Mixed race relationships. What are the ups and downs compared to same-race relationships?

Answer 1

Veitnamese-Irish
There are more things to argue about. In our relationship all we do is disagree on the right way to do things. We have a child and although she doesn't understand much, she can see the conflict between her parents.
But its not all bad (actually its his mum thats the problem!) our daughter will get the best from both cultures, be bi-lingual and have a unique face that will stand out from the crowd!

Answer 2

Pros: You learn a lot about a different culture and become more open-minded, mixed kids are usually good looking (taking the best of both), love conquers all

Cons: It's just the attitude of some people who for no good reason decide to be against inter-racial relationships even though it doesn't affect their lives in any way. As long as you don't give a sh*t about them (maybe give them an ***-whooping once in a while) , you should be fine.

I'm married to a Korean, and I myself am mixed (Swiss-Filipino). I love being emerged into a totally different culture, and I am learning so much more than others would if they stuck to a same-culture, same-race relationship.

Answer 3

I'm in one right now and at first it was difficult getting some family members (wonderful people just not very experienced in the interracial department) to drop stereotypes and see him for who he really is. Once they got to know him, they really began to like him.
Some of the cultural issues can be trying. When I have oneset of beliefs and he has another. It is sometimes hard to understand each other, but being together has made us very patient with each other and good at listening and trying to understand and explain.
We occasionally have language barrier issues which is especially annoying during arguments - to have to stop arguing a point to explain what a word or phrase means really takes away from the point. :)
Not many, but a few times, we have gotten strange and dirty looks from strangers when we are out together.
But on the whole, it has been a wonderful experience learning and teaching each other about out cultures, languages, beliefs, and the like. Being in an interracial/ intercultural relationship can be an amazing experience - but just like any other relationship, you need to make sure you are in it for the right reasons.

Answer 4

There will always be people who are blatantly intolerant of the relationship, but the worse will come from people who ARE tolerant. Really, expect a lot of "double-takes" and personal questions. People may be a lot more tolerant these days, but seeing a mixed-race couple is still quite "novel" so they can't help but be taken aback.

Answer 5

I can relate. I am black,white,dominican,italian,irish and cherokee indian. I have a black fiance', and everywhere we go we get stares, and comments. The ups and downs are just like any other relationships, it is just the cultural differences, like the arguing and I speak english and spanish and he doesn't speak spanish. I think the world is more advanced and more open to these kinds of things,but there is still people out there that are opposed to it.

Answer 6

ups are variety in culture and opinion. you learn a lot and have a more open mind. also if you have kids, they will be genetically diverse which is a plus. some downs are the social stigma. but in a lot of places these days that is fading. another down is what do the kids put on their applications for race. but thats not such an issue.

Answer 7

i am hispanic n been with my man (bk) 4 going on 5 years, we have a loving, trusting relationship w a 5 yr old daughter. the only ones who ever hated on us were a few of my cousins, which i believe r jealous of how good of a relationship we got. ups n downs... just like everyone else, color isnt an issue at all in my relationship.

Answer 8

Im in 1 at the mo. It takes a long time for people to adapt but after a while family & friends start accepting.

Answer 9

Just like all says. Some people out are plain out being idiots -- Racists, and so on. Just because of skin colours being different, it makes no difference because after all, we're humans, we bleed red. We all do things as all skin colours -- it's just a colour that makes life more exciting. Myself, I'm a white female loving a black guy!

Answer 10

Depends where you live. One of my friends is African-American, married to an Australian. The reason he lives in Australia is that he felt uncomfortable in the States - people staring at them or being intentionally difficult - whereas no one gives them a second look here.