Here's the sticky part: we've been broken up for about a yr and ½, he's been dating someone else for 6 months, and I have been dating someone for going on 3 months. I thought I was over him, but after I re-established contact, all these emotions came flooding back. I think I should just "suffer in silence," but the "What if?" is always in the back of my mind. It was a mutual break up...& the extenuating circumstances have sorta worked themselves out.
2006-09-22 03:37:28 · 18 answers · asked by yp_mike_saint_paul_121 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
tell him and see what happens. there is no easy-er way.
2006-09-22 03:40:00 · answer #1 · answered by Milos K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This all depends on a lot of things. My ex was a real jerk and soon after our break up I still had flooding feelings, it was just the past creeping up on me. I think you should give it some time and find a friend to talk it out...wait a little while and see what happens...it may have just been that you really didn't get closure back then and you need to find that now. Maybe you should talk it out with him also...he cared about you once so maybe he will be a friend enough to help you figure this out. Try remembering why the break up was mutual....it may not be something you want to go back to. Also this guy may have moved on and may be in a relationship now so he may not even be an option for you...no sense getting yourself all worked up over someone who isn't available to you. Find a way to work through the pain, find closure and move on!
2006-09-22 10:46:19 · answer #2 · answered by Shae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you broke up, it was probably for a good reason.. Was it jealousy or lying, cheating? These things could end up happening again.. Remember it is hard to change and in only a year he is most likley still the same person.. Maybe what it is you are really missing is the intimatcy, the closness and comfort of a stronger relationship.. If it wasn't that bad, and you think maybe things can work out, then you should tell him.. Now the best thing to do would be to ask your friends who knew this guy, ask your family also.. You see love is blind and the ones that love you could see when and if you were being hurt or if the relationship wad a good one or not. Good Luck and pray on it, prayer never hurt anyone..
2006-09-22 10:39:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the first thing you should ask your self is, if you really still love him or are you just happy to be in touch with him again? And if you really still love him I think you should tell him because there is nothing worse then being without the person you really love. In the end if you still love him and he still loves you then the people you two are with right now will end up getting hurt in the long run no matter what. Good luck.
2006-09-22 10:42:35 · answer #4 · answered by sadbeauty887 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can relate to you.I to, still love my ex.Its been 4yrs since i broke up with him.His mother was sick w/ diabetes.She lived w/ us, and was very mean to my children and me.I made a hasty decision, to break up with him. I should have sat him down and , made other arrangements. He begged me not to leave him, and i didn't want to,I loved him so much!!!!And i still miss him after 4yrs! We were together almost 5yrs,And i left just like that! It kills me now cause i miss him so much! Iam married now and my husband is a very good man ,but its not the same. If i were you ,I think i would see if he feels the same, Think long and hard what is the right thing for you and hI'm. If you still love him after 1yr and half.It may not get any easier,look at me,4yrs later I am "suffering in silence" And it hurts, cause im married now,And hes getting married this month. And his cousin told me that he is still in love with me to!But i don't want to hurt my Husband,or my children who have grew to love my husband as a father.So do what you can before its to late.
2006-09-22 11:14:25 · answer #5 · answered by serina b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To tell him now will cause you both alot of trouble.I suggest waiting at least until your both unattached.Also try to limit contact as it will only make you sad.Sorry I could not be more helpful.Also you might consider leaving the Gay lifestyle the longterm effects are devastating.Best wishes.I know this will make people mad but I say it out of kindness.good luck.
2006-09-22 10:44:08 · answer #6 · answered by butterflyspy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, suffer in silence. That is the best thing to do. I am being sarcastic. Tell em how you feel! You won't regret if you do, but you sure as hell will if you don't!
2006-09-22 10:40:52 · answer #7 · answered by ready4it45 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be careful about how I approached this one, he has been dating someone a long time, go with how he is communicating with you at this time, if you say " call me " and he does, then you can progress from there
2006-09-22 10:40:27 · answer #8 · answered by rich2481 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think seriously and realistically about this before doing anything. use your head, not just your heart. If he is with someone, do you know how he feels? He may be in love with that person. Tread carefully.
2006-09-22 10:41:35 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes - tell him. It is better than living with the "what ifs". Then at least you will know and be able to move on - in either direction.
2006-09-22 10:44:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question is does still love u? If yes let him be the one to make the firt move.
goodluck!
2006-09-22 10:42:03 · answer #11 · answered by Miss-Kenya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋