have no ideal?

Question

ok i live in this small town. well i really big supporter of all the gays. and well there are at least 2 that i know of at my school. one is harder to tell than the other. and the other well sticks out like a sore thumb.

so ok let's say his name is tom. tom came up to me the other day and started talking to me. sayes like hi and how was i doing. and well let's saye i stood there like a idiot. i didn't know what to talk bout. i didn't know if i should tell that i knew or what. and now i see him in and round the school and everytime i see him i replay the whole conversation in my head. thinking of what i couuld have said and didn't say. i wanna talk to him and all but i don't know what i could say.

i thought bout that if i like got a gay pride neclace and wore he might now. or might get a shirt that sayes think PINK life too short to being thinking BLACK and WHITE. or THINK PINK i think outside the box. but i dunno. . geez this i a hard one usually i know what to say. but i dunno

Answer 1

Why couldn't just talk to him like you would anybody else? Do you talk to straight people exclusively about their sex lives? Probably not. He is still a person, I am sure he thinks about other things than his sexual preference. If he talked to you, he obviously finds himself comfortable around you, so you don't need to cover yourself in rainbow stickers to show that you support his lifestyle. That's not really necessary. You can just be his friend, and not worry about what he does or thinks in his private moments.

Answer 2

hi good question .we are gay and a couple been together forever even in school .why is it so hard too speak too a gay or any other person who is not the same as you in ,relationship,movies,color or looks etc. hey they are human also and maybe one of the best friend you can ever have.we need more love and compassion in this world anyways .just saying hi too someone no matter what or who they are can make a big different in someones life .you can let him or her start the conversion an go with it ,you don't need too bring up there sexually or religion or whatever .we have quite a few friends who don't give a s*** about our being gay .we do things as friends ,movies ,riding our horses ,swimming .and yea sometimes nude .it isn't the person who is different from you that is wrong ,it's you for being narrow minded like a lot of other people .there is good in everyone ,you just got too open your heart and mind and find it .everyone is special in their own way .hope this helps and you become friends and help spread it around that no matter what we are all still a living person

Answer 3

Are you in High School, my advice to you is to not really confrontt him about it, when he is comfortable abouty it he will talk to you about, there is no need for the pride necklace or the shirts....you don't have to go all out like that. If you are a true friend to him then just be his friend and he will come out to you when he is ready, I know that before I was comfortable about it, I had a hard time with people confronting me about it, I would get defensive and everything. Just be a friend, that is the best support you can give to a young person that may pr may not be gay....good luck.

Answer 4

You remind me of the 13 year old girl who was complaining that she couldn't get her 14 year old boy friend to commit to an exclusive relationship.

You, and he, may still have some exploring to do. Stretch yourselves. You are too young to be wearing a straight-jacket. It is like you are saying you already know you will be in the Crips street gang, a Republican, and a Presbyterian for all of the rest of your life and you've only recently started puberty. Bring it down a notch.

Answer 5

There's no need for you wear gay pride necklace or pink triangle or any gay connotation. All you have to do is say HI and make conversation just like you would any of your friends. You don't have to tell him that you know he's gay, because you're not 100% sure. Let him tell you if he really is gay. And just because somebody is gay, doesn't mean all they know and talk about is being gay.

Answer 6

jenniferphariss,
"one is harder to tell than the other. and the other well sticks out like a sore thumb. "
LOL!

You could have been taken as rejecting him. I think that you do need to talk to him, because it seems that it bothers you. If there is any even in the school, you might try to ask him to go with you. Or just tell him that you hope that you didn't offend him last time he talked to you, you just didn't know what to say.

You can repair this, just tell yourself," This is going to work out fine."

Answer 7

I have no "ideal" what your talking about. So many typos and misspelled words. It's so nonsensical. Sounds like the ravings of a teenage girl. I always need an interpreter to understand them.


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Answer 8

Ever consider treating him as a "Person"? People want to be liked, wanted, whatever for being a person, not because they happen to belong to a minority.
Would you want to be someones friend simply because they were black or chinese?
Be a friend first then support your friends.

Answer 9

if someone was black would you feel like you should bring up something about there race? are indians are orientals, straught people, old people, disabled people.there are all kinds of people . just treat them like people.some gays WONT to be all gay, and wont people to notice them .some don t. there are blacks who wont to talk about there race, let them talk, I just realize they are people.all people have a right to be any way they wont ya'll

Answer 10

Unless it matters to you, why mention it? If you become closer in friendship, he'll tell you. If not, he doesn't think you need to know.

Do you talk about your sex life with him?