The kids are 4 and 6.
2006-09-22 04:45:26 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Is it really loveless or is it just a down slump in your marriage? The children weather married or not will always have both parents... it just may not be able to happen in the same home.
2006-09-22 04:47:47 · answer #1 · answered by Tricia P 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are setting an example to your children. What they see now may possibly be the same position they might be in years from now. How would you want them to handle it? Stay in a loveless marriage? My suggestion is to set a positive example and show that a marriage is worth fighting for... do counseling. IThen...if everything you try still fails, you need to show your children that you still love them and be a strong person for them by putting them into a positive environment... even if that means leaving your spouse. I read once about bringing up boys, "no father in the house is better than a father who is abusive or emotionally not there." You need to raise your children in an emotionally stable environment. I know that can be very hard to do. A breakup is very difficult for all involved, especially for the first couple years, but it seems to be easier on younger children than older.
2006-09-22 06:14:44 · answer #2 · answered by maryquast 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is truly loveless, I would say divorce. My parents stayed in a loveless marriage for over 20 years. They had 5 kids and we all have issues with relationships. None of us are married or have children. You have the choice to teach your children whatever you want.
2006-09-22 04:59:42 · answer #3 · answered by Georgia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's better to love each other for the sake of the kids.
No matter how hard you think it is you can recover, unless abuse is involved then you should get away for safety sake. Children are very perceptive. Remember, they've studied your every move and facial expression since birth. You can't hide anything from them. You and your spouse should get counseling and recapture why you fell in love in the first place or develop a love that you never had to begin with. Only this will give your children a 'better' life.
You must seek Christ. With Christ all things are possible. He can fix a broken heart as well as a broken home.
2006-09-22 04:58:52 · answer #4 · answered by crystalonyx3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe it's better to get divorced rather than stay in a loveless marriage because in the long run, it does more harm to your children than good and kids are very smart these days and know more than they lead on to.
2006-09-22 04:49:20 · answer #5 · answered by Yahoo Anwers 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every situation is different. By being in a loveless marriage, do you mean that there is still communication, but no "spark"? If that's the case, stay in the marriage until the kids are a little older. Being a parent is about making sacrifices.
If there is abuse or infidelity, then yes, get a divorce.
2006-09-22 04:51:12 · answer #6 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It is harder on the children to see a loveless marriage than it is to get a diverce and move on. I know from experience that a divorce is sometimes the best thing for a child.
2006-09-22 04:48:07 · answer #7 · answered by twopastmidnight 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have been in this situation for about the last 30 years. I stayed because of the kids and hoped that my wife would open her eyes and change,all to no avail. I am now 58 years old and too old to find someone else and regret not leaving years ago when I was much younger. My advice to you is to get out while you are young and live your life the way you want. Do not make the mistake that I made and surrender your needs and desires for everyone else.
2006-09-22 04:56:14 · answer #8 · answered by unionjack07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What the hell does loveless marriage mean. It means TWO people are not showing love. One of those would be you. Leaving the marriage will never work because you will still be following yourself around.
Be a Great Parent to your kids and get off your *** and make your marriage a GREAT one.
2006-09-22 04:52:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
ummm, I don't see living with someone you hate as setting a good example for kids. Nor do I see putting up with needless bull-sh!t as setting a good example for kids. Catch what I mean?
Life is too short to live like that. YOU deserve happiness as well as your children. "If mama aint happy--aint nobody gonna be happy"!! (words to live by) good luck
Would you want your children to live in a dull/loveless marriage or household when they grow up? Life is about change----sure it would be hard on children, but don't they need to learn sometime that life is hard, and doesn't always go like we want it to???? In my opinion: children who are "sheltered" from things like this don't adapt well to the "real" world when they are grown up. Just my experience.......
Not that I'm all for divorce or anything---but the younger your kids are the better they'll adjust. Divorce is waayyyyyy harder on adolescent/ teens than kids of yours' ages.
2006-09-22 04:51:15 · answer #10 · answered by Jenintn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋