about hurting your feelings. Just talk with her and it will get worked out.
2006-09-22 14:14:45 · answer #2 · answered by Serenity 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why don't you ask her. There could be many reasons, some that don't have anything to do with you. Just don't take offense in what she tells you. Learn from it. Her using a toy will not change, maybe you can "help" her next time!
2006-09-22 14:14:40 · answer #3 · answered by J j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sneaking right next to you when using her toy is odd because the toy is often used as a sexual stimulant to spice things up a little bit thats what i use mine for most of the time i would ask her why shes hiding it because alot of men like my husband gets really turned on watching the woman use it find out if shes shy using it or ask her if u can use it on her to make her open up to u because its better to share your feelings than to hide them & feel bottled up inside but i would be worried to so good luck on your relationship
2006-09-22 14:16:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did she think u were sleeping? I personally love when my wife uses her toy, watching her get off drives me crazy. Plus I always get some to, so there is really no loser.
2006-09-22 17:11:01 · answer #5 · answered by erker34 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Offer to use it with her...That is what I did with my husband and I swear that he would like to use it EVERY time we have sex....I only bought it because he was working out of town 6 days a week for over 8 months...
2006-09-22 14:12:16 · answer #6 · answered by ladysteelersince1976 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a bit weird if she's secretly using it next to you.
I would understand if she used it when you wasn't there, because that's the same as when a man masturbates when his wife is not there.
Maybe you should mention it to her, i don't think i would like it if my partner was secretly masturbating whilst laying next to me, when i would of been perfectly happy to have sex with him.
2006-09-22 14:17:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Damn, next time take it from her hand and use it on her.
Then she won't be as bored with you as she is now. It is obvious that she would rather just finish herself and go to bed.
2006-09-22 14:12:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You aren't fulfilling your end of the bargain so to speak. Time to get some lessons.
2006-09-22 14:11:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a different kind of excitement than a man can give. Ask to watch. don't let her hide.
2006-09-22 14:11:33 · answer #10 · answered by Kc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
now i can get her using a toy all by herself....when you are at work or whatever....but to use it right beside you when you are ready for sex? that is weird... maybe she doesn't like sex with you as much as she likes her toy.....
2006-09-22 14:11:41 · answer #11 · answered by myheartisjames 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋