About 70% of the time when someone has a step child who is any/all of the following: disrespectful, a liar, mean-spirited the step mom is advised to” cut them some slack”/“earn their respect”/“realize that U must never discipline them, your job is to love them as if they're your own” EVEN w/ teenaged kids/20-something kids? & why is she to be their shrink? If they're being a**holes she's to think it's probable issues from the bad divorce of their parents. ppl don't say that when their colleague/sales rep/waiter, etc is being a jerk. “My coworker prob had her folk’s divorce. I need to love her more.” When age 13+ shouldn’t they get their “be a brat b/c my folks broke up” card revoked? Can a step mom ever say, “He assured me that he had respectful children & that he was a stern but fair parent. They R not & he allows them to walk all over him & me. So this deulsional and/or dishonest man can take his coddled brats and go away!" Wld ppl understand her 4 a change or just label her a b*tch
2006-09-21 21:50:46 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Get out now. You can't solve his or his kids problems, and shouldn't be their stepping stone.
2006-09-24 07:09:28 · answer #1 · answered by Niche Jerk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is your home too, I'm with you on this subject.
There are rules that everyone must abide by.
Your home is where you go for love and support,
without boundaries, structure, rules, respect, what do you have?
It is unfair for the whole family when there is fighting.
Both Parents have to stick together, and never fight in front of the kids. You don't have to agree on everything, discuss what p***ed you off when you are alone.
When they see you working together, they will start to respect you. Good Luck!!
2006-09-22 05:15:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I too am a step parent; to 2 teenage girls, one is very respectful, the other is the exact opposite.
I have tried to be the nice guy, I've tried to be the hard guy and both ways have failed so now I let the mother be the disciplinarian and bite my tongue as much as possible in order to preserve our relationship.
2006-09-22 05:05:22 · answer #3 · answered by da p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a step mom but never once was I treated badly by my stepdaughter nor where my children disrespectful and rude to my husband. I will not tolerate that kind of behavior from any child whether they are mine or not.
2006-09-22 06:06:38 · answer #4 · answered by kelsey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not in your shoes, but i've seen and heard that it sucks.
you've really just got to love your spouse and forge ahead as best you can. Lay your law down and if the spouse changes it or whatever, talk to him later, but make sure you show whos boss and don't worry about the "repercussions" until they come.
Step parents are the strongest people i know... i don't know how they survive - it must be a really tough skin they have.
good luck!
2006-09-22 05:17:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like your mad at the husband not just the kids. would you let your own kids disrespect you and if you wouldn't, then why take it from them. accept only what you would from your own kids and if he has a problem with that them tell him he can make a change either with the kids or get a new wife. either way your going to be a b***** to the kids so pick why the call you that.
2006-09-22 04:56:36 · answer #6 · answered by skylinbaby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would understand for the simple fact that eventually the child or children would probably come between them anyway and she or he is just looking toward the future. Sometimes its better to just let it go now than to tough it out and still have to let it go later
2006-09-22 04:58:55 · answer #7 · answered by chrisarea_99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The biological parent needs to step up and handle business if not then that is b.s.
2006-09-22 05:17:35 · answer #8 · answered by cinattra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Finally someone who feels the same as me!!
2006-09-22 11:13:09 · answer #9 · answered by jennifer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋