A friend of mine is married but have feelings for this person she now. Is it wrong for her to have those feelings?
2006-09-21 21:56:55 · 16 answers · asked by sweetlee725 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
depends on what kind of feelings she has for this person? are they sexual feelings or just careing feelings like a close friend?
if it is more than just friends than of course its wrong would it be wrong for her husband to have feelings for another woman?
2006-09-21 22:02:32 · answer #1 · answered by knowitall4now 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it is only natural that feelings and emotions develop especially if she spends a lot of time with this person. What she has to see is how these feelings came to be.
Is she being neglected by her husband or is she not having strong feelings for her husband? I suggest this person to seek counselling, avoid this 'new' person as much as possible as it might lead to cheating, and then when she will come to the core of the problem and how it came to be that she has feelings for another man, then she has to discuss it with her husband.
2006-09-21 22:21:40 · answer #2 · answered by trushka 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its wrong cozthese feeling are supposed to be for your spouse.But then if she has been married for a long time,chances are her relationship with her spouse has become stale and she needs something different.If this is the case then it is a passing phase and there is nothing to worry.
Some women also like to flirt with others inspite of being married.coz this gives a boost to their selfconfidence
But if u believein"they got married and lived happily everafter"stories,then u need to get more lessons from life.
2006-09-21 22:39:38 · answer #3 · answered by money money 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should have those feelings for her husband and not for this other person. No one is saying she cannot be attracted to someone else but once you go beyond attraction and your start to feel more than attraction and more than friendship there is a problem.
She should examine her relationship with her husband and try to understand why she is not feeling this extra way for him. Maybe she is just bored and likes the attention this other guy gives her.
2006-09-21 22:13:42 · answer #4 · answered by cinattra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she thinks it is wrong, then it is. Right and wrong are personal judgments. With that said, only the very smallest portion of the human population can genuinely "control" their feelings/emotions. Her feelings will cause no harm. Only if she initiates certain actions based on her feelings will harm befall her and her marriage.
2006-09-21 22:11:57 · answer #5 · answered by ericscribener 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if she has those feelings and get married to some one else , it's wrong. if she got married and have those fellings after marriage she have to decide who is the one to stay with and love...
2006-09-21 22:24:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they are feeling like more than a friend. I think all sexual feelings should be for you spouse and if they arnt then well thats wrong!!!
2006-09-21 22:28:51 · answer #7 · answered by twiztid992 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes u can't help who u have feeling for. its more or less if u act on the feelings. although if u have room to have deep feelings for another other than your spouse something is wrong
2006-09-21 22:23:46 · answer #8 · answered by chrisarea_99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to be judgemental about other's feelings. However, it is good to be honest with the spouse and probably your friend would get the right answer if she poses this question to her husband.
2006-09-21 22:18:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its quite natural to have feelings for somenoe else the major issue is to act on them of which will cause serious problems in your friends' marriage.
2006-09-21 22:54:59 · answer #10 · answered by pretoria_fish 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋