I have a boyfriend and this person have a wife but we are still attracted to each other we keep in touch and he makes sure that i have whatever i need and the thing is we live on seperate islands he visit here every 2 weeks but we dont get to see each other due 2 he stays in political affairs. But despite that he shows that he care. please give me sound advice.
2006-09-22 06:20:19 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Yes it is wrong and you know that. Put yourself in his wife's place. Think how you would feel if you found out your husband was having an affair. And what does it say about him? Even if he did leave his wife for you, how would you ever be able to trust him?
2006-09-22 06:23:13 · answer #1 · answered by Helen T 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh, this isn't good. It sucks being "the other woman" no matter what the situation is. You can't help who you fall in love with, and the thing is that chances are you are the one in love with him, not the other way around. Do you really think that you don't deserve better than that? Because I do. I think that you deserve to be with someone that can give you their full attention, love and time. You aren't reaping all the benefits that being in a rewarding relationship has to offer, ya know? You really need to think about that seriously. You know how you feel when he leaves you after his mini vacation and goes home to his wife, and pretty sure you would rather that he stay right with you. You should break it off with him honey, you are just better than that. Let yourself heal from it because it will break your heart, and if he needs an explanation, you tell him that you are a woman, and you have the right to choose to be happy. Tell him that the little weekend visits aren't cutting it, and you just can't disrespect yourself (or his wife) anymore. You must know on some level how wrong this is, use your intuition that God gave you and go with what your gut is telling you. You wouldn't want to be the wife at home, would you? How would you feel if the situation were reversed because no matter what this coward is telling you, you need to remember there is ALWAYS another side to the story. Don't just be his concubine. Someone out there was put on this earth to love you the way a woman should be loved and treated. I hope everything works out for you...good luck and God bless.
2006-09-22 13:30:53 · answer #2 · answered by pamalamadingdong_1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the two of you aren't also friends with each other's significant others or if both of your significant other's do not know about your relationship, then in my opinion it's wrong.
Being a victim of infidelity in my first marriage and a victim of another woman trying to make a play for my husband in my second marriage, I have learned through counseling that friendships between a man and a woman who are attached to other people can only be a true "friendship" when both of you are friends with each other's partner and your partner's know about your friendship. Relationships (especially marriage) require rigrous honesty in order to stay healthy and survive. If it's any other way, either of your partners could feel threatened by the relationship and that always causes problems if you plan on staying in the relationship. My counselor says that's the only way this works and I have found that to be true in my 8 1/2 year marriage to my husband.
2006-09-22 13:32:36 · answer #3 · answered by AJo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to get yourself together and grow up. You know that sleeping with a married man is wrong, otherwise you wouldnt be asking.
He's wrong to be playing these games. If he is in politics, he is REALLY wrong, since he is simply opening up the opportunity for this political enemies to ruin him.
He is even more wrong that he is willing to put his wife through something like that.
You need to break it off with him and work on building your self esteem. You are worth a REAL boyfriend, one who is interested in being YOUR husband. Not someone who is simply playing games with you, no matter how much fun it is.
You deserve much more than your "boyfriend" is giving you. Dump him before you really get hurt!!!
Good luck and Goddess Bless!
2006-09-22 13:28:42 · answer #4 · answered by crazygodddesss 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Truth-you are wrong and someone should have told you that a long time ago.Would you think it was wrong if you were in her shoes.He isn't a man first of all.He should have never gotten married if he wasn't going to keep that sacred promise he made to his wife.You shouldn't want a boy like that.You should be better than that and get someone who really respects you.That's not respect and it isn't love, he is just using you.If it is love to the both of you then tell him to end it with her or leave it alone.
2006-09-22 13:29:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know the answer already...your conscience has told you what your doing is wrong, now your heart is seeking a way around your brain. It happens to all of us everyday for a number of reasons.
Would you want a husband who is doing what this guy is doing? Why would it be different if he was married to you...after five years...after ten? Don't fool yourself, you know the truth better than any of us.
Do yourself a huge favor and break it off, find a man who can give all of himself to you without breaking his promise and bond.
2006-09-22 13:24:55 · answer #6 · answered by Luc S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't sell yourself short...find your own man. He may have developed feelings for you other than sex, which is doubtful, but he isn't going to leave his wife. And if he does then won't it only be a matter of time before he leaves you?!? I am sure that you fulfill some desire that he feels his wife is lacking whether it be sexual or the fact that he is able to give you things and feel needed. Do yourself a favor and let him go.
2006-09-22 13:23:22 · answer #7 · answered by mvngs 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
HE IS MARRIED......that's all there is to it......u have to remember u are not the only one in this "mess". he has a wife, imagine what it would be like if u were in her position. not pretty is it.....so get out before it's too late.....by the way, if he is still married and is still playing with you, the u already know that he is not worth it......totally not, he can just as easily do what he is doing to his wife, TO YOU.
2006-09-22 13:53:27 · answer #8 · answered by emmarck 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should end it now bcuz no matter how much you 2 are
madly in luv, he iz married to another woman that is not you. if you love him you will end it asap cuz, he married her bcuz he loves her with all of his heart. and if he loved you that much, he would have already divorced her, moved to your island, and married you. but nope hes still there with her. so just pray about and wait for the answer yu need to hear. ok well its ^ 2 u if u want to follow my advice or not.l8r g8r.
2006-09-22 13:34:13 · answer #9 · answered by arie_babee_#1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it's wrong you are having an affair with a married man...
2006-09-22 13:22:36 · answer #10 · answered by momie_2bee 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋