Someone plz help me,....I am in love with my ex-Husband still. I have screamed out his name, cried myself to sleep, ..... we had a very close, and loving relationship. DRUG ABUSE was what broke us up,...as he had several back surgeries. He is clean now. What do I do to let him know I still love him??
2006-09-22 04:12:05 · 10 answers · asked by SherryB 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Most of your responses so far are pretty inane. If you still love this guy, then you must love being a door mat. I'm thinking you love your image of him, not what he really is, and when you accept that, you can move on (unless , of course,you wish to continue in a painful relationship --- and, face it, many people do). Just on the outside chance that you would like to be in a loving relationship, get yourself into therapy, and find out why you like abuse -- for starters, your self esteem must be lower that a snake's belly in a wheel rut. Why, may I ask, would you ever consider going back into an abusive situation....this makes no sense to me....You must love pain, or have no idea what it is like to not carry this weight.....
And how does one find someone appropriate? Ever think of the internet? If you need to loose some weigh, get started. If you don't have a killer smile, see the best cosmetic dentist in your area. Get to Nordstrom, or Dillard's or some other top notch store and buy some really great clothes -- yup, spend (invest, actually) some buckos on yourself. Have some great photos taken and put up a profile on Match.com, or Yahoo Personals. If your attitude needs an adjustment, get it. There are just tons of guys out there who are clean, and have been in your shoes. And they are looking for a solid relationship. (Yup, and a few loonies, too, just like those sitting next to you in church.) Use caution where you meet them ( always in a public place). You won't find Mr. Perfect right away, but he is out there. However, you have some(no, actually a lot!!!!) of "housekeeping" to do on yourself before you yourself are an appropriate companion to anyone.... Good luck, sweetie
2006-09-22 05:24:26 · answer #1 · answered by ladyren 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you left him due to your drug abuse label. If he got hooked as a result of surgery you might have been a bit rash moving out. Sounds like you made this bed now lie in it.
2006-09-22 04:54:40 · answer #2 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Funny, your blog said abuse. Hardly sounds like a very close and loving relationship.
2006-09-22 04:22:33 · answer #3 · answered by ready4it45 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find out FOR SURE if he is clean and is even interested in being with you. If he's not clean or interested get some counseling to help you get over him.
2006-09-22 04:23:26 · answer #4 · answered by MCS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give him what you did 14 yrs ago and remind him why he married you to begin with
2006-09-22 04:15:06 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
how do you know he is clean?? is he with someone else??
try to be friends, ask to the movies,, talk,, communcation is the key
2006-09-22 04:14:29 · answer #6 · answered by rich2481 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe try asking him to go to counsling, tell him you would like to try and you still care for him
2006-09-22 05:23:45 · answer #7 · answered by wanda h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just look into his eyes and he'll know... true love can never be hidden
2006-09-22 04:23:46 · answer #8 · answered by green_n6 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lets have a 3some!
2006-09-22 04:18:05 · answer #9 · answered by charlie_walks 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him.
2006-09-22 04:29:00 · answer #10 · answered by ladybug.girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋