my best friends dad is really sick, he has very high blood pressure, the doctors don't know why it's so high so he has to go out of the country for medical treatment. my friend is so upset, what can i do to help??? i keep saying i hope he gets better soon but i just feel so useless!!!!
2006-09-22 03:27:16 · 18 answers · asked by before&after 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
There is nothing you can do to make him/her feel better. Maybe he/she doesn't want to feel better. Maybe he/she is too busy worrying about his/her dad to be worried about himself/herself. You can just be a friend and be there for him/jher. Nothing you can say will make him/her feel better but you can help him/her get through it by just letting them talk to you. You don't have to give any advice. Pray for his/her dad and let them know it. That is the best thing you can do for his dad. Also, ask others to pray for him too and let your friend know it. This may give him comfort.
2006-09-22 03:30:59 · answer #1 · answered by Dominika 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear about your friend's dad's illness. But that is out of your hands and it's not you're fault. What your friend needs right now is a company... you just being there for him is already sufficient. Your friend will not expect more from you. Expressing to him your sincereness as hoping for his dad to recover is already enough. It's not useless at all. Friends don't expect more from friends... friends rather accept what friends can offer, especially when offered with open hearts. You can offer him a prayer for his dad... I think that's the best thing you can do for him right now.
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2006-09-22 11:15:28 · answer #2 · answered by Mike N. D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is be there for your friend and listen if your friend needs to talk about it. Maybe you could also try to talk about some other things or do things that could help get your friend's mind off the worry for a little while.
Your friend knows that you care and hope the father gets better. Just try to relax a little about the situation and be your old self with your friend. Your friend's life is a little upside-down right now. Its probably better if you remain the solid friend who gives your friend a chance to feel as "regular" as possible when he/she is with you.
2006-09-22 10:35:01 · answer #3 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing you can do is to be there for your friend. I know you feel helpless right now and that is so wonderful. Offer to make meals for the family or do other chores around the home. Tell your friends dad that you will be there while he is out of the country and will make sure things continue to go smoothly in his absence. Make sure your friend knows they can call you at any hour of the day or night. This is a tough time for that entire family so offering any support you can will mean the world to them. Please send my best to that family as well. They are in my prayers.
2006-09-22 10:31:11 · answer #4 · answered by Lucky Me 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can really relate because a few months ago, my grandmother was really sick and no one knew what was wrong with her. I know how it feels when theres nothing you can do to help a loved one My advice is to just do what you can for them...a kind one, adjusting their pillow...whatever no matter how small if it makes you feel like you're helping some. Hopefully and probablly your dad will feel better in no time but try not to worry because thats only gonna add more stress to the situation. The last thing you wanna do is make him feel that you're stressed about about his condition... I know it's hard but trust me, things'll get better :)
2006-09-22 10:33:40 · answer #5 · answered by shesastar123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just being her friend and being there to listen and give her a shoulder to cry on is all you can do. You don't need to say much to her, just let her talk as she wants. I know it seems useless, but if you were in her position what would you want from your best friend? Just knowing that she has someone who will always listen, and not abandon her, is all your best friend wants.
2006-09-22 10:36:00 · answer #6 · answered by rosecitylady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him/her, if there's anything you can do... Make them a "Pre-made" dinner, of their choice.. Go out & buy them a card, that says your thinking of them all.. Or make one, online.. Put, an anonymous, floural-arrangement on their porch, with a card, saying your praying for their family... There's alot more you can do for them than you think... Making a premade dinner, for new mothers, and or sick people, or people under alot of stress is such a helpful thing, more than people realize!! Because, they are under so much stress, the last thing they want to do is go in their kitchen and have to worry, or wonder what to make.. Or maybe, they even forgot to defrost dinner, because of all the stress, you know.. When, I had my oldest son, my whole church took turns, making me "Pre-made" dinners, every night, for one week, and you want to talk about a "Big-Blessing!!!" I just couldn't believe I didn't have to worry about dinner, for one whole week.. that was so very much, appreciated!!! I'll never forget their "Good-Deeds!!" And by your doing this, they will see, how much you care about their family!!! Good-Luck, to you, and I'm sorry for your best-friends, dad... Say some prayers, for him..
2006-09-22 11:33:54 · answer #7 · answered by Hmg♥Brd 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let the medical experts worry about his treatment. The best you can do is provide support for your best friend and the Dad. Try giving him avocados.
2006-09-22 10:37:16 · answer #8 · answered by Big Momma Carnivore 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to do anything. Just be there for your friend and be available to help if asked. By being there your friend will no that he/she is not alone. Give them time to talk, don't judge them and just listen to them.
2006-09-22 10:32:05 · answer #9 · answered by Charles B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometime you know there is nothing to do.
high blood pressure is often cause by anxiete and panic
attack,too muc stress...if you told you're friend you would
help you already by her/his side so now all you can do is wait
good luck
isabelle
2006-09-22 10:34:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋