Should i be annoyed?

Question

My best friend has been dating her boyfriend for about five months. About a month ago, she told me she wasn't ready to have sex, as she still felt too young. When i told her about my friends who have been dating for a year, who when they decided to have sex attended a health clinic together, discussed and got the pill, she said she could never do something like that, as she would be too embarrassed. However, i've heard she has told a few people that she hardly even knows she has now had sex, but specifically said she hadn't told me.She has not long turned 15. It might not be my business to know, but should i be worried? Or annoyed that she is telling random people, but not me?

Answer 1

Maybe she is embarrassed to tell you...

Answer 2

i think that you are taking this too personally...but you know her and i don't. follow your instincts, but try to think of the other side of it. Maybe she just doesn't want to tell you that she didn't take your advice. Kinda along the lines of embarrassment, but not quite. Some people feel bad about not taking given advice, especially if it was from a friend that they like. Also, maybe she feels that you will think less of her for doing things the way she did. (note: Also keep in mind that advice will not always be taken. Advice is just that...advice. Used properly, you will listen to the advice, think about it and the pros and cons, and then decide wether or not you think it would work for you). Don't be offended if you find out that she didn't take your advice. She's not your kid or anything. Nobody has to do what you say. You're not God. You're just a chick who thinks that she knows how to deal with some stuff. Try talking to her privately. Tell her very calmly your concerns, (that she hasn't told you the things that she's told other people). Make SURE that this actually bothers you first, (seems pretty petty to me though). Tell her that your friendship is more important than whether or not she took your advice and that because she is your friend, you will be her friend no matter what she does, whether or not you agree with it.

Answer 3

Your friend is probably embarrassed to tell you because you're her best friend. It's easy to tell people that you don't know your secrets because that person doesn't even know you or your life story. You could sit down and talk to her and find out why she didn't tell you. Hear what she has to say. After all, she is your best friend. Reassure her that you will be there for her and you love her. Make yourself look like the person that she feels comfortable talking to. You do have every right to feel annoyed because you weren't the first person she told about her having sex. Just talk to her. Everything will be fine.

Answer 4

Yes she is suppose to be your best friend and best friends tell each other stuff like that she is probably ashamed of telling you but have a talk with her tell her that you know that she has had sex and that you are just looking out for her well being if she takes it the wrong way oh well she will eventually get over it

Answer 5

She might be embarresed because she told you that she was not ready for sex and that she would not go to a clinic, maybe she feels bad for not taking your advice.

Answer 6

I think you're too involved in your friend's life, and maybe this is her way of letting you know that. Look how judgmental you're being--maybe she just doesn't feel she wants to deal with this from you.

Answer 7

girl, the hardest people to tell our secrets are the ones we care about..... it's easy opening up to people you barely know cause, i just said it, they barely know you...... she might probably be embarrassed that's why she doesn't tell you..... give her time..... you don't even know if what she's telling the others are true or not....... you'll know the truth soon.....