What Should I Do?

Question

Ok...me and my girlfriend have been together a year and a half. I proposed to her over the summer. Everything seemed to be going good. I went on a trip to the United Kingdom for a week on business and while i was away my fiance met a guy at a party that she said was really nice. Of course my jealousy and trust issues came into play but i fight them off as much as i can. after all we're getting married. well before my trip i bought her a pay as you go phone so i could call her while i was away. When i set it up i entered my e-mail address. So today i got the call details sent to me for her phone. He has called her every day since they met and or she has called him. One day we got into a fight because i accused her of getting off the phone with me after 20 sec because he was calling on the other line she said that wasn't true...but the e-mail says different. The other day i aske how he was doing and she said i havn't talked to him in a while. the bill says the talked that day

Answer 1

She is cheating on you, plain and simple. I would get out now. You never know what type of STD you get from a cheater.

Answer 2

She has cold feet about the wedding, or she is just lieing to you because she is still looking around or just really likes the attention that guy is showing her.C'mon remember how exciting it was when you met someone new and talking to them all the time late night and all? If there was nothing there she would just tell you that they talk from time to time but it seems that something could be happening. Or, she just doesnt want to upset you by telling you that she's talking to him. Either way it all boils down to how well you know and trust your fiance. I think you should be upfront about getting the call details and see gher reaction. Explain to her that you knew for a fact they had been conversing even though she lied and said they have not.Its not a good idea to keep secrets in a relationship so both of you really need to be upfront with eachother. I mean if you're going to spend the rest of your lives together , you need to get everything out on the table. just my opinion. Good luck

Answer 3

Well present her with the call details. Tell her that you are really glad that you found all of this out before you got married and not after. I would tell her that it is over. If she is doing this while you are engaged honey she will either continue with this guy or find someone else to do it with. Rarely does one who cheats, stops after they get married. Save your self some time, money, and a longer heart ache. DUMP her and run as fast as you can (after you turn off the phone.) Also if she is lying to you about this what else is she lying to you about. Trust is a big issue in any relationship. So I know it is hard but good for you that you found out what type of person she really is before the big day..
God Bless
PS
She is cheating on you emotionally also. There is no way someone can love two people at the same time and be emotionally equal to both. You are the one getting cheated in this area not the other guy. You deserve to be treated better so respect yourself and find a new love who will treat you better.

Answer 4

What a horrible situation to be in. Tell her you know that she's been talking to him everyday and ask why.

For her to be lying and saying that she hasn't spoke to him in a while there must be something going on.
Ask her where you stand it's not fair for you to have to be worrying about whether you can trust her.

That's for getting married be careful it's such a big commitment you have only been together for a year and a half, trust me things start changing after 2, that's when you really get to know each other!!!

Answer 5

maybe she is not the one for you, maybe you should take a break from each other, that is the true test of love. Set it free, and if it comes back to you it was meant to be.. That is what I believe. Best of luck, and just stay focused on you and let her go. Some females get cold feet, as well as men do. Maybe she is not ready. Instead of fighting about it, maybe you should all talk about it, I know that is difficult because you have to face her, but talk about seperating or just going your seperate ways all together..

Answer 6

End this relationship. It is a lot easier to break up with a girlfriend, even if you are engaged, than to get a divorce. She is being dishonest and probably thinks that breaking up with you for this other guy would hurt you too much. It will hurt, but far less than having a wife who you can not trust.

Answer 7

if you are sure she is lying then she knows she is doing wrong,,are you sure either of you are ready for the committment of marriage? she shouldnt need another man talking to her everyday,especially one who you do not know,,she should have at least made some sort of effort to introduce this 'friend' to her fiance,,you are getting wed after all,,i would have a chat and a real good honest talk about whether or not to postpone the marriage as if she is doing this now,,she could do worse later and im assuming you are going into this marriage without intention of cheating,so should she.

Answer 8

It does not sound like she is ready to be in a relationship with you how is she going to meet someone at a party and talk to them everyday don't trust that just tell her that you don't think she is ready then see what her reaction is

Answer 9

You should never enter a marriage that starts with lies...It sounds like she is having a problem deciding if she wants him or you....encourage her to tell you the truth and go on from there.

Answer 10

Let her know that you are wise to her and the new guy and end your relationship with her. Trust is a big part of a good relationship.

Answer 11

She knows the phone is registered with your email address. You could show her the email with the list of calls on it, but don't be confrontational, just show her and ask her to explain.