I ask because after I spoke with a bunch of bisexual women, & asked them about how they feel about dating with men vs women, many say things like:
"Women are more trustful"
"Women are more compassionate"
"Women are more understanding of feelings"
"Women are easier to date than men because women agree with you more."
& many lesbians don't trust bisexual women because they say they only want to play, have fun, have a thrill, but rarely want a real relationship.
From what I've learned so far, most, (NOT ALL) bisexual women, but most seem to be sexist and confused. I think this is why most lesbians try to avoid bisexual women, and why men only see them as complete sexual objects.
I also think this is why many GOOD bisexual women get a bad name, because of these ones that exist. Some stereotypes do exist and make noise in communities.
It seems these women should understand not all men are stupid, & not all women are superior, or just for fun sex play.
Your thoughts?
2006-09-21 21:05:21 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
liefie - What you said is so cute.
2006-09-23 16:19:06 · update #1
I am a bisexual woman but if I can be considered sexist, the mentality developed before I appreciated women the way I do. Since i was a little girl, I always cheered watching women fight or take action in movies. I loved the feeling of girl power, watching women take control of situations. I was a tomboy as a kid. I was one of those little girls who would challenge boys to a race or climb the highest tree. In fact, I just challenged my fiance to thumb wrestling match the other day. Im 30yrs old by the way. I just love to think that women can be powerful and ooze sexuality at the same time.
Since discovering that I was bisexual and being open about it, I find that lesbians have been said to hate my kind. I actually know a few, so to a degree- even if it's a small one- so I know that some lesbians view bisexual women as nasty and whisy-washy. I prefer men and do not get enjoyment from one on one situations with women. Yes, I'm one of those greedy-have my cake and eat it too women that some lesbians hate. But I'm at all confused about what I want. I'm very open, honest, and aggressive about what I want from women.
The one thing I've learned as an actively bisexual woman who deal with other women is that some men were right in saying that a lot of women play games. In my experience, it has been more difficult finding honest, self assured women than decent men.
2006-09-22 06:52:43 · answer #1 · answered by Honey 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Im not sexist against men. Im just more attracted to women.Yes its true that some bisexual women just wanna play/fool around. Ive encountered a few and its disappointing.No idea how a lesbian perceives a bisexual woman but I am proud to say that i'm an exception.I'm looking for a serious relationship-something that is to be nurtured and treasured.
2006-09-21 22:09:05 · answer #2 · answered by karatekiddo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a gay man, but my friendships with bisexual women definitely reflect some of the things you say about WHY they enjoy being with other women. I think they are all different, like any other group. Can't really stereotype them.
I know that as a gay person in general, I would not trust my heart and emotions in a relationship with a bisexual, because I need someone like myself who plays on one side of the fence.
I have known bisexual couples who get together though, and have seen them be very happy together as long as they are honest about it with each other. That is the key to any relationship, and there and many types and standards of relationships that are acceptable.
We can't judge others if they are happy with themselves.
2006-09-21 21:41:20 · answer #3 · answered by Cub6265 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am bisexual and generally prefer women. For me, I just find a woman's body feels better to touch. Honestly, I tend to be a little sexist the other way. I keep finding myself saying that men are easier to date because they are simpler and more honest. In reality, I think I am avoiding any serious relationship with a member of either sex. I tell myself that women only want a deep and committed relationship and are impossibly deep and that men are only good for second rate sex and car maintenance. I do both a disservice and it's no womnder I can't find a good woman or a good man.
2006-09-21 21:14:27 · answer #4 · answered by Kuji 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I am carefull not to make sterotypical comments about men - i think you can be sexist toward men and women. I dont think its necessary to make comments such as 'boys will be boys' or "all men are pigs" etc. But actually Yve is right - throughout history women have been mistreated - not by every man but my many men, espicially if you look at gender relations for ppl who lived more than 100 years ago - i dont think yve is talking about like yesterday. You can not deny that in the past, it has been the norm for women to be submissive and unequal to thier husbans in mariage.
2016-03-27 01:57:21 · answer #5 · answered by Debra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
and not all lesbian women have all those good things that ur friends named a lot are just or the same as men that's what makes it so us for bi's to leave there safty net some time and we get confused.
2006-09-21 21:20:12 · answer #6 · answered by djonecat@yahoo.com 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
amen to appelcher.Some Bi women is just looking for fun but there is more Bi women that is real and not sexist,they just like both sides of the lollipop the candy and the sweet soft centre.
2006-09-22 02:59:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most bisexual women do understand that.We are not all alike.As with any group you get both the good and bad.
2006-09-21 21:16:36 · answer #8 · answered by eva b 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No. It's not true. It's true of your limited sampling perhaps, but not nearly universal.
2006-09-21 21:10:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
No.
2006-09-22 09:56:28 · answer #10 · answered by belle1 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋