Am I stupit for getting back with her?
I think she's going to leave me for a guylike she has in the past
Is there any good lesbians out there any more?
2006-09-22 02:17:35 · 16 answers · asked by hardcore_carebear 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Stop wasting your time and get a real gf.
2006-09-22 02:18:59 · answer #1 · answered by Angela 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like most people I am only going to say that maybe you should look at the possibility that perhaps you should consider whether or not this relationship is worth it, take a moment to yourself & think about everything thats gone on, good & bad, weigh the options up, but remember that you're relationship has obviously failed twice (if that doesnt tell you anything, then what we advise wont either) also, the fact that you lack trust is an issue, 1 of the main keys to a relationship is trust, without that, it will sour & you will only become bitter. At the end of the day it's your choice, but whatever you choose I hope it works out, if you choose to give it a shot & she hurts you yet again, dont give her a 4th chance. Goodluck
2006-09-22 10:11:04 · answer #2 · answered by Vivi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's playing you for the safety net. no you're not stupid, you're just in love. she will most likely leave you when something better comes along, and when that doesnt work out she'll be back. you need to stop the cycle. (three times is a cycle love). get some help to break your addiction to her, find out what you REALLY want in a partner and then dont settle until you find it. My sister waited for 9 years going through the same thing with her girlfriend. it broke my heart to see her torn up. finally she moved away and the ex girlfriend finally let the woman that she was cheating on my sister with move in. it was good that my sister was so far away.. and yes there are some good lesbians out there. you just need to get over this one first! go to p-town. there are always some fun times out there.
2006-09-22 09:22:02 · answer #3 · answered by Joyce K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheaters and "players" are the same no matter what skin they're in. If she is treating you like dirt and being a dog - or mentally abusive - then you need to kick her butt to the curb. She just may be playing with you for sex (because you're convenient), or she may love you but can't decide if she really wants to be with you. In either case, she can't be honest about her true feelings. Not only honest to you, but honest to herself.
Sit down with her and get her to tell you exactly what she wants (if she knows) in a relationship. She may need some time to think about it. You might need some time to think about your wants and needs. You definitely don't want to be with a person who seems to be confused or even worse - a "player".
Would you consider being with her and the other guy? If not, tell her. Tell her you can't deal with this off-again-on-again type of relationship. Tell you can't deal with these ups and downs, foolishness, and confusion. Tell her that you refuse to waste your time on something that's not real and not going to last unless that's what YOU choose to do.
Love is a beautiful thing, but peace of mind is way more precious. Find somebody that's wants to please you, love you, and make you happy. Someone you can trust that won't run off on you at the drop of a hat.
I know it may be hard because you really love the person and you care about them. But how does she REALLY feel about you?
Brother DzL (Asp)
"The Player's Lifestyle" (website)
2006-09-22 09:39:16 · answer #4 · answered by mo2dajizzo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you are stupid for getting back with her only because she obviously isn't sure which side she wants to play for. If you really want it to work with her, perhaps you could introduce a "toy" (do you know what I mean?) into your relationship. That way she is still in a relationship with you, but she's also getting what she may feel like she's missing out on. Just a thought. Good luck.
2006-09-22 09:23:17 · answer #5 · answered by kealey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well my dear there is a saying,
hurt me once, shame on u
hurt me twice, shame on me
you're doing it a 3rd time?!
I think u love what u had, HAD being the key word and now that its gone its hard to deal with.
Honey, there are so many great women out there, do a little research on the net, i'm quite sure you can find one more compatible for urself.
2006-09-22 09:22:17 · answer #6 · answered by koleebear 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your girlfriend is bisexual probably he likes you but she need to feel a man in her bed so if you can allow her to do that you will be fine....if are any good lesbians out I cant tell
2006-09-22 09:21:02 · answer #7 · answered by haki 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you love her and all but you have to say to yourself you don't need her. You have to look for you. You won't be happy if you don't do for you. Going back is not going to solve the answer to your problems. Get rid of her and work on yourself then try dating again. that is my best advice to you. hope it helps
2006-09-22 09:20:47 · answer #8 · answered by shyhonney 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come to Indiana.... Theres more than corn in indiana, theres a TON of lesbians!
2006-09-22 09:19:16 · answer #9 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my dear, it is not right to go for a relationship with your own sex. get back to a normal life, and redirect your energu for better use. u deserve a man who will love u faithfully. best wishes.
2006-09-22 09:27:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋