2006-09-22 01:29:58 · 27 answers · asked by Dr.Feelgood 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Many times those "looks and stares" aren't there at all. You percieve things to be different simply from your point of view but in reality, unless you are strolling down the street in a feathered boa, the majority of the scrutiny you feel simply isn't there. The feeling will fade in time.
2006-09-22 01:36:46 · answer #1 · answered by IndyT- For Da Ben Dan 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Let them stare. Remember that you came out because you are comfortable with who you are. I am openly gay and I work in a store where I get looks all the time. I just tell myself it doesn't matter what the others are thinking. I have a close support circle, my friends and family, and most of all myself. At the end of the day you only have to answer to one person, and that is you. If you're happy and comfortable in your own skin, it shouldnt matter what others may be thinking.
2006-09-22 09:28:32 · answer #2 · answered by canada_phoenix 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What's different about you now than before? With you having come out, does that mean you dress differently? Speak differently? Or is it that you and your partner get looks when you're publicly affectionate?
If none of what I've said apply to you, I wonder if maybe you're not self conscious about people looking at you, and that maybe they aren't but you feel they are. I'm not calling you paranoid, I'm saying to consider that maybe people aren't looking at you as much as you're looking at yourself. If this is not the case, I say fu*# 'em, hold your head up, and walk tall. You don't live for their happiness, you live for yours. Don't let someone else's comfortability or lack of, be yours. I'm a bi black woman, not a gay male.. so this may be easier said than done. I do not know your plight. I do know that when you have pride in yourself and it shows, even if folks are thinkin', "that guy's a flaming fa**ot", they'll never disrespect you to your face. Anyone recognizes and admires self acceptance. It's what we all strive for regardless of who we love and what we look like.
2006-09-22 12:58:14 · answer #3 · answered by Honey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll get used to it after a while. Or you'll realize that people on the road aren't staring at you because you just put a big rainbow sticker on your car, but are in fact staring because you're driving on a flat tire. Try to remember that the world does not revolve around your sexuality. I remember coming out and thinking that everything in my life was related to that, because coming out was what was front and center on my mind, and my tires, not so much. But, really, most people don't care, they just don't want to be behind you on the freeway when your tire finally blows.
2006-09-22 11:09:22 · answer #4 · answered by lcraesharbor 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK...heres the thing..people are going to stare. Who cares! I am almost 6 feet tall with blazing red hair. People stare even if I am not with my g/f. I don't let it bother me at ALL! In fact if they act assy about it I can give them something to look at!
2006-09-22 13:14:21 · answer #5 · answered by Hidisar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree, why would there be looks and stares? Did you paint a sign on your forehead? I am celibate (not by choice), but no one stares at me because it never seems to come up in most conversations.
2006-09-22 08:33:51 · answer #6 · answered by wizard8100@sbcglobal.net 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you getting looks and stares? Are you wearing a tee shirt stating you just came out?
2006-09-22 08:32:56 · answer #7 · answered by buldawg 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ignore it or better yet camp it up in front of the gawkers. People like that tend to have little in their lives, people like rudecat63 for instance, they can't handle people being who they are and not what they demand them to be. Be yourself, if people stare, let them, if they point, point back, if they laugh, blow them a kiss. Trust me, that last one always gets them to turn away. One other thing, don't let anyone tell you, you can't be who you are, too long have gays had to put up with that kind nonsense, be strong, be loud, be proud, be whatever, but never be boring.
Cheers and Congrats
2006-09-22 10:53:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Dude. I'm not gay, but look at Elton John. That guy is a fricken gay genius! I wish he was my uncle. So don't tell me gay matters. You're being paranoid and that in itself is a shot in the stomach to the gay community. Be proud of what you are and stop caring what people think!
2006-09-22 08:32:56 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
As long as you are proud of who you are....don't pay attention to simple minded people. People are afraid of things that they don't understand. Just keep being yourself, be an overall good person, take care of yourself & your other, and walk with your head high. Congratulations. -
2006-09-22 08:32:17 · answer #10 · answered by IMHO 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋