actually i am a bit nevous. whether shed all of the cloths or not please help
2006-09-22 03:43:42 · 37 answers · asked by nisha 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First off, congratulations. I should hope you will consumate your vows tonight. Since you are obviously a virgin, (I am assuming he knows this) wear a sexy nighty and panties. Then let nature take its course. Its ok to be nervous on your first time. It could hurt. But, if he is a gentleman, he will make it very pleasurable for you. Keep things romantic and slow. Everything will be fine. I promise.
2006-09-22 03:47:53 · answer #1 · answered by Lucky Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A sip of champagne. Be romantic, passionate, exotic (beautiful).
If shedding clothes makes you a little timid, just make sure the lights are low or that you have candles. Even though he may want to see you nude, it doesn't mean that you have to pose for him. At sometime during the night, let the sheets fall off and let him see you as you are - exotic. Get it out of the way. Don't keep hiding or he'll just keep trying to look and maybe even get impatient that he can't see you in the nude. Let him see you and start the relationship out on the right foot.
Don't be nervous and don't let him have all of the control. Be agressive sometimes during the night and tell him what you want and like. Have fun. Don't make it a rigid act. Bond. Tell him if he's pleasing you. And if he's not - use tact and "help" him.
Don't be ashamed - especially if he loves you and is thankful to have you. Let him know that he has a "prize" and show him how lucky he really is by showing him that you're willing to please him.
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2006-09-22 04:11:50 · answer #2 · answered by mo2dajizzo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
AMAZING TODAY IS UR BEST DAY OF UR LIFE & U R ON NET
I HAVE SOME SPECIAL TIPS FOR U
ALL THE BEST
1. Trim the Bushes!!! Hygiene is everything. You need to take care of your love shack before you go in for the first night. This goes for guys and girls. It does not matter if it is the first time for both of you but a well trimmed cabbage patch will get some of the freak factor out of the way. Do not be shy about it either. This is the person you want to spend the rest of your life with.
2. Preparation is everything. Apart from grooming you also need to make sure you smell fresh. Do not expect to come in and see your wife draped in the Sari she has been wearing all day. After the long day of a wedding and reception you are bound to be sweaty and a little stinky. Give each other the time and privacy to get all cleaned up before you try to get romantic. It might be a bit too early for a new couple to just jump into the shower together and wash each other off. Save something for later. Rather, spend time helping her off with all the crazy jewelry she has been wearing, maybe even help take the thick cake of make up off. Afterwards you can kick back in whatever clothes you find comfortable.
3. Set the scene. It is not too cheesy for you to bring in some scented candles, massage oils, and a bottle of wine or champagne into the mix. Bringing in a case of your latest sex toys is NOT cool. There is a lot more time in life to explore those avenues. Keep the first night simple even if both of you cant wait to try all the freaky **** you have read about on the net. A message is a great way to unwind. You could take turns doing each other.
4. Guys, do not expect your new wife to be all timid and shy. This is a new era I tell you. We are all exposed to alternative life styles and she might be the one lifting your Kurta before you can get to her veil. But slow it down. The first night is more important to get to know each other than playing hide the stick. It is better to talk about sex for a while before getting into it, especially if it is your first time. Make use of the wine and candles.
5. You do not HAVE to have sex on your Suhag Raat. You can just as easily make love without penetration. This is like an extended level of foreplay that you can carry on through the entire honeymoon, until that perfect moment when it feels right. The first time for women can be very painful so you must wait till you are both comfortable. A bad experience the first time can leave lasting effects so rushing into it could cause some long term losses if you know what I mean. For both of you.
6. Just because you are engaging your spouse does not mean you should not use contraception. I would think the last thing one would want is to get pregnant right after you are married. It is so much better to enjoy your first few years together without the hassles and responsibilities of child bearing. Roll down the rubber at least until you can sort out some alternate contraception. Not only will a condom an unwanted pregnancy but it also has lubrication which will enable easier first time penetration.
7. There will probably be enormous pressure built up for both of you before the Suhaag Raat. Not just sexual pressure but psychological. I do not know how this affects the chicks, but for guys this can be very bad. You do not want to pull out a limp biscuit on your fist time with the woman you are supposed to spend the rest of your life with. You got to keep cool. This is where taking it slow will also be in your favor. If there is a failure to launch, do not freak out and pop a dozen Viagra. It’s normal. And she should understand that too. Once you decide that you are NOT going to have sex, that will take the pressure off and you can enjoy each other.
8. Lastly, this is your spouse. If you do just dive in to the sex, do not roll over and fall asleep after. Chances are that she will be left in the dark, staring at the ceiling, hearing your tired drunken *** snoring. You do not want the woman you love thinking about how the **** she ended up with you on her Suhaag Raat!
2006-09-24 02:41:28 · answer #3 · answered by sandeep k 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Allow him to discover you. And you start discovering him.
If there is chemistry, things work on their own. No brain and strategy needed dear.
If no chemistry between you two. whatever handsome he is or however beautiful you are. its a mere waste.
enjoy you life as it progresses. Don't be too rigid, If he is rigid have patience.
Puppy need not be tied in early stages. Once its big enough you can chain him/her not to stray over. Hope you got my point.
all the best.
2006-09-22 19:17:56 · answer #4 · answered by RASUNA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulatios! Both of you should be fully dressed and start a game of poker. Who ever loses removes a piece of clothing till both of you are in birthday clothes. If you are in a hurry keep losing baby. Best of luck and a happy coupling.
2006-09-23 05:27:42 · answer #5 · answered by benny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best of luck...If he is wise enough then he will not cause any problem for you but teach you ......and you need not get nervous....Nothing will happen ...Enjoy the night with good mood...Don't let the First Night Go Waste due to yours or his uncomfortably... Be courageous and keep him happy and enjoy happy yourself... Once again Best Of Luck---My Dear Sister!!!
2006-09-22 04:01:55 · answer #6 · answered by NUPAKRY 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You Go Girl i wish you the best in you marriage from the bottom of my heart i really do. Enjoy being with your man have lots and lots of fun when i got married i was like that to but he help me have fun. Yeah alright ooooooooo
2006-09-22 04:38:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is why in cicvilised western societies we encourage people to get to know about sex BEFORE marriage, anyway yes you have to =take everything off eventually, but you can start with some sexy underwear...remember that your husband might also be shy ..this is why your marriage will probably fail as you will not have anyone to compare him with and why should you stay in a marriage where the sex is bad..if you have time, CANCEL the wedding disappear for a few years and get to have many sexual expoeriences then when you know what you are doing. get married if you want. ITS YOUR LIFE AND YOU ONLY HAVE THE ONE..DONT WASTE IT
2006-09-22 03:48:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Go for it, but slowly. Shedding off the clothes shall not be your area of concern. Thats his job. Allow him to do it. You be just concerned that he goes into it very slowly. Initially, it is painful. Later it is heavens. Wish u a happy married life.
2006-09-22 03:50:54 · answer #9 · answered by ramuda 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only One Suggestion.
Never say No , if you want a happy married life
2006-09-22 04:01:11 · answer #10 · answered by toliagoldstar 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋