2006-09-22 03:45:36 · 11 answers · asked by FMW 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
For those out there who think the spouse is the wife, I just want to clarify that its my husband or at least soon to be ex-husband.
2006-09-22 03:59:37 · update #1
First off, I DO NOT agree with kitkat, but we are all entitled to our opinions. I do agree with the rest of your answers at this point. Doing that really makes her look bad. The only advice that I can give you is to keep that situation out of your mind as much as possible while you are deployed. Those are very rough conditions over there and you need to stay focused so you can come home alive!!! Thanks so much for what you do for our country and keep your head held high!
2006-09-22 03:59:18 · answer #1 · answered by surelycoolgirl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they can't handle the fact that you are deployed and maybe not coming back. With heavy coverage of the things that are going on overseas. This can work on someone's last nerves. The stress of this war and with the every day threat of terrorism might be too much for some people. I personally think that your spouse should wait at least until you get back to the states. You have enough to worry about without trying to deal with divorce proceedings. If you can, please ask your spouse to at least wait til you get back to the states, so you two can talk about it. Good luck.
2006-09-22 03:53:45 · answer #2 · answered by kitcat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well my husband is military and deployed and i think there are a number of reasons why he would ask for a divorce. 1. mayb because you are gone for so long and he believes that he needs somone who will be there for him all the time.2. maybe he has met somone who he would rather be with. anyway it goes i feel like since you are away defending our country the ALL spouses of military should be strong and stick together. I use to think about leaving my husband because he is never here and is missing out on our kids lives, but then i have to remember that i cannot be selfish, our country needs him too. may GOD bless you for what you are doing.
2006-09-22 04:46:22 · answer #3 · answered by wichita25falls 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok. Take a deep breath. Life hands out unxexpected events. Make up your mind to be ok. You cant control someone elses behavior. Emotional pain is very hard. Surrender it to God. Seek refuge for yourself. Take care of you. One day at a time. Right now you have other things to worry about. Do not allow this to consume you. Focus on you. You can love at a distance. Find peace thru seeking. Don't run, meditate on your higher power. Seek support from family and friends. Do not allow depression to root. Choose to see everything fine. Cause basically its out of your hands.
2006-09-22 06:45:17 · answer #4 · answered by bohowdy323 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First let me say thank you for your service. I'm sorry to hear that this has happened to you. Although I don't know the reasons for her decision I have to disapprove of her timing. I believe that it is totally unfair for her to put you through this while you are in another country serving for all our freedom. She made vows for better or worse, she should honor those vows. Just remember, not all women are that inconsiderate.
2006-09-22 03:58:29 · answer #5 · answered by Rebecca L 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OMG... I'm so sorry. I hope that you still have someone to support you and send you care packages and stuff. If you don't please let me I would love to send you letters and other fem hygene stuff. Just IM me if you need any thing I will send you my email address.
Second of all... What an a** he doesn't desurve you any ways!
2006-09-22 04:46:15 · answer #6 · answered by A_Soldiers_Wife 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If there are no kids involved, let her go and good riddance.
If there are kids involved, you can either let her keep custody or sue for custody and alimony assuming that she's been cheating on you.
In any case, getting a lowlife like that out of your life can only be good for you.
good luck
2006-09-22 03:51:36 · answer #7 · answered by drumrb0y 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think that is totally awful of her...and rude. How was your relationship before you were deployed? I hope your not deployed somewhere where you are involved in conflict. good luck
2006-09-22 03:51:08 · answer #8 · answered by crazimommi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
for what ever reason she is asking for a divorce i think it is wrong, she should wait till you'll are together and try to work things out, she knew what she got herself into when you'll got married, unless she is having an affair, i am sorry.
2006-09-22 04:09:31 · answer #9 · answered by lala 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
out of site out of mind,, I believe she was planning this while you were here, she has wanted out,, best to CYA<, and come home safe,, there are alot of woman out there, looking for a good guy to fall in love with,
2006-09-22 03:51:03 · answer #10 · answered by rich2481 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋