Once a cheater,alway's a cheater?

Question

If someone,cheats onsomeone ,will ti most likely happen again or do you think it is just a on time thing?

Answer 1

Once a certain action has been broached, it is easier the next time.

I am a strong believer in the "once a cheater" line

Answer 2

No not always. People are different, right? Well, so are affairs. People with different motives have different kinds of affairs.

Cheating whilst in a relationship is probably the most hurtful thing one can do to their significant other. It ends up not only hurting the ego; it can make someone feel very insecure about themselves. Both the unfaithful partner and the betrayed one can confront their doubts and fears about recommitting, constructively communicate pain and anger, restore trust, renew sexual intimacy and forgive.

Assuming that the affair is definitely over and that both partners want to continue their relationship -- and that’s often a big "If" in these situations -- their first priority should be the restoration of trust.

While the person who had the affair is held accountable for his or her behavior, relationship counseling provides a safe, confidential, and balanced environment in which everyone works together to explore and rebuild the relationship.

If you've been cheated on ,here's the most important thing you need to understand: the affair wasn't your fault at all. That's right -- it's NOT YOUR FAULT. Nobody is forced to have an affair -- they CHOSE to do it.

And understanding THAT is the key to unlocking the secret to saving your relationship or marriage if it has been devastated by an affair.

The affair is THEIR problem. Don't worry about what you did or did not do did not "cause" the affair. They CHOSE that avenue to solve their dilemma. Did you make mistakes? Sure, we all do. Could you have done some things differently? Of course! They could have also! You are NOT defective. No one is a better lover or person than you. Nothing is wrong with you!

Please understand. I care for someone who is having an affair because they are trying to find something - like all of us. The problem: their way of finding that something is really misguided. Anyone who chooses to trade one set of problems for a worse set, or really believes that another person can make their life better or "complete" obviously isn't thinking straight.

They are either lost in their empty neediness or their life is run by their glands. Choosing an affair is temporary insanity. Affairs have absolutely nothing to do with love - everything to do with personal neediness and the narcissistic need for intense flattery. An affair is NOT the answer. Affairs don't pan out.

At the end of the day, we all just want to be with someone who loves us -- someone who makes us happy, makes us feel needed, gives us the attention we deserve and someone who we can trust without having to think twice.

And that's not too much to ask for -- it's something we all deserve.

Answer 3

I think it can go both ways. Most of the time once a person cheats they will do it again. But, I have seen some cases where the couple was going through a hard time and someone made a very big mistake and it never happened again, but only made the relationship stronger. It really depends on the person. If I had to choose I would say it is likely to happen again and no one should put up with that.

Answer 4

It just depends on the person. If I cheater is willing to change than it's possible that they will never cheat again. I used to be a cheater but then I found someone that I truely love and want to be with the rest of my life. I don't even think about cheating on him. We have been together for 2 1/2 years.

Answer 5

Once a cheater always....has the potential to cheat again. Capable of cheating vs. not capable of cheating.
Willing to cheat vs. not willing to cheat.
Once a cheater always a cheater has been true for the cheaters in my life.

Answer 6

Once a cheater not always a cheater. I cheated once with boyfriends before marriage and now I don't cheat.

Answer 7

It's going to vary by the person and circumstances. But in my opinion, for what it's worth, based on life experiences... Once a cheater, always a cheater.

Answer 8

It depends on the person. I cheated on my husband, but I learned from my mistake. We since divorced and although it wasn't the major fact in it, it did play a part in it. I know now that I will never cheat again. Instead I will deal with the problems my relationship has and not seek affection from someone else. But that's just me. It depends on whether the person who cheated wants to change and is truly sorry for their actions.

Answer 9

In general someone who cheats will always be a cheater. There are exceptions, people who actually will never cheat again, but They are few.

Answer 10

I cheated once, on a fiancee, and just like someone said on here earlier i wasnt geting what i needed out of the relationship, he verbally abused me, and just all around treated me bad, he ended the relationship (1 yr 6 months later), and i later found out, that he hooked right up with someone, which makes me wonder if he was cheating.. I'm not going to make excuses, because its never right, but after i did it, i learned the biggest lesson in my life, no matter how bad someone treats you, you shouldnt lower yourself, and do something like that. Since then, ive dated two people, one who cheated on me (while i remained faithfull, and the one im dating now) and i have no desire to do that ever again. If someones cheating on you, i think, maybe you should just be friends with them, build up that trust again, before you decide to date them, because rushing right back in to a relationship isnt solving the problems that was there before, ease into it, so you dont get your heartbroken.

Answer 11

Depends. I know of people who have cheated on their spouse when they knew it was over (myself included) but once they are out of that relationship and with someone they respect and love the value the relationship and do not put it in danger. Those who cheat and stay married while the whole time hiding it and telling their spouse that they still love them will do it again. They do not value the relationship and are self centered.