When I buy clothes she says "fat people dont buy clothes" (meaning herself). Or she'll put me on the spot and ask what I weigh. What does it matter what I weigh and what size I wear. Its apparent she's fishing for reassurance but Im not sure if the remarks I giver her are the right ones. I busted my butt to lose this weight afetr baby #3. Its not like Im "lucky" as she would put it. Plz just tell me what it is she needs or wants to hear.
2006-09-22 06:36:03 · 10 answers · asked by TrofyWife 4 in Beauty & Style ➔ Skin & Body
Tell her that everything has a price. If she wants to be thin, she needs to hit the gym.
2006-09-22 06:52:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people are nice, very nice...but also lazy. It's easier for her to justify the weight and size differences between you and her by saying your just lucky, or it's natural or the weight just fell off you and that it was so easy..and a million other things, rather then own up to the fact that you put alot of effort into making a positive change for yourself and she's not prepared to do that. Nothing you say will make her feel better so I would suggest just telling her you would rather not talk about size and weight with her anymore, just say you're trying to not think in those terms and you just want to feel good and not obsess over numbers. I hope it helps.
2006-09-22 06:47:01 · answer #2 · answered by Mandy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a woman who went from a size 3/4 to 14 after baby #1 , I understand what you went through to loose your baby weight. I had a friend who told me that I couldn't loose the weight and she was upset with her weight and found it important to put me down when she could. Being that I understood where her comments stemmed from I decided to include her on my weight loss efforts. So together we dieted and joined the gym together. We would hold friendly wagers and thought of creative ways to make loosing weight interesting. I knew there would be resistance at first so I told her I needed her for motivation. Since she is my best friend and we have been friends for 15 years I knew that her attitude towards my weight had nothing to do with me. When I was a 3/4 she never put me down. I knew it was due to her unhappiness and I wanted her to be the friend I knew again. So 4 sizes later we both look great and still go to the gym together!
2006-09-22 06:48:13 · answer #3 · answered by NICOLE J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should invite her to do activities with you, ride bikes, go for walks, whatever you did to lose weight, always invite her along. Even if she doesn't lose a bunch of weight, just by being active and be included will hopefully raise her self-esteem. Also, try to pick up little gifts for her, nothing expensive, just stuff to show her that you're thinking of her while your out and about. Maybe buy her a shirt similar to one that you buy for yourself. I have a friend like this also, I'm not in great shape, I'm not obese but I'm certainly not skinny, or have a body to be envious of. Whenever I go shopping with this particular person I always make sure to pick out really cool stuff for her and I'm not shy about handing her her size whatsoever, the size is not a big deal at all. I don't try to flatter her by handing her a top that is a medium when I know that she needs a large or x-large. I find that by not catering to her own insecurities it makes it easier for both of us. I don't have to deal with her being down on herself, when she starts I just tell her "shut up, try this on, it will make your @$$ look great" (she has a total bubble butt and huge boobs-she has nothing to worry about). It's really not your problem, I know you love your friend and don't want her to be sad or depressed about her body, but these are her own insecurities and if you can't get her to see that she doesn't need to be down on herself then simply don't invite her shopping with you anymore. She will eventually ask you what's up and at that point you can tell her that you're sick of dealing with her low self-esteem and you don't wish to subject yourself to it anymore. I know it sounds kind of harsh but maybe hearing it from a good friend will knock some sense into her and get her to realize how rediculous she's being for no reason. Good luck!
2006-09-22 07:08:06 · answer #4 · answered by sarahsmiles1222 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-18 14:59:46 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she feels uncomfortable shopping with you because you will see what size she wears if she gets anything. You do need to try to convince her to buy nice clothes though, it will help her to feel better about herself and more confident.
2006-09-22 06:40:47 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she doesnt want to lose weight that bad. maybe shes scared that she cant or shes just too lazy to try. and she needs reassurance from you that its ok to be fat. she wants you to tell her that she looks great and that she shouldnt work hard to lose the excess weight. im not against fat people. but it seems that she is against fat people and that she knows she is one of them. If she wants to lose weight that bad she will. If shes happy to be in whatever weight shes in she shouldnt complain. and she should stop making you feel bad about yourself. and dont ever feel bad about yourself.
2006-09-22 06:48:10 · answer #7 · answered by sunkissedsnowflake 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing worse or more boring than some whining female that does not accept herself for who she really is! Ditch her!
2006-09-22 06:43:25 · answer #8 · answered by red9 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well i think she doesn't feel good about herself maybe u just need to tell her that size doesn't matter as long as u feel good about what ur wearing that even if she the biggest woman in the room it doesn't matter wat people think as long as she feels good
2006-09-22 07:01:42 · answer #9 · answered by sara 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is jealous and feels bad cause she is fat and you should just tell her to piss off
2006-09-22 06:41:06 · answer #10 · answered by Danielle L 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋