2006-09-22 07:08:58 · 21 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
don't do it Steve, I'm sure the sex with the 20 yr old is great but it's not worth it. Especially if you make a lot of money because when you go broke after the divorce, that 20 yr old will not want a broke 39 yr old.
2006-09-22 07:13:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you need to stop thinking with your private part. You are 39 years old. What can you possibly have in common with a 20 year old? You need to do your wife a favor and leave. She does not deserve this. Is sex honestly that important to throw away 17 years? I understand that men get horny, but come on, can't you watch a movie or something. There is no need to break your vows just to get "some". I hope you are not a GOD fearing man, because you have no idea how much damage you have done. GOD help you.
2006-09-22 14:56:01 · answer #2 · answered by cookie 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You got married!!! You should try to work it out with your wife. You already have gone way to far. You need to think of why your in love with this 20 year old. Is it just physical? Is it because she makes you feel young? You could be going through a mid life crisis. 19 years is a big difference. You are old enough to be her father!! She is going to have different taste of music, movies and other things because of such an age difference. It may not seem to bother you now but it will later on down the road.
2006-09-22 14:19:06 · answer #3 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
THINK very carefully Steve, cause the marriage you save may be your own!You sure you're not in"lust", going through youre "mid" life crisis a little early? lol Believe me, he grass is not greener on the other side! If your marriage is good but something in the "bedroom" is lacking "spice" it up! YOU initiate it, she'll be surprized! If it's something more serious than You need to get it worked out between you! Talk talk talk! If it can't be worked out , then it's probably time to move on but do it the right way! Don't cheat cause you'll only regret it later! That's not a way to "solve" problems! Do it the right way and in the end you'll be a much better person for it! Best of luck!
2006-09-22 16:03:25 · answer #4 · answered by noditz57 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You know what you should do? Roll over, smell the bacon frying, smell the coffee brewing, and WAKE UP!!! You've got 17 years invested with the wife and trust me on this one...The 20 year old is just looking for someone to fulfill her "daddy" issues! What a boost to her ego to have an older man "fall in love" with her and leave his wife for her! You'd be an *** of the royal order to even consider it.
And by the way...Lexington...You're an *** no matter what you consider!
2006-09-22 23:22:23 · answer #5 · answered by midge 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm sure none of the answers here will influence you as to what to do next in your predicament. You are going to do what you want to do anyways....The biggest obsticle here is to just not get caught having all this "fun on the side". Fun and nerveracking as hell isn't it ? All I can strongly suggest you do here is keep it as a descrete 'fling', nothing more. You're infatuated for the moment, but that'll wear off as time goes by naturally....been there, done that... Stick with your largest investment of all time, your house and home and don't LET yourself become too emotionally involved. Turn it off ! It's an absolute MUST. Best of luck....
2006-09-22 14:36:47 · answer #6 · answered by Lexington 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, let's start with move out of your house into a run down apartment. Give all your money away, never see your children and then become a dirty alcoholic.
You might as well since if you leave your wife for the chick that is what is gonna happen in the end.
The 20yo is not worth the trouble of alimony/shild support and the cost of a divorce
2006-09-22 14:14:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am fifty plus years old and I have appreciated the beauty of many a younger lady (from afar...looking, not touching). Apparently, she must be attracted to you...now (she is too young and immature to make a life changing decision that will lead to breaking up your marriage). However, this is a passing fancy for her and I would strongly suggest you not ruin your marriage over it. To be perfectly honest, "grow up" and accept your responsibilities to your commitment to your wife. I think you are hoping someone will tell you to go for it so you will not feel guilty for being with this younger girl while you are still married, but not me!
2006-09-22 14:21:30 · answer #8 · answered by michael_stands_up 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
She's young enough to be your daughter! Enjoy the feelings and the fantasy, but keep in mind that it's just a fantasy. You're married and you have too much invested in that to give it up for something new and exciting.
2006-09-22 14:12:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
pls be more responsible. wad are u thinking? 17 yrs of marriage. all thrown away. 17 more yrs down e road are u gonna do jus e same. u'll probably be dead..think for ur wife. n it's time to leave tt girl n return to a loving husband.
2006-09-22 14:41:46 · answer #10 · answered by wallybelly 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋