should i get married???

Question

i have been dating this girl for about 2 yrs now and things are going well. she is a little jealous, but i can handle her. i am thinking about asking her the big question.... i have a problem though...i am bi and don't know if this would hurt her or not. the only big issue i have is the jealousy thing and thinking about other guys. there is this guy at work, a burly, healthy guy i really like....should i ask him?? what should i say to her?? do u think this will shatter my relationship and hurt me where i want to do this badly...he has such a nice name...james...should i ask???


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Answer 1

If you have someone else on your mind, regardless of whether the other person is a male or female, you are not ready to get married.

I know it's tough, since we all more or less like having the security of having SOMEONE but suffer from wandering eyes at times, but definitely think through this. Marriage is a big step and something to really think through. If your heart is really not in it, not only are you going to end up hurting her, but you will hurt yourself the most.

Best wishes!

Answer 2

You do need help. First off you can't lie to her. That's not the correct approach to marriage. The fact that you are already thinking of James proves my point. She may not like the idea. If you "love" her you will tell her. That's what love is about. If you don't tell her you are a deceiver, liar, and self centered gay boy. You will definitely hurt her, but to lie is worse.

You need conseling. You are very low to think like this. You have serious problems. Tell her and save her alot of grief, if you're man enough (or not?).

Answer 3

you need to tell her right away!!!!!!!!!! don't marry this girl if you cant be totally committed to her, heart, mind, body and soul.

if you do you'll marry her and then regret it because you'll be living a lie. the last thing that you need to do now is marry her. you are confused don't mess up anyones life by going into a marriage with lies and especially one as big as this. if you dont come clean before you marry her, you'll end up sneaking around with some man behind her back.

everything done in the dark will come to the light so just be honest.

yes, honesty hurts but not as bad a lies.

Answer 4

if your thinking about another person, you are not ready to get married. when you get married you have to give yourself the your girlfriend, love her, respect her, take care of her needs. are you seriously realdy to devote your life to this woman? can you handle not touching this guy? from what you've stated, i can understand that your feeling presure to marry her, but you want something. maybe you should hold off on the marrage thing and explore your true feelings about your girlfriend, and then if you come to find that she's annoying and hell, then take a look at the guy. if you havn't convinced yourself to get married yet ant there is doubt, DONT DO IT.

Answer 5

I think you should tell your girlfriend that you are bisexual. She has the right to know so she could make an informed choice and to avoid problems later. People always find out sooner or later.

Secondly, you are not ready to get married if you are looking to get in sexually situations with other people.

Answer 6

Be Honest with Both of them , an then based on there reaction , do what you feel is best from there.

Good Luck !!

Answer 7

I don't think you shouldn't get married. Why, you are thinking about cheating and the altar is not even close.