My mom took 5 of my Paxil and has been throwing up for 2 days, nauseous, shaking fainting. I think she took more last night (after I cleverly hid them) but she wont admit it. The problem is Im in trouble at work for being out sick so many times. They say if I miss one more day Im fired. But should I drive my mom to the hospital anyway? Would they understand you think? thanks
2006-09-22 05:20:11 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ General Health Care ➔ Other - General Health Care
Stay with your mom. If your work wouldn't understand, you don't want to work for that kind of company anyway.
2006-09-22 05:24:07 · answer #1 · answered by Jessica 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Bless your heart. I have one question here...How long has your mother been holding you hostage? All you life, more than likely. Your mother needs to go to the hospital. She has attemped to commit suicide. She needs to be baker acted. Call 911 and have her taken. She will be angry, but then agian she will be alive.
Another point I want to make here is that your mother is in a very self centered state of depression. In other words, she is becking for your attention regardless of what it is doing to your life. You need to put your foot down!!! IT ends right now!
When 911 arrives, tell her you love her, send her packing for the hospital and go to work. I say this because you must take control of your own life. Following her to the hospital will do no good. She is not in physical danger of dieing in the immediate sense, but she needs pycological help.
If I sound cruel, I am not. I have been where you are. She needs long term help and there is only one way she will get it. That is when she has decided she has had enough of this nonsense.
I know you love her and you should, thats your mom. Yet, you must live your life. Get her help and then go to work.
Good Luck and Take Care
2006-09-22 12:41:18 · answer #2 · answered by escapingmars 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother is self-destructing and taking you with her. Drive her to the hospital and leave her there. Tell her that you will be back to check on her after you get off work.
Go to work. Be honest with them about your mother. Tell them that you do not want to lose your job but that you would appreciate it if they could offer you some flexible hours or possibly allow you to take some vacation time right now.
Your mother is not sick because she caught the flu. Your mother is sick because she was selfish and took drugs that do not belong to her. Your mother is being the child here and she will let you destroy your career just so you can baby sit her. Is that what you want?
I was in the same position about 30 years ago. I refused to risk my career any more after having lost job after job taking care of my mother. If she had had cancer it would be a different story. My mom is addicted to prescription drugs. I can tell you that after making that decision, I still have my career and I still have my mom...yes, she is still alive and she finally forgave me for choosing my career!
You sound like a smart girl...do the smart thing here...good luck!
2006-09-22 12:34:13 · answer #3 · answered by Sister Cat 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If your momma is sneaking your medicines, she needs to be in the hospital. And if your workplace can't understand that you and your mother are ill, you need a different boss.
One thing, though: Have you been keeping them informed about what's going on? One former co-worker of mine used to be VERY bad about not calling in and claiming that her daughter was ill when she was asked. Meanwhile, a lot of work that needed to be done wasn't because the rest of us were taking up her slack. This went on for several months before she was fired. I'm not really sure I believed her.
2006-09-22 12:50:30 · answer #4 · answered by Tigger 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can get a slip from the hospital showing that you were there. If your employer takes that, then fine. If not, you can always get another job, moms are hard to find. BTW, why did she take the paxils? She needs some help.
2006-09-22 12:23:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all, missing work is usually reserved for emergencies. Now that you actually seem to have an emergency and you've used up all your sick days you seem to be in a bit of a self-induced pickle. Help your mom, lose your job, learn from your mistake. And maybe you should get some adult-proof bill bottles from now on as well.
2006-09-22 12:30:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your Mother should come first, I hope your Mom is ok, it sounds like she has a serious problem, please take her to the hospital, Paxil is serious medication, I am sure you know that. I hope you do not get fired, maybe getting a note from the hospital that you take your Mom to will help. Your job should understand. You only get one Mom.
2006-09-22 12:23:50 · answer #7 · answered by spiritcavegrl 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Please help your mom. She needs it badly it sounds like. Even if you only drop her at the hospital and fill them in on what happened, then go to work. Talk to your boss openly. Communication is key. You'll find many people will be understanding as long as they know you aren't a flake. Good luck.
2006-09-22 12:23:03 · answer #8 · answered by Night Wind 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Don't you have anybody else to look after your mother temporarily until you admit her in a hospital?
2006-09-22 12:37:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should speak in private with your boss and tell them you will be happy to give them documentation of your absences. Also, you're mother sounds like she may be clinically depressed and doing these things to get your attention. Please take her to the ER to have them evaluate her physically and then take her to a psychiatrist to have her mentally evaluated. She's def. beyond your ability to 'cure' at this point. And take your pills with you when you leave and/or lock them up when you're home. Best of luck to you and your mother.
2006-09-22 12:31:41 · answer #10 · answered by Kelly S 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋