Is it wrong if your husband kicks you in the middle of the night *pretty hard in the back) and you fall out of bed. Is it ok because he was half asleep and the baby was crying? Could this be abuse? What about a slap in the face .... is that wrong? At what point do you walk away or leave? When you have a bruise if ever/? thank you so much!
2006-09-22 02:21:34 · 21 answers · asked by tina*21 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes a kick out of bed and a slap is abuse,,,and im afraid to tell you that it will just get worse.You need to leave him before he hurts you or the baby. I just dont understand why there are so many women out there who think any kind of abuse is ok. ITS NOT OK. Get some self esteem and get out and take care of the baby on your own. You dont need a man to be happy in your life. Leave his *** now!!! DID SOME OF YOU NOT READ THE WHOLE QUESTION???? ITS NOT JUST ABOUT BEING KICKED OUT OF THE BED,,SHE SAID SHES GETTING SLAPPED TOO!!! SO YES THAT IS ABUSE,,READ IT RIGHT.
2006-09-22 02:26:45 · answer #1 · answered by michelle 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Unless he was awake, I don't think its abuse if he kicked you at night; however I'm not sure from the wording of your question if he was kicking in a dream, or if he was kicking you so you'd go get the baby. If a kick was his way of waking you up to get the baby, yes that is abusive and you should expect it to get worse.AND, yes a slap in the face is WRONG and it is abuse whether you get a bruise or not. You are not his child; he doesn't have the right to punish you for anything. Also, if you decide he is actually hurting you on purpose, you should also expect that one day he'll hurt your child. It may take years and years, but an abusive husband is also an abusive father. You walk away when you know that he is hurting you period, No spouse should ever have to live in an abusive relationship, and no parent should allow their child to live in an abusive home. If you do stay and he hurts the baby, you are as guilty of child abuse as he is because you should know the child is doomed to be beaten just like you. For your child be safe, not sorry. And if he is hurting, don't believe him if he says he's sorry and it will never happen again. He's got anger control issues and he can't promise it won't happen again. Good luck, and please think about what I've said. I've been where you are.
2006-09-22 02:37:24 · answer #2 · answered by kealey 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it depends. Was your husband asleep and kicked you? Or, did he do it because the baby was crying and he didnt want to be the one to have to get up. Has he ever hurt you when he isnt asleep? You have been a little vage with details, but the one thing I will tell you is that you dont just walk away. If you think he kicked you out of the bed "accidentally on purpose", then you need to kick him back. Knock the holy **** out of him!!!!! And if he doesnt have a mean bone in his body and has never touched you in a bad way other than this incedent, and never verbally abuses you, then I have to say that you are overreacting and just looking for an excuse to leave and you want others to justify this for you. You never said that he has slapped you in the face. You just said what about a slap in the face. If you are being abused ( and you know if you are) then you know what you should do. There isnt anything wrong with admitting that you are being hit or pushed around, because it isnt your fault. A man who feels he needs to control or abuse his woman is the one with the problem. If indeed you are being abused, take your baby and leave. Dont give this the opportunity to escalate. But if he is accidentally kicking you in his sleep, kick him back, he will stop. My husband did.
2006-09-22 02:30:27 · answer #3 · answered by belinda f 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would say any slap in the face is abuse, and if he was awake enough to know he kicked you-that is abuse too. I would walk away and leave with the first slap. I have been in an abusive relationship before and this is how it starts, and 98 percent of men who are abusive do not stop, so there will be many more slaps and kicks to look forward to down the line if you decide to stay.
2006-09-22 02:27:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If it's only when he's asleep then it's not abuse as he's not aware that he's doing it, although you should tell him about it. If it happens again, maybe just sleep in another room for the night. However, if he's kicking, slapping you etc & he's awake, conscious & aware then this is abuse & you should get out of there. I know this is easier said than done as men like that have a way of making you feel powerless & unable to leave them, so if you don't feel strong enough to leave, confide in a couple of people who you really trust & they will give you the support & strength you need to leave.
2006-09-22 02:44:25 · answer #5 · answered by EmmaB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, are you asking if it is ok for someone to hit you? If so, you must be nuts. NO! It is not okay for someone to slap you, or touch you in a physical way that is hurtful.. Kicking you in the back and out of bed, ?? ummm, does it happen often? If this happens often I would say get the baby leave.. That is not something tha is common.. Best of luck..
2006-09-22 03:29:27 · answer #6 · answered by sweet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ofcourse it's bad.... It's abuse too. Dont take this lightly, u talk to him abt ur concern. Whether the baby was disturbing his rest it gives him no reason to kick u off the bed.... u could have gotten hurt or something.
Next time he does it, u knock him back, and if he hits u again u report him to the cops.
goodluck hon!
2006-09-22 02:44:46 · answer #7 · answered by Miss-Kenya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hitting is ALWAYS wrong, but people do crazy stuff when they are trying to sleep. Does he know he did it, and did he apologize? Maybe he's ashamed of himself so he pretended he was asleep. TELL HIM what he did. If he doesn't apologize, then he's WRONG. And yes, a slap in the face is wrong, too. You're not his child, you're his wife.
2006-09-22 02:44:01 · answer #8 · answered by Milana P 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
One way to know for sure! If you'd have grabbed a pail of ice water and tossed it on him right away and he got up and assaulted you- again -.
If he's slapped you in the face, kicked you out of bed? How much more do you think he needs to do before you realize how little he thinks of you?
2006-09-22 02:26:07 · answer #9 · answered by auld mom 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
sounds like your husband didn't want to deal with your crying baby !! abuse ? yes.... don't use abuse like slapping him to stop his abuse to you ..talk to a counselor and see if he will to if this continues or sleep in a different room !! baby's are going to cry and maybe your husband needs help in dealing with life , no i have never been abused but if i were I wouldn't let it happen twice !!
2006-09-22 02:38:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋