Dorming/Roommate Help Advice?

Question

Hi, in 2nd year need advice:
I posted a question on what to do before
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Aqn13pG0hYy1umI__02XIePsy6IX?qid=20060915052427A
but the same thing has happened again. Now this is the second time, I'm debatting on wheter to wait for the third strike to do something or saysomething. It's pretty much the same issues as before, they come talk, kiss, and I have to hear. His "friend" also said, "why not go and kick your roommate out" and this was like around 2:30am. When most should be asleep. My roommate at least said I can't do that. At least he won't do it yet.

I need advice should I just go up to him and talk about this issue or should I go to campus housing and ask for a single dorm or roommate?

If you say talk how should I do, should I be blunt, right to the point or more tactfull.
If you have any advice please share, this is starting to getting weird and its starting to mess with my sleeping habits.

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http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AtvznLpgL6fACTKWP6CtPzTsy6IX?qid=20060915052427AAQ3CQK

Answer 1

I think you should definitly try to stick it out. Part of the point of living in the dorms is to get into a new situation. Out of your comfort zone. I lived in the dorms 4 out of my 5 years at school and loved it. I am also more of an introvert. I didn't go out and party every night, and I didn't really date and bring people back to the room. I also had difficult roommates, but we always found a way to work it out.

Try talking to your roommate. Tell him that you aren't used to keeping his hours, and would appreciate if he kept the noise down when it gets to be late. He can find someplace else to hang out at night if he wants to have friends over. Do you have any sort of roommate agreement? In my halls, each room had to sit down and discuss plans for cleaning, rules for sleeping hours all that stuff. Ask your RA or hall director for suggestions. If nothing can be worked out with your roommate, there might be another room for you to transfer into(with a roommate who will better fit you). PLease don't give up on the roommate though. That was one of my favorite things about college. My roommates became my family. Be lucky that you only have one roommate! My second year, there were 5 of us in the room (even though it was a suite with 2 bedrooms). Give it a try.

Answer 2

I would be blunt and to the point with him...My son is in a dorm room with a roommate and i asked him once, what if you cant stand your roommate and he said you can go to the housing office and get a room change, if there is a room or change dormitories. Also there is a resident adviser there, talk to that person if you cant get your roommate to change his unreasonable ways...That's a little disrespectful making out and the 2:30am, nothing wrong with you wanting some peace....

Answer 3

well..since ur problem occured again n u already did talk to him..well..talk no more to him..he seems not going to understand whatever u going to say once he had this gurl comeover..

he should respect u..but he didnt..n u did respect him..so now..u need room for urself..just go to the warden or admin or student affairs or whatever u call it so that u can report it and u will have some peace..at least once u report it u r not letting go the problem to someone else..u will solve it..because if u just go away from this..that guy will do the same to the other guy too..

good luck!~

Answer 4

You have to be fairly blunt. He might assume you are sleeping through these encounters. Let him know you appreciate him saying he couldn't kick you out, but he has to be a little more respectful of the roommate situation.

Answer 5

I would first get right to the point in asking and if that doesn't work or it keeps happening then get a single dorm and if you can't get a single room then try kicking his "friend" out.

Answer 6

Have you confronted your roommate about his behavior? Start there and if that doesn't solve anything, you could apply to have your own room... having a roommate is hard, but you need to try to talk it through.

Answer 7

For the sake of your own sanity, just go ask for a single room.

this way when the the time comes for you to have a girl over, you won't have the same issue your friend does.

Answer 8

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Answer 9

You always should talk about it first and if it still is occurring than you should go and find yourself a one room. It doesn't solve nothing by not talking about it how does he know this is bothering you if you don't tell him.

Answer 10

Tell him enough is enough... It's bothering you and that he should go to her room the next few times...

If he has a problem, then he should move out...