2006-09-22 04:42:23 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Tell him that if he doubts you that you'll be willing to get a paternity test once the baby is born.
2006-09-22 04:44:33 · answer #1 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First gain some self respect. The baby is yours. If the baby's father (not baby daddy) does not believe you, or he chooses to listen to others he does so for one of the following reasons:
1. He doesn't respect or trust you and is willing to listen to anyone other than you. If this is the case, you don't want him arouind... you carry on with the pregnancy, keep track of pregnancy related bills (medical) and then sue him for support.
2. He is not prepared to be a father and he doesn't want to be. If this is the case you might not want him around either. Follow the above advice.
tell him you are certain and that if he doesn't trust you, you are willing to prove it to him once the baby is born and that until that time there will be no further discussion or accusations.
Please for the sake of the baby, don't get caught up in that Jerry Springer crap. It is never cool or interesting, the people always look uneducated, ghetto and deserving of their situation.
Carry your head high and love that baby.
2006-09-22 12:51:08 · answer #2 · answered by artful dodger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through the same thing when I was pregnant with my son. He showed up at the hospital when I had him and then we didn't see him for two months. After that he saw him regularly for 4 years, then I went to Domestics to get child support, he said he didn't think the kid was his ( it took him 4 years to say something?) So he got his paternity test and what do you know- he's the father...hmmm how did that happen? Now he's a dead beat dad, doesn't pay, but in our state you don't pay you go to jail...so sad. I have moved on and have a wonderful man in my life who I am about to marry. And he has taken the role of father to my boy, he's his real daddy. It takes more than sperm to be a daddy.
2006-09-22 17:13:34 · answer #3 · answered by babymama 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like most people have said, only thing you can do is wait and get a paternity test. Personally I wouldn't have a kid with some man who doesn't even trust me and prolly won't be there...but that's your choice.
I have to agree with fjonesstarr on another point. Don't birth any more kids with men you aren't married or in a long term with. Thats the best solution to this problem. We already have enough baby mamas in the world to keep Maury Povich rich and famous for decades.
2006-09-22 12:57:36 · answer #4 · answered by xoxo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can do the following:
Not get pregnant by men who aren't going to support you. -This one you'll have to wait a while to use, but it's still good advice.
Put the baby up for adoption when its born. He won't be able to protest if he won't accept paternity.
Have an abortion - last resort please!
Force a paternity test and have him pay child support. Keep in mind though that in general guys like this won't do a damn thing to help out and you'll have to go through dozens of hoops just to get the money.
Suck up the fact that you messed up and move on with your life without the babydaddy if you can't get the paternity test done.
2006-09-22 12:11:38 · answer #5 · answered by fjonesstarr 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
DNA test 100% full proof .Usually when they denie it is thiers they just don't want the responsability. Don't stress or act like it bothers you just say ok .When thebabycomes make him take the test then take him to the cleaners.Even if he stops dening the kid make him take the test,that way you have a legal leg to stand on if the subject should ever arise again this way you ,and ur child are protected.MEN ARE PIGS!
2006-09-22 11:51:51 · answer #6 · answered by Alicia S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that if he doesn't think that it is his baby that he can come up with the $800 to have a DNA test done when the baby is born. It can be dangerous to the baby to try to have the test done while pregnant.
2006-09-22 12:03:42 · answer #7 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well if you are pregnant then u can always do a DNA test. The doctors can do a DNA test once you get so far into your pregnancy, but it is really risky. Either that or just wait til after you have the baby.That's what i did, and of course he felt really stupid.
2006-09-22 12:19:09 · answer #8 · answered by Amanda S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since YOU know the truth, there's nothing YOU need to do. If he is choosing to believe those others, he can pay for a DNA test, or let them pay for it if he chooses. Once the truth is out, you can ditch him for not trusting you. If there is no trust in a relationship, the relationship is going nowhere.
2006-09-22 11:47:27 · answer #9 · answered by kj 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take him to the Maury Povich TV show and have a paternity test done on him. That way when it is proven that you have his child HIT HIM WITH CHILD SUPPORT
2006-09-22 11:48:35 · answer #10 · answered by ead824 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋