we got new phone service, so our old cells didn't work. i was going to use his video camera to tape our son, when i finished, i wanted to watch it, and i found this triflin' chic on a mattress, on the floor, ( in the projects) with only a tee-shirt on, he was recording her *****, and she was laughing, then it went off. i have already flipped his *** and clowned, but it's like 3 months later and i still think about it. what can i do to get over this? he has shown so much trust since then, and i have no reason to doubt him now, but i cannot get over this!!!!!!!!!!!!!! it still really hurts.
2006-09-22 05:19:10 · 10 answers · asked by *HOT*GHETTO*MESS* 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If you want to let it go then let it, if you can't get over it then you and him will not be able to make it. I suggest that you have another talk with him and if you are satisfied with what he says then let it go and don't bring it up again, if you keep bringing it up you will drive him away, unless that is what you want. Good luck.
2006-09-22 05:26:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you trust this guy then forgive him i know it isnt always hard to forget it but you could just leave the past in the past. it will always be there lerking in the back of your mind no matter what he does to try to make up for it but i think probably by now he knows he screwed up pretty badly. so give him another chance. not all guys are jerks they may seem that way but they do know when they have done wrong and most of the time if they want to stya in the relationship they wont do it again. hope this helps
Isabeth
2006-09-22 12:27:14 · answer #2 · answered by isabeth_justin 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's a liar! Why else would be be recording a naked girl like that on his camera phone? I guess it depends on if you want to give him a second chance. Although if he's still saying he didn't have sex, he's still lying to you and how can you have a relationship if there's no trust?
2006-09-22 12:26:39 · answer #3 · answered by Su 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well if you guys are working it out then that is cool but from what you described i would definately get checked for STD's. that is the 1st thing that comes to mind after hearing that story. i highly doubt he didn't have sex with her. if he showing improvment then that is good try to give him a chance for your son but watch him real close and if he does it again that means he'll never change so don't waste your time.
2006-09-22 12:26:08 · answer #4 · answered by lynne 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well let him know what your feeling, thats really the only way your gonna get over it. Tell him you want to know details of that night, how he met her, why he video taped and so on.
And you'll do what you will with the information he gives you.
2006-09-22 12:22:16 · answer #5 · answered by Melia 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm not sure....because when my first hubby cheated on me....I never was able to forgive completely.
I think he probably was with her...but he will never admit it to you. If you are still upset...you probably feel it in your heart that he did.
Maybe he won't again...you can only hope. It's up to you if you want to give him another chance....but I wouldn't again if he does anything again.
2006-09-22 12:25:50 · answer #6 · answered by Me 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Stay away from him. Of course they had sex. And once a cheater always a cheater.
2006-09-22 12:22:49 · answer #7 · answered by ♥ady_8e_80♥ 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Forget about it - life is too short.
2006-09-22 12:23:52 · answer #8 · answered by bad_bob_69 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
don't worry about it unless he asks you to do the same thing
2006-09-22 12:21:02 · answer #9 · answered by orygunduk1 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
forgive but don't forget
2006-09-22 12:25:03 · answer #10 · answered by mizsinister 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋