My daughter is almost 2, she has very bad temper tantrums. She bites and scratches, pulls my hair. We never fight around her, and im very patient with her. This is my first child, any ideas on disipline? I dont want to spank her.
2006-09-22 05:29:44 · 9 answers · asked by ? 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
The horrible three's are even worse!
Since you don't want to spank her, and you can't reason with a two year old....you take her and put her in "time out" and tell her that that kind of behavior isn't nice and we don't treat mom like that. She'll get the clue when she's stuck in the corner all the time. Be consistent. If it happens outside the home, like the grocery store, leave your cart, take her out to the car, telling her that when she behaves like that we will leave the store and go into the car. If you have to, drive back home.
2006-09-22 05:34:53 · answer #1 · answered by yokrem 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First and formost youhave to let her know that you are the boss. Take her hands and hold them down to her sides. Try and help her calm down. When she does let her know that this behavior will not be tolerated. Well being that she's two take away some of her privaleges. Take away things like her favorite toys or don't let her watch her favorite shows unless she's willing to demonstrate proper behavior. Try time outs if she move from her time out put her back. This will take alot of patience trust me I'm still going through this with my three year old. I was just thinking you can make a small board with stickers and pictures. This way you can teach her what happens when she's properly behaved or misbehaving. Let her help you make the board including her in the activity will give her a sense of acceptance. And it will give her the confidence to join in any activity. As for you try to take a slow deep breath between tantrums and think before you act becaue we all get caught up in our emotions and sometimes forget we are dealing with children. It's hard not to mention frustrating but we have to learn how to keep our cool for our kids sakes. I hope this helps good luck. One more important thing talk to your child's pediatrician to be on the safe side. That way you'll know for sure that this is just a normal behavioral problem.Try some of the things I mentioned ok let me know if any of it works.
2006-09-22 05:47:12 · answer #2 · answered by friend 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time outs only work for so long,then the child gets very hard to handle on time outs . stop spoiling her! spanking her is one thing but you still have to be firm with her smack her on the hand, or thump her between the eyes on the forehead. this worked for me on my 2-3 year old and no its not wrong but she will stop and think for a minute. i don't enjoy spanking my child but you cant show a child your weakness. when they learn they could get away with the small stuff they move on to the big stuff. my son is now 7 years old and a well mannered kid all i have to do is look at him and he knows to straighten up and fly right,before he gets into more trouble. be firm and mean what you say soon you will have control if not you and your daughter will be on the maury show " I'm 13 and i want a baby".
2006-09-22 05:49:38 · answer #3 · answered by Jay Bird 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If her behavior is socially unacceptable (biting, scratching, kicking, etc.) then discipline by either putting her in a corner or in a place where she can be watched (for her safety) but not interact with people until she learns these behaviors aren't acceptable among people.
But you'll probably still have incidences here and there until she's almost 4. Almost all children do this, it is not uncommon at all and it's not a learned behavior (from the parents, etc.). Just something they figure out they can do.
2006-09-22 05:38:16 · answer #4 · answered by Avid 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From what my parents told me, i had done the same thing as a child and whenever i did this, my mother would do the exact same thing to me so i knew what it felt like, usually hurt!You don't have to be so rough that u leave marks (mind didn't and neither do i ) just enough to get the feeling and point across
Seems like a tough lesson but it worked for me and it worked on my 2 boys
2006-09-22 05:47:15 · answer #5 · answered by koleebear 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing I found that works is time outs. Have her to stand in the corner for two minutes. Two minutes to a toddler seems like an eternity. Good luck.
2006-09-22 05:32:50 · answer #6 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you think this is bad wait until 13 comes around lol if you don't want to spank then try the time out witch I don't like
2006-09-22 05:33:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let the child control you. You are the parent and you are in charge. They will grow of this stage. Don't give in to their actions but still let them know you love them.
2006-09-22 05:35:22 · answer #8 · answered by djsanner@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
please start spanking her now. let her know that it's not ok to act that way. my daughter didn't start the terrible stage till three yrs old. you must discipline a child or they will not know when they need corrected.
2006-09-22 05:32:57 · answer #9 · answered by mr_resistor2003 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋