I am a full time mom, full time career and wife. Our child is 7months old and he comes to work with me two days a week and day care the other three. I drop off and pick up my son from day care three days a week, come home, clean the house, feed the baby, give him a bath and cook dinner. My husband will help me out if I nag, but i don't want to have to nag!!! He should see how hard i work and should volunteer his time to help me out. Does anyone have a good way to teach him a lesson
2006-09-22 05:22:23 · 9 answers · asked by micah z 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
OK.. first of all a marriage is somethning that is shared.
Raising children is somethning that should be shared.
it sounds to me like you are too stressed out!!! You need to drop sometning.. I for one would drop the total cleaning of he house. he can help out if he wants and if he doesn't then ..well it will get done when it gets done!
2006-09-22 05:36:54 · answer #1 · answered by .... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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I thought (foolishly) that Mine would be different, and other Mom's and Career Mom's just smiled at me knowingly and saying that is just not happening. I have now accepted that as a MOM"S reality, so I have successfully backed out of his things.
Mine thinks that the occasionally "babysitting" is just enough to make it work. He just got his reality check- I said NO too child #2.
With the brochure for the vasectomy in hand.
While he was on a road trip, I rearranged the entire house to "suit" my needs...not his. So when he came home to a painted computer screen, I was OH Well- you didn't take the minuet responsibility to close that door. Oh well its just plastic right!? Like my Carmel leather boots and black marker that were "just shoes" to me.... destroyed in a three hour window.
Okay- I was just venting- sorry... its a serious struggle for all Mom's and if your a business person as well, it seems like we are alone and a logical problem to solve. Yet we both know that the children are the priority and everything else is what gets you to that point of happiness for the entire family.
2006-09-22 05:52:27 · answer #2 · answered by Denise W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to work on the communication and set your expectations for him as the father/husband.
He should be doing all of the house work since you are doing so much baby care. Inform him that those are his responsibilities as the father/husband and stop doing the work for him. Leave it for him to do. Make a schedule for him if he forgets. Treat him as a teenager if that is what he needs to get the work done.
Alternatively, many mothers hand the father the baby when he comes home. The father cares for the kid in the evening and weekends, including outings, feed schedule, diaper changes, etc.
2006-09-22 05:24:44 · answer #3 · answered by Plasmapuppy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a friend follow you around with a camcorder and a clock.
Show the clock at wake up time,and then how you start YOUR day.(you could even edit in him sleeping while you are getting
the baby up and ready,making breakfast,changing the baby,etc.
etc.Or .the next three day weekernd,,just leave.(make sure theres no diapers or food in the house)Don't worry,he'll squeek
by,but he'll also get one heck of a shock.
Keep a hour to hour diary of your day and have him do the same.At the end of the day compare notes.
Hire a nanny for one week and deduct it from his pay.
Call in some allies.Does he have a sister?Confide in his sister and maybe SHE can sit down and talk with him.
Have a nervous breakdown (if he doesn't start helping ,your bound to have one anyway)
Theres several creative ideas for you!Now lastly,GOOD LUCK
you'll need it.
2006-09-22 05:40:43 · answer #4 · answered by Mark K 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This got here approximately to my son. alongside with the pink puffy eyes he grew to become into additionally greater drained and cranky than often happening and could say "injury" and rub his eyes. there grew to become into no fever or pus or the different indications to pass jointly along with his pink eyes. I took him to the healthcare professional and that they prescribed Claritin daily. yet in view that your son is greater suitable than a year youthful than mine - you will would desire to take him to the healthcare professional to work out what style of hypersensitive reaction meds and how lots an 11 month outdated can take. My sons hypersensitive reaction grew to become into desperate to be oak. Our many o.ok.bushes have been spewing pollen on the time. So, I had to make all human beings take footwear off on the door and wash his face and palms and alter shirts on each and every occasion we got here in from enjoying exterior. His eyes could get distinctly greater swollen and pink after we've been interior the front backyard or park enjoying "in" the pollen. i individually ended up taking him to a pediatric acupuncturists (after being clinically determined with the hypersensitive reaction) that did 3 "massages" on him and that i swear to you he's superb now. it fairly is dazzling!!! i finished giving him the claritin and he's superb. now and lower back his eyelid gets slightly pink and that's the sole symptom left from the hypersensitive reaction. It grew to become into called Tuwani rubdown (undecided I spelled that top). undecided in the adventure that your son has the comparable project. i don't think of that swollen pink eyes for over a month is a stupid reason to pass to the healthcare professional. in the adventure that your pediatrician makes you experience stupid for bringing your unwell baby to the prepare than in line with possibility you will desire to alter docs! you're his mom and you already know whilst some thing isn't top. have faith your intestine and take him to the healthcare professional.
2016-12-15 12:23:41 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say you're going to quit your job so you have time to take care of the kids.
You need more time if he's not going to help. If he says that you need to work, tell him that he then has to get up and help you.
2006-09-22 05:24:24 · answer #6 · answered by Mama R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea, don't do the things you normally do around the house, let him see, after a day or 2, just how bad things can get.
2006-09-22 05:24:37 · answer #7 · answered by koleebear 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop doing these things for him. Let him do it himself.
2006-09-22 05:24:31 · answer #8 · answered by Cary Grant 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't nag. just talk it out. guys are just clueless.
2006-09-22 05:30:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋