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I have been married for 2 years and recently became involved with an 18 year old schoolboy in america through the internet. We talk on the phone most nights and we have arranged for me to visit him in the states for a week. We both feel that we could become more emotionally involved and want to fall in love. I am in a major dilemma morally and responsibly. I think this must be a sign that I no longer love my husband but am confused about how I feel and what is the right thing to do. If I lose my husband I will have no financial support which means moving in with my parents or the 18 yr old - what if this all goes wrong? What should I base my decision making on, my happiness or my security? I cannot control my feelings for the 18 yr old much longer and I have his assurance that he feels exactly the same. Happiness is my priority but is it worth risking losing everything I have in my life now? If I leave my husband I can't go back - what if I make the wrong decision? Please help!!!

2006-09-22 04:17:45 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

12 answers

DYSFUNCTIONAL.

2006-09-22 04:34:11 · answer #1 · answered by nwnativeprincess 6 · 0 0

Why don't you find out what is wrong with your relationship with your husband. You are married for only two years but you have started losing interest for him and now found a boy of 18. But remember that a boy of 18 has not seen the world and only started seeing it. You should not be a reason for him to fail in his life. If you tell him pointblank that you are no more interested in a relationship with him he will definitely feel bad, but that he will overcome it shortly. You have not even seen him so far. He must be studying, I suppose. But for God's sake, do not tamper with his life. Consider him as your younger brother. Now, you may also turn to your husband and have an extensive talk and find out why you had to fall for a boy of 18. Re-bridge the missing links with your husband and start afresh. Remember, any problem can be solved by talking extensively about it, of course between you two. All the best.

2006-09-22 04:34:38 · answer #2 · answered by JP 5 · 1 0

How can you fall inlove with someone you've never even seen? I find this odd.Maybe you need to work things out with your husband.Are you having issues in your marriage? What has driven you to meet other guys online? I must reassure you that internet dating isn't always safe;even if it's with a 18 yr.old. I have never been in your situation , so uhmmm..I can't judge you nor your situation.When meeting this Guy, make sure you let someone know where you're going.Not to scare you or anything, but you don't really know the guy.Do you know anyone in the states? You sound a bit Naiive for someone your age.How do you know if he's really 18? Please think about this a little;your safety is involved.

2006-09-22 04:28:22 · answer #3 · answered by Jessie006 1 · 1 0

HE'S 18!!! 'nough said. that's the lust talking in him...and maybe you too. at 18 your just starting to learn about life......cut all communication w/ this BOY!!!! are you even talking to your husband? you've only been married 2 years,do you not think it's worth fighting for??find other ways to occupy your time, go to school, or get a job.if your on the phone at night w/ this teenager then your husband knows something is going on. get off the computer and talk to your husband for a change!!!

2006-09-22 06:42:15 · answer #4 · answered by bama g 2 · 1 0

You should not break up your marriage for a person you haven't even met face-to-face. You may think that you know him really well, but what if he's nothing like what he said he is? I hate to be extreme, but what if he's really some 60 year old pervert or a criminal or somebody? The internet could be a dangerous place! But most likely he's not. But you should feel lucky that you have a spouse who cares about you. For that, I don't recommend breaking your relationship with your husband. Instead, you could try marriage counseling. :)

2006-09-22 04:22:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2 0

Seek psychiatric help. There is no 18 year old american male that has the brains to pour warm wee-wee out of a boot if the instructions were written on the heel. I can't find words to describe how dumb they really are; and if he is spending his time nattering with you on the internet instead of working or chasing girls then he probably weighs in at 350 pounds and his parents have locked him in the attic for their own safety.

2006-09-22 05:03:24 · answer #6 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 1 0

It looks like u are using your husband. You are taking advantage of him emotionally and financially. You need to tell your husband. But if the 18 year might me "the one" even though there are no 18 year olds that are ready for that kind of commitment then i suppose you go for it..




Tell your husband.

2006-09-22 04:23:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3 0

you married your husband not the 18 year old..think about this very seriously..you know as well as anyone else that to truly know someone is to be with them in person..to see what they are like as people and how they are to live with..i met my husband online and trust me as much as i love him i can honestly say that the person i met online has nothing to do with the man that i love...

2006-09-22 04:36:46 · answer #8 · answered by malanina 2 · 1 0

You should buy XM Radio and listen to the Opie and Anthony Show on XM 202.

2006-09-22 04:48:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

You need to talk to your husband because it sounds like you are just lonly. The boy does not know what he wants at 18. Are you ready to raise him because that is what it will come to.

2006-09-22 04:34:14 · answer #10 · answered by cowboy 3 · 2 0

This is worse than earning your redwings there champ....you are a f*cking retard...i bet you have terrible teath because you are english!

2006-09-22 05:08:22 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1 1

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