as if you get married do you believe your husband is in charge of final decissions and is to be the head of the household? In my parents marriage this is exactly how they live and my mom would not have it any other way. They are very religious people and belive the man should be the head of the house making final decissions if there is a desbute or whatever.. What he basically says goes..how about you?
2006-09-21 19:14:26 · 25 answers · asked by sammy 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Marriage is a partnership and should seek the best moves for the whole. Both should have input and awareness of everything with the better qualified of the partners having final say on each particular issue. Don't ask me about fashions for instance. I know when I like something but buying clothes is not my strong point.
2006-09-21 19:39:46 · answer #1 · answered by gatzap 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hello, here are my thoughts on marriage & on what you specifically asked:
A marriage is a partnership between two equal consenting adults who love each other. Please do not confuse religion with this situation. People can be religious and still not try to control each other, just as people can be controlling & non-religious. The two do not necessarily go together.
If you feel you are incapable of making sound intelligent decisions, have you asked yourself why you would need a controlling type of spouse to do that for you? Have you asked yourself what you might be able to do to better prepare yourself to be an equal partner? Have you received a college education? Have you any experience in the work world? Those will boost your skills and confidence levels, as well as your ability to support yourself so that you will see that having a spouse is something you truly WANT and not because it's something you NEED in order to support you for the rest of your life.
In today's world, there is no reason why everyone, male or female, cannot be responsible, intelligent people. Trying to take away another person's right to think for themselves is not being respectful to them. And trying to hide behind someone else to do all the thinking for you is not really living in a grown up's world.
Try trusting yourself and believing in yourself. The right person will still love you for expressing your opinions and beliefs. Spouses should encourage each other's points of views, be able to discuss issues & be able to compromise. Every marriage should start with equal respect for each other.
Good luck
2006-09-22 05:03:00 · answer #2 · answered by julie j 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think this type of relationship works for some people but I think it should be equal between each partner within the relationship. A decision should be made based on input from both. A wife should not stand back in a corner while the husband makes all the decision that she doesn't agree on. This is my opinion of how a marriage should be. Equal is the key.
2006-09-22 02:21:32 · answer #3 · answered by Zeta 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In marriage, there should be a balance of authority. Man being the head of the family lay the rule and the wife is to be submissive .Wife is a partner not a slave. A helpmate not a maid. Husband is the head but not a dictator. He is the leader but not the commander-in-chief. Everything that is under their roof should be dealt with mutual respect and understanding. There should be a clear defining line where authority should not be abuse and misuse depending on how they deal with the issues on a regular basis. In simple words, husband and wife should not be manipulative but supportive to each other. A case of give and take.if I may say.
2006-09-22 02:35:09 · answer #4 · answered by dtmc542006 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My Dad was always the boss and my Mum went along with it. There was certainly very few rows in the house but I don't believe that's a healthy way to live. It means for the woman a lot of cowtowing. Thank heaven we now have our own opinions and agendas. Time has moved on, we are equal and no man should have the right to dominate a relationship anymore.
2006-09-22 02:38:51 · answer #5 · answered by linda b 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
In the Bible it does say that the woman should honor her husband, however I do feel that in this day and age mutual agreement is one of the essential qualities to a sucessful relationship. My sister told me that one of the only things that has held her marriage together is the willingness to COMPROMISE. So although it is God's will that the man make the "final decision" it is also God's will that the man discuss any and all decisions with his wife before coming to any conclusions. So everybody gets a say, but the man slams down the gavel so to speak.
2006-09-22 02:19:11 · answer #6 · answered by justme 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Its respecting each other's decisions. In some cases husband turns out to be a better decision maker while in some its the wife. So joint decisions always work.
2006-09-22 02:21:07 · answer #7 · answered by nandru_22 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well we usually decide on things together, but ocasionally he makes the final decisions on things. If I disagree with the decision then we'll come to an agreement after talking it over.
2006-09-22 02:21:53 · answer #8 · answered by sweet.pjs1 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I discuss everything and compromise if need be but he generally will have things my way more than most of the time. He does anything to keep the peace and keep me happy. Thus far, this has worked out and we are both very happy.
2006-09-22 02:19:55 · answer #9 · answered by QDPie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
To some degree yes.. but not completely, i believe man and wife are partners and well we are human beings as well and no one wants to feel completely powerless of their life.. i try to work things out with my husband if we disagree with something, but yes ultimately he has final decision, does it mean i have to like it, no.. but i definately debate my side of things, and for the most part we make decisions together, he lets me have power decision wise of certain things and i let him have power over certain things, .. in my parents marriage, my mother had all the power and say in what went on inside of the house, if we wanted to have someone over ect.. we had to our mom, now if we wanted to leave the house to go some where, we had to ask my dad, as he did 99% of the chauffering.. my dad made the money and my mom controlled how it was used.. (shes very smart financially) so she paid all the bills.. but she wasnt a control freak with the money if my father wanted anything he could have it as long as he didnt put our household bills in jeopardy she didnt mind he spending money although he didnt most of the time.. but he could of.. she understands its his hard earned money..and he never denied her of anything because he always saw it as "their" money.. never his or hers.. My mom let my dad be a man she knew how to get what she wanted with out chopping his legs out from under him.. so to speak, my mom was a firm believer that u can get a man to do pretty much anything u want if u know how to approach him the right ways..
2006-09-22 02:29:03 · answer #10 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋