how do u stop from being too too nice?

Question

PLZ HELP ME!!!!!! IM WAY TOO TOO NICE!!! AND I JUST CAN'T SAY NO TO MY FRIENDS IM AFRAID TO HURT THEIR FEELINGS!

HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 1

Hey baby girl, chill. You should never let ppl take advantage of you, afterall if you want to succeed in this dog eat dog life you have to place yourself before everyone else. You say NO and don't need to or have to explain anything to anyone. Sounds like they don't care about ur feelings or thoughts. If that's the case, they are not really your freinds. You shouldnt let anyone walk all over you like that. Do you have low self esteem? Are you at peace with yourself?

Answer 2

It seems as though you are locked into this lifestyle now. It must run its course. Something might interceed and change it. Until that happens the only thing I can say to you is good luck. Is this what you wanted to hear? Is this the answer you were looking for? Probably not. Then you know what you have to do. Start opening up your mouth and saying no. Then you'll find out if they're really your friends.

Answer 3

Why not try practising a few key sentences? Some examples:

"I wish I could, but I'm swamped right now"
"Does it have to be done now? I could help you later" (like tomorrow etc - by then maybe they'd have it done

I can't right now, sorry"

In other words, you'll turn them down, but you can do it in a non-nasty way. In the beginning, you'll feel badly and be tempted to change your mind, change your plans. Don't! Stick to your guns - when you're busy you're busy.

On the other hand, don't lose sight of the fact that you like helping people. There's nothing wrong with that. When you can, and you feel like you want to, go for it!

Answer 4

I'm sorry to say this, but by your description, you're not too nice, you're too weak.

Practice saying NO in a polite way. Say it over and over so that the next time a (so called) friend asks you for something you can be ready to say "I'm sorry, NO, I cant help you."
Ive been where you are and it was only practice and application that helped me to cease to be weak and walked all over by so-called friends and strangers.

Answer 5

Hi. I work in IT. Part of my job is to say "no". As in, "No, you can't have your own printer." or "No, you don't need a laptop to work as a receptionist." and my favorite "No, I can't just forget about the porn I found on your hard drive.".

I say "no" all of the time. Here is how I say no:

Look the person straight in the eyes
Turn your head to the left, and then to the right.
Say the word "No" firmly.
Repeat until the person leaves.

Answer 6

Yes, I find that sometimes I am too nice myself. The key is to know where to draw the line. If your friends continue to try to get you to do things that you aren't comfortable with, or treat you bad even though you are nice to them, you need to be firm yet polite with them. Tell them that you aren't a doormat and that you wish to be treated fairly like you treat them.

Answer 7

I had similar problems. My boyfriend told me i was too nice and for me to get a backbone and i did and now i have no friends. Keep being nice that is how everyone sees you and to be able to tell someone no try it sometimes its okay.

Answer 8

I am the same way. My boyfriend tells me all the time I need to learn to say no to people. You just have to take a deep breath, close your eyes and say no. That is what I do so I dont have to see their faces when I say no.

Answer 9

U have to make a firm mind, keep telling urself over n over tht u should stop being nice to all, then u'll succeed.

Answer 10

Practice in the mirror. Say no firmly in a way that leaves no room for discussion. Keep practicing until you get it right.