i wasn't getting the attention i desired from my husband, so i began to flirt and say sexual things to some one esle. i did so only to for him to say the things that i wasn't hearing from my husband. and the bad part about it, the person was his friend. i did realize that it was wrong so i stopped. but he still found out. so now we are separated and i don't know waht to do. i apologized to my husband, his friend and to god.
2006-09-22 06:00:52 · 22 answers · asked by leeash192004 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No.Just beginning of an adultery
2006-09-22 06:03:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
You do sound remorseful. It was good that you apologized to everyone. I just wonder, would you have gone farther if your husbands friend made physical advances toward you? Whether you would have or not, I still do believe you were unfaithful to him emotionally. If your husband loves you, then he will be able to understand to some extent why you did what you did. At least you didn't sleep with the guy, and you were remorseful. If I were him, I wouldn't have left you over a few sexual words being exchanged. I would have if you would have slept with him. Good luck with your husband...I hope it all works out for you two! :)
2006-09-22 13:14:10 · answer #2 · answered by Whitney S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were not getting that at home thats why you did that you wanted to make sure you were desirable still.Maybe your husband should of thought how he was treating you too.And when this happened you should have sat hubby down and talked to him and how u felt.No,its not adultery now if you would have went all the way and slept with someone else it is.You were looking for an emotional connection too.Im sorry you are seperated I hope things will work out for you.Just know next time there are better ways to try and fix that situation.
2006-09-22 13:06:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. But you were in the early stages of adultery. You would have been better off telling him about the attention you were not getting from him right from the start. Why don't you e:mail what you just typed here to your husband. Maybe he will see how hard you are trying to get him to forgive you. If he can see how you are reaching out for help like you are now, what can you lose right? I mean your separated. Go for it.
Take care.
2006-09-22 13:15:05 · answer #4 · answered by X-Woman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you know the answer to this. If the roles were reversed you would feel the same way. I know it easy to put the blame on someone else, but the more you take full responsiblity for it, the easier he will be able to get over it. If you and your husband are going to try and make it work you will need a counselor to help you both re-establish trust.
2006-09-22 13:05:01 · answer #5 · answered by KIMBO 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem is given the chance you would have gone all the way and that is why in your case it was adultery. Some women are natural flirts and there is no harm intended,but that was not your MO. You did it casue you were fishing for more. You all need counseling until you fix the real problem in your marriage.
2006-09-22 13:06:07 · answer #6 · answered by getit on the floor 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is in a broader and Biblical sense of the word. Adultery is not defined by intercourse. You need to get you and your husband in marriage counseling to work out the core issue of this and also work out why you would betray your husband's trust with someone you knew he would find out from. It sounds like you were doing this to get caught in order to force a confrontation about the issue of a lack of attention from your husband. It backfired on you, but don't give up on your marriage. Try to get into counseling and work this out and please know better next time. I hope it works out for you both.
2006-09-22 13:10:59 · answer #7 · answered by Kelly S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's adultery. Hind sight is 20/20, I'm sure you know that now, however talking to your husband was and remains to be a critical component to an honest relationship. I wish you the best of luck.
2006-09-22 13:05:00 · answer #8 · answered by free2b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what you did was not exactly "good" but u deserve a second chance 2 improve and if ur husband is wise enough he would give it u, if he doesnt let him goto hell coz anyways he wasnt satisfying u.
MIND U:- not satisfying each others basic sexual needs after marriage is even against law and can be a gud basis of divorce. IM not sayin u get divorced but im suggesting ur demands are genuine.
2006-09-22 13:06:16 · answer #9 · answered by yuv 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem sorry enough over what you have done. The only thing you might want to change is how you blame him for leading you to do this. Stop blaming him for your mistake if you get back together communicate to him when you are feeling neglected to help avoid issues like this in the future.
2006-09-22 13:35:24 · answer #10 · answered by Chris F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not adultery, but it is not appropriate behavior for a married person. It seems you have some explaining to do to your husband. You will still have to earn his trust back!!! I hope it works out for you!!!!
2006-09-22 13:04:08 · answer #11 · answered by housewives5 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋