She says she has recently found God and can't be with me unless I change my way of living.... Should I change the way I am for her?
2006-09-22 01:40:07 · 25 answers · asked by vandetta00 2 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Do you truly believe in God? You can't fake it. If you really care about her and you want to seek the Lord, go for it. The Lord reveals Himself to those who seek Him. You may gain two great relationships in the process!
2006-09-22 01:43:44 · answer #1 · answered by TJMiler 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is a tough one. I think that if you think that she is the one for you and you don't mind the changes that she wants you to make I would say go for it but if the changes are major and you don't know if she is the one then I would take a step back and re-evaluate the situation in 6 months.Good Luck!
2006-09-22 01:44:23 · answer #2 · answered by Special 'K' 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Change happens from the inside out, and is not subject to external manipulation, romance notwithstanding. What she is really asking is that you follow the same spiritual path that she has chosen. This is serious business. I would find out more about what this means before I took the plunge.
If you pretend to be spiritual to win her heart, it will be a disaster.
We could all use more God in our lives, and I hope it works out.
2006-09-22 01:45:01 · answer #3 · answered by Elwood Blues 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In a word, no.
You might change your way of living if it's a general problem for you- but never because of someone else. You're the only one who has to live with yourself. On the other hand if you've been looking to make a change and she provides extra motivation, that's fine.
It's a waste of time trying to change simply to please other people, because they change too. If she doesn't love you for who you are (in spite of your bad points) then move on...
2006-09-22 01:48:30 · answer #4 · answered by C-Man 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never change the way you are. When someone tries to change you, it is a no win situation and there will always be an issue.
2006-09-22 01:46:22 · answer #5 · answered by candace b 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to change in order to be with someone to me it isn't worth it. You can't just change for them, you have to change for yourself. If you change for her, chances are you will be right back to your old ways in a month if not sooner. Find someone who will like you for who you are not what you change to be. I didn't ask my husband to change, he is agnostic and I am christian. Ten years later, we are still strong in our relationship. The way I see it, you can be a great person even if you don't find God
2006-09-22 01:59:01 · answer #6 · answered by ~*~frankie~*~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u love her check into it first and see r u will never b happy. Wait u need God 2 b happy it will b good 4 u.
2006-09-22 01:42:20 · answer #7 · answered by Happi @ss 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she really liked you she wouldn't care about the way you live. I say don't change anything for anyone.
2006-09-22 01:43:08 · answer #8 · answered by JediMaster 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not change for a relationship. Change because you are ready and feel the need to.
2006-09-22 01:42:19 · answer #9 · answered by Etienne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that depends on your own beliefs. If this is a change you want to make, go for it. But if you really don't want to make it and would only do it to get her, it will be a bad thing for both of you.
2006-09-22 01:42:47 · answer #10 · answered by Jenyfer C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋