my mother in law acts as if she is married with my husband and i. she thinks for him, she always needs some thing from him and she makes his decisions for him.
2006-09-22 06:04:42 · 26 answers · asked by leeash192004 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You and your husband need to sit down and have a little chat about his mother and your marriage. Don't let her control your marriage believe me your marriage may not last very long with her in control.Tell your husband that you love him and you married him not his mother!
Good luck!
2006-09-22 06:07:41 · answer #1 · answered by mudda 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your mother in laws "place" is in her own marriage not yours. She just doesn't wanna lose her son, and prolly feels replaced by you. You should tell your husband that you don't want to compete with his mother for his attention and you feel she should not be involved in every aspect of his life. Let him know that it is still okay to go to her when he needs some advise, but you are now his wife and you should be the main woman in his life. You didn't marry two people, you married him. Make sure though you dont come off sounding like you hate her because that will only make him mad and get defenseive which will get you no where!!
GOOD LUCK!!!
2006-09-22 06:17:29 · answer #2 · answered by tweedy778 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well since you didn't take care of this BEFORE you got married. Do something NOW! Is she single, set her up with someone so she has another focus in her life. Encourage her to join a class or a gym or get a hobby. Talk with your husband about him being a Mama's boy. Things will only get worse when you have kids. Your husband need to support you on these issues. Best of luck you'll need it, I had a Mother-in-law from hell!!
2006-09-22 06:16:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A mother in law doesnt have any place in anyone's marriage, once her son is married then she has to give him up, just like the father has to do the daughter. All she needs to be is the mother in law and nothin further.
2006-09-22 06:08:26 · answer #4 · answered by babiluv 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For some reason, or so it seems, most mother in laws feel like they should have a say in everything that goes on in their child's life. You should sit down and explain to your husband that he is a grown man and he should be capable of making decisions on his own without mommy interfering. Then he needs to sit her down and tell her the same thing.....Trust me, those mother in laws that love to meddle in your life will usually end up breaking up your marriage.
2006-09-22 06:09:53 · answer #5 · answered by dixiegirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has no place at all in your marriage. Her place is as your husband's mother. Any marital decisions are between you and your husband. Any mother and son decisions are between your husband and his mother and your husband is not a child anymore, so those decisions are probably very rare. Talk to your husband. Does he agree that his mom is being too nosy? If so, tell him it is his job to stand up to his mom. If he doesn't agree, I suggest counseling until he does.
2006-09-22 06:09:56 · answer #6 · answered by zosoo7 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother in law is invasive, and your husband shares too much with her. And your husband needs to grow up, be a husband, and grow a spine. That might take some therapy.
2006-09-22 06:35:29 · answer #7 · answered by ladyren 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too bad you didn't see this before you got married! He hasn't cut the umbilical cord from his mother yet! He's got to and SOON!! Otherwise, sorry but your marriage is doomed. His mom needs to stay OUT of your marriage and PRONTO!! He also needs to get some balls and tell his mama to back off! He probably loves not having to think for himself tho! Tell me.....does mom still wipe his rearend for him?? Ask him. He might get the hint after that. If not, then straight up tell him that you married HIM not his MOM!!
2006-09-22 06:11:16 · answer #8 · answered by yokrem 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a mother in law should not be that way, but to be honest i think that the most of them are. I is just that to them their son is still a little boy.
Wish their was a way to help
2006-09-22 06:09:05 · answer #9 · answered by bdmrplemons 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to hear that. i was in the same place like you. i didn't put up with that stuff. but i put my foot down and sat down with them and tell them how i felt. my mother in law said she was never going to butt in nomore but she did. so now i just avoid her. but now she better now because my husband told her she need to treat me better and need to learn that he got marry. well my point is to you. you need to sit down with them and tell them how you feel. you do have feeling too. it's cant be all about her.so i would tell them how you feel. your husband marry you not his mother. so your mother in law should realize that he a marry man and he can do his own thing. he has his own life with you but he still can be in her too. but that doesnt mean that she can make decisions and run his life for him. he can do that for him self and he need to learn to do that. so i hope this help and if you want to talk email me. good luck
2006-09-22 06:32:19 · answer #10 · answered by Melda R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋