She hasn't paid rent, abandoned her stuff and her dog.I gave her 2 weeks to find a new place, last Sat, the 16th at 9 am was deadline. Haven't seen or heard from her until yesterday when she called and said she was coming to get her stuff today. She cussed me horribly. The law says I do not have to allow her to get anything. She aboned it so oh well. But I feel guilty, with the exception that she stole my jewlery and pawned it.Any advice?
2006-09-22 03:27:59 · 22 answers · asked by abncgirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Oh geez that sucks...If you gave her notice and she doesnt show up, i guess there is always thrift stores to donate the stuff to...but the dog, i hope you can find a home for it...
2006-09-22 03:40:51 · answer #1 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why in the world would you feel guilty? She has had no, none, nada, respect for you and now, because you are doing what you should she cusses you out.
You are confusing this girl with a friend. She is not! Not even close. You are someone to take advantage of for as long as you will put up with it and then move on.
It is bad enough that she didn't pay the rent, abandoned her stuff and dog, but she stole from you. She has taken you for all she can and you feel guilty?
Please STOP that.
Set another deadline for her to pick her things up and if she doesn't, give her stuff to goodwill. If you can't keep the dog give it to someone who wants it or to the pound. You are right about the law, you owe her nothing! She owes you allot.
She is very lucky that you have not pressed charges against her for all she has done. A lot of people would.
Next roommate.......please get to know them first. Hard to do I know but get to know their family and there you will know her, maybe.
2006-09-22 10:45:36 · answer #2 · answered by John B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your roommate...the one you share your living space with, the one that is left alone around your stuff sometimes, etc. should be trustworthy whether it be with your stuff or stuff they are telling you. If you can't trust the person you live with, they should be put out. Give them the full 30 days as required by law for "eviction", that way if this person would take this as far as court, you will be covered in all ways, and will not have to feel guilty. As far as keeping their stuff, if you feel the need to do so, only keep stuff that the adds up to the value of the stuff that you know this person took from you, nothing more. If you don't know for sure that this person took stuff from you or you know that it could possibly have been someone else, look into it further. Find out for sure, or let it go. Think like courts do...can you prove it? That's what it all comes down to. if you can prove it, you are entitled. If you can't prove it, you have to bite the bullet and just let it be a lesson learned. Do a little more research in finding your next roommate.
2006-09-22 15:02:32 · answer #3 · answered by kharmaangel328 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of her. She is looking for someone to enable her. You do not need or deserve this treatment. She is rude and arrogant. She believes that the world owes her a living. She apparently has a sense of entitlement. She sounds as though she is spoiled, lazy and rude. She has a lot of growing up to do. The only way she will grow up, is to make it on her own and be self supporting. The more people do for her, the more she expects. She has a lot of baggage and could use some counseling. It sounds as though she may have resentment towards her family too. She is hurt inside and is out to pay back the world for her pain. She is revengeful and dangerous. Be careful, if need be call the authorities and have her and her belongings police escorted out. Have the locks changed and if she harasses you take action. You could go to the pawn shop and identify your jewelry and turn her in for theft. Do you have photos or proof of the jewelry, does it have engravings etc to identify it? Be careful with future roommates. Get good references and really know the person before committing to sharing your personal space. Take an inventory and photos of your belongings in case this should happen again. Consider rental insurance to insure you belongings in case things are broken or stolen in the future. If she becomes violent get a restraining order on her. Inform your landlord of the situation. Be safe and best of resolution to this awful situation.
2006-09-22 10:42:10 · answer #4 · answered by Shayna 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gather up the stuff of hers that you are willing to let her have. Tell her a specific time she can come for her stuff. Have this waiting at the door when she arrives. Give it to her. DON"T let her into the apartment. Don't feel guilty. You haven't done anything wrong. It would be nice if you had a friend with you when she comes, in case she tries to start trouble. Change the locks on the doors!
2006-09-22 10:35:26 · answer #5 · answered by lollipop 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get that broad (and she is one) out of your life and move on. Give her all of her stuff so that you do not have to deal with her anymore in life. Don't try to make her miserable because you'll only make yourself miserable constantly thinking about the whole situation. You have other things to worry about and focus on without adding or keeping a scrub in your life.
Just tell her, "Hey, I don't mean any harm. It just didn't work out. And I wish you all the best in life," and then...
Let it go...
Don't keep any drama going on in your life. She wants to go. Let her go and be done with it.
Have the police or friends or whoever you need over there to help you two move that stuff out. Then, make sure she has everything. Be cool unless she acts like she wants to start some drama. But be the first to show you have some class about the situation.
"She's a loser and needs help - but you ain't her keeper and nobody's fool." - Keep that in your head.
Brother DzL (AsP)
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2006-09-22 10:37:01 · answer #6 · answered by mo2dajizzo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell her to go ahead and come if she wants her stuff, but that the cops are watching your place and that if anything happens she will be responsible.You don't want her stuff anyway, its just a remnder of her horrible existence. Get it all ready and on the door step for her, oh and make sure you change the locks. Then moove on with your life, you will be better off. Good luck!!
2006-09-22 10:34:05 · answer #7 · answered by shell7024 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was me would of beat her down for stealing from me then told her to get her stuff and get out. If she didn't come get it then it would be out in the trash, and if she has a problem with that then you tell her "You should of had came and got it when I informed you this is not a storage place."
2006-09-22 10:45:51 · answer #8 · answered by ebonikaf 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The sooner you get rid of her, the better. Seriously consider changing your locks and getting a restraining order. Do not let her into the house alone, as you may have other belongings disappear.
2006-09-22 10:30:27 · answer #9 · answered by Jenyfer C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it is not wrong, in fact I highly recommend it, keep her stuff for the back rent and the stuff she stole and keep her dog for it's own protection!!! Good Luck!!
2006-09-22 10:32:55 · answer #10 · answered by perplexed 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋