I know what it means to be friends with benefits, but I am looking for your take on the subject. What is "friends with benefits"? Is it a good thing or a bad thing? Why?
2006-09-21 20:14:59 · 14 answers · asked by sweet_bella06 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I don't believe men can be just friends with a woman...without sex coming into play in some manner.
i believe men are supposed to be ready for sex at any time...
I also believe women are the basis of society and do very well and making close, personal friendships.
A woman will believe a man is just a friend.
Please trust me...as a man...us guys don't pick losers as friends.
We pick guys we like...guys like ourselves....to be friends....
put a friend thats female into this equation...
he will have sex with you.
Interaction between two people is a relationship -
no matter how you slice it.
The delineating factor between a dating relationship and a friendship...is sex.
if you are having sex...
this friendship with a benefit has moved up a notch...
the problem is...for you...you're having sex with a friend...this might be wonderful...it might not be.
for him...he's having sex with a willing partner without having to say I love you and without the requirement of being monogamous.
men embrace the idea of a F@ck buddy...
women don't look at it the same way at all...
I don't think it's a bad thing if the two of you are good with it.
I will say at 44...I have walked away from a relationship where a woman was still good friends with a man she had been intimate with...they have their own thing between them...their own intimate secrets...that sometimes make him - the "friend" a priority in her life.
why would I date someone that starts me out in second place and leaves me there...
I expect better in my life and of my partner...
you decide if it's right or wrong for you...and be good with your decision...feel right about it.
2006-09-21 20:29:36 · answer #1 · answered by Warrior 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Friends with benefits...the good...no strings attached, meaning no commitment at all.
The bad...feelings...one might develop feelings for the other person while they still want to keep it strictly "friends with benefits". In my opinion...as long as it is made clear from the beginning what it's going to be...it's a good thing. If there's some questions as to whether u should or shouldn't...I would advise not to...no matter how hot the friend is.
2006-09-21 20:21:34 · answer #2 · answered by PuertoRico97 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BAD!! It's human nature for us to create feelings towards others. It can start off harmless, no strings, just "fun". But somewhere along the line one of the people always gets feelings involved and ends up hurt. If it's a true friend don't risk it. You'll never have that friendship again when the benefits are done!
2006-09-21 20:25:54 · answer #3 · answered by kajasue123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really don't think it's a good thing because it can cause hurt between the people because one might start to develop feelings and the other one may not feel the same way the other one may just be wanting sex and not want to get in a serious relationship and I believe it can jeopardize the friendship too because of what problems could come up and their could be jealousy of the other person who might start being with someone else sexually I just don't think it's a good idea and it's useless having sex with someone you don't even love I believe it's just someone using another person for sex it's basically taking an advantage of someone
2006-09-21 20:24:03 · answer #4 · answered by blondeqtwitanicebooty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that it is ultimately healthy for anyone to do this. I have friends that do and I don't shun them but I do think it isn't a good idea to look at sex like an act just for pleasure. Simply put sex is not about the act but expressing a closeness with someone you love and being fulfilled as well as possibly creating a life. When you lose sight of that you no longer feel the things you should emotionally with sex and it could effect future relationships.
2006-09-21 20:23:56 · answer #5 · answered by chrissy757 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think you should be friends with benifits or with out!! cuz if you are just becuase a benifit that is like you are using your friend!! Just for a benifit!!Get it? I think that real friends can see each other with messy hair or not brushed teath and with the messiest house or if they are pour or rich!!even though it has nothing to do with friends with benefits but it can be for both that means dont be any ones friends just cuz they are populer or smart !! be friends to have fun and have a friend that you can tell all your secrets to no matter how bad are they!!I wish you the very best with your friendship!!
2006-09-21 20:25:12 · answer #6 · answered by Dee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good or bad thing it all depends on your perception, myself it isn't right for me I'm saying this from experience. As hard as you try you or the other end up having a connection an emotional one. Doing somthing so intimate you would. You have to be in the right frame of mind to be able to stay detached from this. For other's it's the easiest thing in the world. I don't like to put somthing like this into terms of bad or good it's what you make it. From my point of view it can be bad and painful.
2006-09-21 20:26:16 · answer #7 · answered by Redhead with love 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is to be closer than just friends, more than just in an intimate way. Not that it is a bad thing
It can be a good thing. I think it makes a deeper bond between each other on many levels than just on the surface.
2006-09-21 20:25:50 · answer #8 · answered by Mark 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-18 14:46:22 · answer #9 · answered by joyan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on the person cuz everybody knows what that means the friends will never last cuz they're using each other and real friends don't do that.
2006-09-21 21:16:31 · answer #10 · answered by outlandishb13 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋