how important is oral sex in a marriage and are there any www where i can teach her on how to do it for me, i know how to do it for her and shr enjoys it very much but when its my turn to receive it she is not good at all.Ladies any tips on o=how to teach her
2006-09-21 19:43:11 · 13 answers · asked by firefly 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
There are some things are nice but not expected, That is what makes them nice.
2006-09-21 19:53:13 · answer #1 · answered by Ibredd 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her about it but do not attack her. No one can read your mind and if you dont say anything in 20 years she will still think everything is fine. There is nothing wrong with sitting down and having a discussion about anything to do with your marriage. it may be something that she doesnt like doing too and is doing it because she loves you. The only way you can teach her is to get a few sex books they have techniques in them. tell her what you do like when she is trying to do it on you give her something to work with like why don t you try it this way or do that. most of all have fun!
2006-09-21 19:58:24 · answer #2 · answered by traceylolanna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instruct her yourself.
If your married u r suppose to be open and able to talk about anything.
Tell her what u like and then she does it. She will feel better coz she is making u feel good and u will get the pleasure u deserve.
If u make it an intimate experience then there shouldnt b a problem.
Start with her and ask her where she likes to b touched and how and then make turns. It gets u real excited and u learn a lot from eachother. Also your love life will improve becoz you'll know where, when and how to touch/love eachother.
2006-09-21 19:54:37 · answer #3 · answered by chanD 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dated a lady about 1.5 years ago where this was a touchy subject, and the way I went around telling she had to learn, was asking her to read about it with me.
We went to a site that was allot like Penthouse Forum, where they had stories about sex. Both found it very erotic and saw several where they gave play - by - play account of females and males giving fellatio.
I can't remember the sites name though, and we didn't have to pay for it. I think we punched into Google the search terms "stories about oral sex."
It helped allot, trust me. Now she is remarried to her daughter's dad, and I got to leave her very satisfied, and got thanked later by her husband.
2006-09-21 19:50:25 · answer #4 · answered by Nedan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although it's pleasurable, it's not for everyone. There are so many creative things that two people can share. Try light bondage. You know, blind folds and cuffs if she's up to it. Then get creative. Maybe she just doesn't like it. It shouldn't really have a bearing on your happiness though as long as your enjoying a healthy sexual relationship.
2006-09-21 19:50:46 · answer #5 · answered by Night Wind 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first is she comfortable with it because its not a loving act to force some one if they don't like something .if she is OK with it then you need to tell her what feels good and what doesn't ,most men seem to think you need to stick the whole thing down your throat and most girls cant do that ,the truth is ,its the tip that counts ,liking and lightly running teeth over the tip and just sucking the end is more pleasurable than just sucking the whole dam thing ,that little V is really good to run teeth over.PS dont make her swalow if she dosnt like it ,use it as forplay not the main event.
2006-09-21 23:53:46 · answer #6 · answered by stephanie n 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could get the book "blowjobs for dummies" orr tell her nicely.. (not during sex) that it isnt working for you. Ask her to let you show her and ask her to not get upset or offended. Only you know what feels good to you. She might be really bad at it, but I'm sure some other guy would like the way she does it. No book or anyones advice will help. Its all about what YOUR dinky likes.
2006-09-21 20:18:03 · answer #7 · answered by spurdom28 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going to assume your question is genuine.
It's not important. There are many couples who never practice it, and lead happy and fulfilling sex lives.
Maybe she doesn't WANT to be doing it. Forcing her, *OR EXPECTING HER* is a good way to cause deep resentment. If it's simply a matter of technique, start taking her to Baskin-Robbins.
2006-09-21 19:47:10 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this might sound wacky but it works , when she starts doing it to you , start doing it your self , She should get interested and then guide her hand with yours showing her how to do it , Gently show her and encourage her to do it how you like it , do not critise her or put her down as she will loose confidence and then will loose interest , One more thing tread carefully do not hurt her ego or confidence , The problem sounds like she hasn't had much experience which in a way is a good thing , Good luck
2006-09-21 19:50:28 · answer #9 · answered by jac 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what's the problem?
just ask her 2 do it.
may b some practice.
2006-09-21 19:45:30 · answer #10 · answered by hsarora47 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋