Why do nice guys have to finish last? Why is it that "He who cares the least wins"? Why do I have to hurt so much just because my wife wants a divorce? I know that I can go on in life, that other "pritty" woman will want me, but why does it have to hurt so much?
2006-09-21 18:45:10 · 12 answers · asked by Chris W 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am so sorry that you are in so much pain. It hurts you because you still love her and you can't just shut off your feelings for a person so easily. There are people who answered this question that are wondering what you did wrong but I bet if this question was being asked by a woman, people would be more receptive and to believe that she did everything right but since you're a man, it had to be you. What a double standard! I am a woman that have seen plenty of good men get screwed over by selfish women that some women wished they had! I know that you heard the old speech of life goes on, you will find someone new, which is very good advice but you can't do that right now because you are at the beginning stages of your divorce. I think you should do whatever you can to salvage your marriage like counseling and trying to find solutions to why your wife wants a divorce. I know from experience that prayer helped me tremendously through all the adversities in my life and it will work for you. Prayer does not mean just sitting back and do nothing, but be willing to work towards something that you want. You still have hope because you are not divorced yet. You are a nice guy and please stay that way because there are plenty of nice women that will appreciate you if you are not being appreciated at home. If your wife still wants a divorce after your attempts to salvage your marriage, then it will be her loss. Every time you look in the mirror, remind yourself that you are a good person with a good heart and true love is destined for you. Not all nice guys finish last because if a person is in a relationship and treats their partner with love and respect, that person is winner! Nice guys and women think that they finish last but we are always the ones, it seems, to always get the last laugh! If you need to vent, you can either email me or confide in a trusted friend or family member about what is going on because if you keep it bottled inside, it will make your pain even more intense. Releasing your feelings will make you heal faster. Take care. I hope everything works out for you. God bless.
2006-09-22 04:07:18 · answer #1 · answered by sam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter who caused or didn't cause the divorce, it still hurts for both parties. You are in pain, probably because you have been with that person for a long time, even before marriage. Sometimes people just fall out of love with each other. I know that does not make it hurt any less. I hope you can move on with your life and find someone else that makes you happy. Just give yourself time to grieve and then move on. Best of Luck!!
2006-09-21 18:54:27 · answer #2 · answered by Karin H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who says life is a bowl of cherries? U get the curve ball every now and then. BUT, nice guys don't always finish last. Those who do will have the last laugh at the end. With that said, my husband is a "nice guy" and he's the best kind.
2006-09-21 19:09:05 · answer #3 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nice guys do finish last cause they are easy to take advantage of...but i love them! of course it hurts because when someone wants a divorce it is them saying that they don't want to be with you anymore, it is rejection and that hurts big time! i have been there..i am sorry you are going through this! i promise it will get better
2006-09-21 18:53:11 · answer #4 · answered by sweet serinity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nice guys are never finished last. They are the best to have around.
2006-09-21 18:47:56 · answer #5 · answered by SweetBrunette 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes being way to nice is a turn off, if your a do anything when told type of guy, try saying no once in a while.....
2006-09-21 19:06:34 · answer #6 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it hurts you because you still in love with her. but you cant let your self go down.you need to flip the coin and see that theres two sides on it.and the other side might be better then the one you are in now.and yes you will meet the one thats gonna make you go hmmm.so just be patient.
2006-09-21 19:41:28 · answer #7 · answered by super girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cause deep down you were just as wrong as she was,you played the games and loss.When your ready to settle down and stop with the games,that's when you'll have a lasting relationship.And not until.
2006-09-21 18:50:55 · answer #8 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is life, nothing you can do, get on with your life and try to finish first this time.
2006-09-21 18:47:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not about being a nice guy, or bad boy.
It's about being confident and fun to be around. High emphasis on FUN TO BE AROUND.
2006-09-22 08:29:00 · answer #10 · answered by Cerryl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋