I know this might sound strange but im married to a man and we have great sex and i love him heaps. However in the back of my mind i am interested in experincing sexual contct with a sexy chic. In pornos i have to admit that the girls capture my attention. I dont feel emotionaly though and i ve never had a crush on a girl but sexually im curious. What should i do?
2006-09-21 18:24:16 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Speak to your husband about it, if you want to explore it, maybe a threesome with another female? Very few men that I know would ever decline that. I wouldn't be calling you a lesbian, you may be bisexual, or if you haven't actually acted on it, bicurious, there is nothing wrong with how you feel. Whether or not you want to act on it is really up to you and your husband.
2006-09-21 18:28:40 · answer #1 · answered by kittycat_cc14 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Wow!! I can relate to this question. Every sentence of your question rings true for me too. I think we are "bi-curious". I am also married to a wonderful man, & the sex is extremely great. He is very hot & makes me very happy in every way. But.........I really love to look at women..dressed or undressed. It's a real turn on I think because women have such gorgeous bodies. My hubby knows this turns me on, but he doesn't know that I think about having a sexual experience with a woman. We have been married for 8 yrs & I would never leave him for a woman. I would like to go to a club where lesbians & bi-sexual girls go & dance & talk to some of them just to see how it makes me feel. That way I think I could tell if I really indeed want to have sex with a woman or it's just a hot fantasy that turns me on. But I live in a small town in TX, and I don't know any places like that.
I am 39 now, but when I was about 20 I came pretty close to being with my best friend. Of course, we had had a couple of drinks & we were at my house & we ended up wearing just a t-shirt & panties somehow. "Saturday Night Fever" was on TV. (that movie still brings back this memory every time I see it on TV) lol. I think the 2 guys we were with were probably trying to get something started between us...daring us to to take off the t-shirts. The next thing I know she leans over & starts kissing me on the cheek, down the side of my neck & then down the back of my neck & she slid her hand up my inner thigh. Then she pulled away & laughed & acted like it was just a little show for the guys. I wanted to scream: More! But of course I didn't.
2006-09-22 02:51:25 · answer #2 · answered by lisakay_tx 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I don't think there is anything wrong with the way you feel. What U should do is ask your man if he would feel open to bringing in a third partner into the bedroom. If your still not sure, go to a strip club and buy a private dance or have your man get one for you and he could watch. My BF and I do this time to time, its not only a turn on to him but to me as well, its like killing two birds with one stone. LOL
2006-09-22 01:29:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am so glad that you asked this question. I feel the same exact way as you do! That's why I am in this room to see if anyone else had this issue. I think that we're probably not gay or bi. I think that it is just hot to watch some chicks get it on. I have actually sat down and imagined myself with another girl. It made me sick and didn't make me horny at all but I still love to fantasize about 2 girls together. It's hot. So thanks for letting me get help from your question!
2006-09-22 12:51:40 · answer #4 · answered by w2e33 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I find that nothing short of normal. Just think what a lot of guys go through watching TV and all the pretty women they show on commercials and the actress on every show. These women are beautiful and what do you have for a wife, well nothing like that but you still love your spouse but you are intrigued with the beauty of these women in movies and the porn and advertising its everywhere. I have actually tried to limit myself to how much TV I watch after realizing it is really poisoning my thoughts.
2006-09-22 01:30:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Accept your feelings as being valid.
Discuss your feelings with your husband.
If you cannot discuss your feelings with your husband then you have a problem bigger than your sexual interest in a sexy chic.
You must be true to yourself.
2006-09-22 02:52:36 · answer #6 · answered by Temple 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Lesbians don't like to have sex with their Husbands. You're bisexual. You should decide if you want to be married or if you want to sleep with women. Marriage beds only fit two comfortably.
2006-09-22 01:29:53 · answer #7 · answered by W0LF 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It might be bisexuality or it may just be a form of curiosity.
My advice. Stick to fantasy. Don't act on it. Be faithful to your man and leave these notions where they are--in the back of your mind.
It isn't all that unusual and you aren't abnormal in having fantasies.
2006-09-22 01:28:53 · answer #8 · answered by Warren D 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Its called bi-curious. Talk to your husband about it and see if he was to try a trois or just watch you with another girl.
2006-09-22 17:02:42 · answer #9 · answered by belle1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your Bi...
maybe your hubby would be up for a three-som
Most men would die to have there wife ask that...lol... . so you realy have no reason to go cheating on him or anything.... i'm sure he would let the relation ship be open... least in that light.. lol
2006-09-22 01:28:26 · answer #10 · answered by CrazyCat 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋