My husbsnd and i have been marrired for 4yrs, For the past yr, or so, he has not wanted to have sex as much. soon it became never.He says its not me, that he loves me, But he has been having proublems with his feet and legs. He has proublems walking. He went to doctor, But the doctor said it was just a sprain, thats been 6 months or so and it hasnt got better.Could this cause him to not feel like sex? Or do you think he just dont love me anymore?
2006-09-22 05:11:24 · 22 answers · asked by serina b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I live with pain, and I dont ever feel like it much cuz it calls for movement and that may be his problem as well. Unless its never, then something is up with him. You need to have a long talk with him, get to the truth.
2006-09-22 05:14:31 · answer #1 · answered by ~~ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well is he diabetic? sounds like he could be having circulation problems and is just too embarassed that little willie may not be willing if you know what I mean. So.. he should go get a full physical.
There are two other possiblities
1 - he is just too stressed out. he can't relax enough to even think of sex. Again.. he should see someone about reducing the stress - dr. , councelor, someone
2 - he is getting it from someone else. The typcial male response when they are having an affair is to decrease the ammount of sex at home.
I hope its one of the other two, but then again... those are medical conditions that may be life threatening while the last one is just relationship endind.. so I guess its up to you to decide which is the worse case.
In short.. have him get a physical then go from there.. if it isn't medical then you may need to start investigating what he is doing with his time...and who he is doing it with.
2006-09-22 05:20:04 · answer #2 · answered by .... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a lot of variables to problems like this. Depending on how much pain he is in, i doubt very much that a sprain is going to stop his sexual desires. It could be a number of things. You did'nt say how old he is. Is he making excuses to leave the house? Is he coming home from work later than usual? And it could be something medical that could be treated. But, don't just assume that it's you or that he just does'nt love you. Talk to him about it and try to gather more information before you pass judgement on yourself or him.
2006-09-22 05:33:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is sick, and it is more than just a sprain, He may need to go back to the doctor. Try and be supportive of him, he needs you more now, then ever. It may be a good idea for you to go to the doctor with, him, and express your concerns. And just because he can't operate in the sex thing, does not mean he does not love you, be their for him. You are suppose to love him, through sickness, and in health.
2006-09-22 05:23:10 · answer #4 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some lower back injuries, like a muscle sprain, pinched nerve, or slipped disk would affect both his ability to walk and his ability to perform. Have your husband visit a chiropractor (talk to your friends first and see if anyone has had experience with any of your local chiropractors).
You might also try a legitimate massage therapist.
Also, you could try learning some massage technique yourself, it might solve both of the problems! ;*) (Remember, there's more to sex than just sex.) Good luck!
2006-09-22 05:19:08 · answer #5 · answered by smendler 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well this is a big deal. I know exactly how you feel for a long time, my boyfriend did not give me oral sex and I thought it was me. Actually its not you if he says it's not. This to me sounds like he is having a affair. I am not married but the father of my child when he started cheating on me with another women he did not care about pleasing me or even fulfilling me. I think he loves you but he may not be sexually attracted to you.
2006-09-22 05:46:06 · answer #6 · answered by kay kay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever thought that you have prb. in the bedroom? Think about this pls.May be he doesnt like smthng that you do in the bedroom.Or you arent enough attractive for him after 4 years marriage.I am sorry but I have to say this.I always say that bedroom prbs are not belong to only man or woman.But I am sure that he couldnt say this to not to break your heart.
2006-09-22 06:56:06 · answer #7 · answered by akdagalper 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is down and lows about marriage!!!! does he kiss you and show affection in other ways but sex??? if he does not just be straight out and talk to him tell him how you feel and ask him what he wants to do about if cuz sprains last two months fore the longest so i think he is alright about it unless he hurt his back too just talk it out and fix the problem now before its too late???
2006-09-22 05:16:18 · answer #8 · answered by *********** 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say this but if your husband doesn't want to have sex its probably a bad sign. MOST men want to have sex very frequently. It sounds like you need to have a serious talk with him about whats going on. It just sounds fishy to me.
2006-09-22 05:14:01 · answer #9 · answered by Dirty.Little.Secret. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His lack of sexual arousal has nothing to do with his love for you. It could be physical or psychological, but either way he should talk to a professional about it. Before THAT happens however, YOU need to express to him your concerns.
2006-09-22 05:14:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋