Would you be offended too?

Question

So im shopping for a co-workers going away and i buy my things in the store and i walk to my car and a good looking lady next to my car locks her door as i walk next to her car to get into my car. our driver side doors were next to eachother. she could have locked it when she was in the car but she was doing some type of paperwork or something. im 6'5" 220 lbs but im dressed in business attire. very proffesional looking

i saw "bowling for columbine" and it showed how america uses fear driven media and how canadians dont lock their doors but here we do. was her reaction due to the fear campaign ran by the media?

i almost knocked on her window to flick her off.

ok so all those who insult/flame. Find something better to do with your life your just adding to society's delinquents. You people are the one with the issues.

Those who replied thanks.

My question is really why do we have to live in a fear driven society. i understand the human instict of protection, if she was provoked in any way) i however was just walking to my car.

I DIDNT FLIP HER OFF i just said i felt like doing it but since i am a professional i would never do that.

S

Answer 1

i understand your position, but you can't let something like that bother you...forget about it

Answer 2

No offense dude, but if your 6'5", you have to look at things from her perspective. Just by the fact your male and a big guy you can unintentionally intimidate people, esp. smaller framed folks like most women. Maybe she has a History of being raped or assaulted? The old saying 'you can't judge a book by its cover' cuts both ways. No one can read your mind an know you are not a threat. In my work as a therapist, I often work with folks that have suffered tremendous abuse and since it was done by a male, they are very uncomfortable being in a room alone with ANY male. Even in a medical setting. I have actually left my office door open and had a nurse sit outside my office so that a patient could work with me. Just remember that folks do not owe you their trust, we have to earn it. (BTW I'm a big guy too 6'2" and 250lbs and as my wife has pointed out to me, I can just stand up and 'tower' over her and even though we have been married 10 years, she says when I do that I intimidate her and she says quote "I feel like a wee little girl".) Its their perception, and we can't fault them for being wrong, all we can do is reasure them we are not a threat.

Answer 3

There's no reason to get offended by something like that. If your a professional act like a professional. I would consider this something very minor compared to all the many things that can happen that would offend a person. She did it to protect herself just in case. You never know with all the crazy people out there these days what may happen. I'm sure you didnt do anything to threaten her but if she wants to lock her door thats her choice.

Answer 4

Do you have a mother/sister/daughter? If so, wouldn't you like them to take the same precautions?

What, exactly, do rapists/kidnappers look like? Women aren't mind readers. I don't care if you wear jeans and a t-shirt OR a suit ... just because you're wearing a suit, doesn't mean you're incapable of harm to another human being, or any less devious. My priority is to keep myself and/or my children safe at all times. If someone takes offense to that ... then so be it.

You wanted to "flip her off" .... Hmmmm, what an odd thing to think ... never mind verbalize. She may have been justified in locking her doors ... in my opinion.

Answer 5

You can't take it personally.
For all you know, she just remembered her door wasn't locked, or a close family member just had an incident in a parking lot.

Perhaps something in her paperwork that she was dealing with affected her decision also.

You didn't mention her age, which could have also played into it, and/or she might have physical limitations... especially if you're as tall as you mention. And it also depends on how you carry yourself, as to her thinking at that particular moment.

Answer 6

Ever think SHE may have been attacked before ??

Perhaps she is simply being overly cautious due to soooooo many women being smitten buy men in nice attire only to be harmed. Ted Bundy ring any bells?

Whether women lock their doors or not should not be your concern. If you are happy then what they think of you for those 14 seconds means nothing !

Happy Friday : )

Answer 7

If you are so easily angered that you would flick someone off over that, then she was right to lock her doors. You have no idea what her life experiences may have been. Perhaps she was abused and carries a persistent fear and would have locked the door had any man been near.

Answer 8

I am a strong powerful looking fellow and there is no way on this Earth that I would be upset if a woman did that to me.
I dress well and drive a top of the range prestigious car, but paramount in my mind would be safety and that that person should feel safe.
There is no way I would take it personally.
It suggests to me that you have some issues about who you are.

Answer 9

In today's society people are afraid of each other. If I were you I would not be offended. I would applaud her rational desire to protect herself, and pray that my own daughters do too! Remember that Ted Bundy was an attractive, and friendly gentleman until he got them alone.

Answer 10

HAHAHAHA! Now that's funny. I may be offended, too, but me witnessing that happen to you and seeing your reaction, geez... what a funny sight.

I think my immediate reaction or I'd think if that happens to me is, "What does she think of me, a criminal with a shopping bag dressed in a formal suit? Some freakin' rude scaredy cat!"

Answer 11

it's more than just fear, there is a lot of reality to it. our crime rates make no sense. i think i would have had a twinge of offense, but in thinking logically about it, it's more about them than you (or me). if they don't feel safe, that's on them and it's a terrible way to live being scared all the time.