Ok... the relashionship wasnt official just yet but It was real close. He was sleeping in my bed every night, picking me up from work, hanging out at my apartment every night, and telling me how much he'd like to have a relashionship with me. Anyways It took me a good month to make a choice to date him or not, and I decided that's what I wanted. A few months later I end up pregnant and I start having funny dreams about him and my best friend sleeping together. I thought maybe I was over reacting so I started asking questions and it turns out he was sleeping with her in the process of trying to date me. I was super pised, and I called her, and told her I'd never speak to her again. I was simply mad because he was sleeping with her, and then sleeping with me in bed at night. They would meet up at the park and sleep together, and then do it again. I had no idea what was going on and I feel kinda stupid. I had my baby and everything has passed. But I still secretly get upset. Am I silly?
2006-09-21 20:05:53 · 11 answers · asked by Renegade Rhianna 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
No! You have every right to get upset sweetie! I mean- that was like the ultimate best friend betrayal. I mean - if she knew what was happening between you and she was doing him in the park - hoochie! You do NOT need friends like that. Is the guy still involved- because of the baby and all?! Well, you got a beautiful baby out of it - I am a firm believer that everything happens for a reason, I know that its hard to see now. You are really better of without either of them. Good luck with being a Mama! :)
2006-09-21 20:11:25 · answer #1 · answered by sassysharli 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No your not silly. You got caught up in a player's playin games. And the girl who was your friend, was not your friend. Friends don't do that kind of stuff.
Try to learn from this experience. If you were dating this guy (and you were, whether it was "official" or not) then you need to set up those boundaries up front. The guy was obviously a dirt bag. What were qualities about him that attracted you and gave you warning signs that he wasn't a good man? (There are ALWAYS warning signs!) The more you can dig for the answers to your intuitions, and learn to trust them, you'll feel better about moving on and the next man you choose to have a relationship with.
Being angry is normal. Just don't let it break your spirit. It will take time to work through your emotions. If you can see a proffessional about it, it might help you to process all that has happened and learn from the past. Good luck, and be strong!
2006-09-22 03:12:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not silly! That is some painful stuff you are still dealing with.
Neither is your friend. You figured that out by now. Your pain is very justifiable but you must let it go.
By keeping this memory fresh you are keeping yourself from moving forward. easier said than done, I understand because I too have been dealing with the same situation to some degree.
I hope you have better luck than I have had at getting past this feeling of betrayal. Cuts deep into a persons soul to believe in someone totally and get the rug pulled out from under them (me).
There is a saying about resentment or bitterness that says having bitterness is like talking poison and expecting someone else to die from it. Meaning it only hurts you to hold onto the pain.
Good luck to you. There is someone out there that will appreciate a good, loyal person like you (same goes for me... I tell myself this daily). Nobody deserves to be treated with such inconsideration.
I hate cheaters!
2006-09-22 03:41:51 · answer #3 · answered by notskerd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is understandable that you are upset as you have not only been betrayed by your boyfriend, but also your best friend. You dont say if you still have contact with the babies father, as if you do well that would continue the upset on a regular basis having to see him. I am sure your baby is a blessing and you just have to move on. The girl you thought was your best friend was really a very nasty person and you got to find out the hard way. Enjoy your baby and find better friends. If the fellow is still with your ex best friend take comfort in the fact that he will most likely be cheating on her as well.
2006-09-22 03:10:41 · answer #4 · answered by auburn 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to forgive even though they were both assholes. That's the only way YOU can get over it.
On a side note, you may want to explore the psychic business a little with your dreams predicting the future and all...you could make millions!
...or the salary of a gas station attendant.
But predicting the future in itself has some upsides.
p.s. I would never sleep with any guy who I knew my best friend would potentially get upset over. Even if your friend had intense feelings for him...she should've talked to you first.
2006-09-22 03:11:01 · answer #5 · answered by __ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Nooo ure not silly.i wouldnt speak 2 either of them!but coz uve got a baby now and uve kinda got no choice. i mean ppl make mistakes and that,so if he is really sorry then forgive and forget.not that easy but if ure both willing to work on it,then why not
2006-09-22 03:10:24 · answer #6 · answered by moonangel 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
listen, the problem now is not silly or not , u are pregnant so forget to punch your friend because she Betrayal u and he was Wittol , and try keep him with you to make your boyfriend marry you!!
2006-09-22 03:49:32 · answer #7 · answered by newron r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where he is right now. The past is past where is the future??? you are so strange. If he is OK right now or not - what for is the silly - doesn't make any sens.
2006-09-22 03:12:28 · answer #8 · answered by Toto 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You are intelligent enough to get advice from the public domain. Bravo.
2006-09-22 03:21:09 · answer #9 · answered by x_squared 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
My opinion is this: You are STUPID if you are still friends with that girl and kind of stupid if you are still seeing him. They are both wrong and you shouldn't have anything to do with either of them.
2006-09-22 03:10:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋