my husband is kinda of helping to support is siblings and mother due to family situations. and everytime i need him before his family does, he rejects me and when they need him he jumps for them. i asked him to tell me if his family was more important to him than i was and he said " why do i have to say it ". what is wrong with him?
2006-09-22 06:22:49 · 23 answers · asked by leeash192004 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
no he shouldnt but he should also be respectful to his family and expalin to them that he is married and there are times when you need him just as much and if he feels he still needs to help his family he is going to have to learn how to juggle them both , but you dont want to tell him to choose not a good idea
2006-09-22 06:45:40 · answer #1 · answered by Miskateyes 2 · 2⤊ 3⤋
No, he should not choose his family over his wife. However, if his helping his family before his wife is only temporary, I don't see why not. But if this is a prolonged issue, I could see it becoming a problem.
Unfortunately, it's hard to gauge exactly what his problem might be. His priorities could be screwed up or maybe he just doesn't love you enough. Either way, it sounds like things aren't going very well for you two. You should head off the problem before it becomes worse through communication, counseling, etc.
2006-09-22 06:29:04 · answer #2 · answered by Rivrav 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
How come that you have the most interesting questions to me?
You have the same situation as we are some kind of twins!
I left him with a problematic child and went to my problematic mother, and I have a Phd in front of me without which I'll lose my job, and I don't stand well financially (becouse of HIM!). See, I can't stand such a behaviour and I made a risky step. However, I have somebody that gives me a great confidence and support and I love him a lot. I hope this will help a little.
2006-09-22 06:41:41 · answer #3 · answered by Wintermute 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I have been married for 18 yrs and I have gave and gave to his family and they don't respect me at all. Money, furniture use of camper and 4 wheelers, helped moved them 3 or 4 times. I am done. Next step is divorce. He can have them all, I have quit being 2nd, 3rd or what every other place I fall.
2014-11-26 11:01:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm guessing he's under a lot of pressure; I'm not making excuses for him, but family and money are #1 and #2 on the list of stress-causers.
You put a question to him that set him up to give an answer he really doesn't mean.
Tell him you love him, you need him, you think it's great he helps his family, but he has TWO families ... and his #1 family is the one with you ... put sugar on it, though. :)
2006-09-22 06:26:46 · answer #5 · answered by Tad Dubious 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
What's wrong with him?????? He doesn't have any balls and he obviously has never read the Bible! YOU are his family. His sibs and mom aren't the family he needs to be caring after. YOU are. He is to treat you as he would the church. Or something like that it says somewhere in the Bible. Don't quote me. It also says that a woman shall be subserviant to her husband....but that doesn't mean take a back seat and swallow all of his crap! Both of you have to have respect for each other. He does for you, you do for him sorta thing. If you ain't first in his life, then you need to find someone who will step up to the plate and treat you as a queen as you treat him like a king.
2006-09-22 06:31:08 · answer #6 · answered by yokrem 2 · 6⤊ 2⤋
He would not prefer something to do with 'it'? "It" is a toddler! His toddler! So he desires to awaken to somewhat component called baby help and pay. i could look at a divorce lawyer impressive away so which you additionally could be sure you get funds for the time you spent scraping by whilst he abandoned his youthful and unborn. What a heartless! He runs abode to mommy whilst his abode existence gets to be too lots? information to him, you and those infants ARE his kinfolk! there is not any leaving that in the back of!! His kinfolk can not deny you and then be indignant considering you 'took away their granddaughter' you are able to not believe your immature and ignorant husband with the care of a baby impressive now! and you will't believe his kinfolk simply by fact they %. and choose who gets to be interior the kinfolk, so what in the journey that your daughter falls out of fashion no longer rapidly? Will they only eliminate her? And what relating to the toddler on your abdomen? Does his kinfolk care that he desires to homicide (abort) their next grandchild? i desire the courts wring him dry. do no longer place self belief in any kind of contract between the two one among you, get each and every thing in court docket authorized writing so as that they could take it out of his examine.
2016-10-17 11:10:28 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree that you really can't compare the two. As his wife you should be understanding of his relationship with his family and if they are going through a hard time and he wants to be there to help them and support them as much as he can then I see nothing wrong with that. I think you are being kind of selfish.
2006-09-22 06:28:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
Your husband should be putting YOU first - you're his wife, love of his life. But unfortunately, you are coming second to his family. That is hard. You need to tell him you are very uncomfortable with it but I'm not sure how you can get him to change, as his decision seems to be made.
2006-09-22 06:26:54 · answer #9 · answered by Rachel 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
you should come first now...you are what should be most important in his life. not that he shouldn't be there for his family or not love them, but if it affects your household then he needs to let someone else take the reigns for his family and be more of a husband like he should.
2006-09-22 06:38:03 · answer #10 · answered by Katy 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋