First off me and my ex was friends for 6 years, before we started dating. I did not even know his mother lived right down the road from him. It has been over a year since I met his mom. We dated for 18 months before I left him. During this time I got close to his mom she is sick and in need of someone to look after her. I take her to the Dr. to the store I clean her house, I try to do what ever she needs since she has no one else to do for her. I left my ex over 6 months ago, but I am still doing all these things for his mom and all I hear is about my ex. He has not been over to see his mom but maybe twice since we split he may take the time to call her once a week or once a month, ( she says he is only calling to see if she has died). But I want to get on with my life but i find it hard to let go of her because she needs me she calls me not my ex when things are wrong. How can you let go of one and not the other. My friends say I need to put distance in between all of us.
2006-09-22 00:03:01 · 4 answers · asked by Alley 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If you're happy taking care of her, continue to do so. She and you both know her son is worthless and could care less about his own mother. If you don't want to do this anymore, be prepared to tell her you're busy. She'll eventually get the hint.
2006-09-22 00:26:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Taking care of his mom doesn't mean that you are not letting go of your ex. Maybe she also think that you and her are getting along well than ur ex. It is true that you do not need to do that for his mom. Why don't you think that you are helping an elderly instead of thinking that you are helping her because of ur ex.Since you are also finding hard of lettimg go of her then dun let go. You do let go of one and not the other. It is up to you whether you wanted or not.
2006-09-22 08:40:23 · answer #2 · answered by Miss y 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U dont need to be doing all this for her. U have no obligation whatsoever. If she doesnt have anyone else why dont u pay someone to do all that crap for her.
Then there is not u inbetween anymore. U just getting someone to help her. I know its hard for u to do, but without being real mean thats how. Or wait till she dies.
2006-09-22 07:06:54 · answer #3 · answered by chanD 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ooooh, that's a hard situation... i think that you should talk to your ex, but it sounds like he's a jerk, so you may not have a normal conversation,,, but if ever you do, try talking about how his mother needs him and how inhumane he would be if he doesn't do something about his mom...
or you could also talk to his relatives (the ones who aren't jerks), and settle matters with them...
it's really thoughtful of you to take care of his mom though,,, :)
2006-09-22 07:14:12 · answer #4 · answered by Grace 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋