Obsessing over my body. why?

Question

For as long as I can remember, I have always hated my body. I'm not fat at ALL, but when I look into a mirror I see something completely different. I wear a size 0-3. I know I'm not big if I can fit in that size, but why do I see something different. How do I make it stop?

what's funny is that yeah i may fit in those small sizes, but i'm extremely curvy. i've got a big butt and hips. i have a small small waste.

Answer 1

I can understand what you are saying because I am exactly like you. So is your best friend and the person you hate the most. Everyone is image concience even if we know there is nothing wrong. Now this is what I learned. When a person looks at a mirror they see what they don't like in themselves. Do that,say outloud what you hate. Then do that again with all the things you like and make the list of the things you like longer than the ones you hate. Look at the list you hate and start embracing some of those things. The key to looking good is confidence, there are some people who have amazing bodies and no confidence to pull them off and there are people with below average bodies with enough confidence to embrace their figure, and always talk about things with the people you know because they will point out beauty that you might not see in yourself.

Answer 2

Whether it's making promises to lose weight or to exercise more, resolutions have long been a traditional aspect of ringing in the New Year.

For most, health and appearance can be at the top of the list in a relentless pursuit of thinness - a quest that all too often results in low self-esteem, body-image disturbances or an eating disorder.

"Many women obsess over body size and weight and develop distorted body images partly as a reflection of low self-esteem," says Adrienne Ressler, national training director for The Renfrew Centers. Body-image problems range from mild dissatisfaction to severe body-hatred. Some of the common warning signs that indicate that a person may be suffering from body-image problems include:


Is unable to accept a compliment.
Lets mood be affected by how she thinks she looks.
Constantly compares herself to others.
Calls herself disparaging names - "fat," "gross," "ugly," "flabby."
Attempts to create a "perfect" image.
Seeks constant reassurance from others that her looks are acceptable.
Consistently overestimates the size of her body or body parts.
Believes if she could attain her goal weight or size, she would accept herself.
Allows her drive for thinness to supersede all of life's pleasures or goals.
Equates thinness with beauty, success, perfection, happiness, confidence, and self-control.
Compartmentalizes the body into parts - (thighs, stomach, buttocks, hips, etc.) rather than feeling connected to the whole body.
Has an ever-present fear of being fat - even if she is slim.
Has an overriding sense of shame about her self and her body.

Focus on the day-to-day decisions to get good, tasty fuel and fun physical activity, have friends, express yourself. These are key elements of physical and emotional well-being!

Answer 3

media focuses on size a lot, so it's a difficult thing to get away from - and sometimes the "number" matches up to the idea of an "ideal size," but what we see in the mirror may be different from what we see in the media .. you will have to learn to accept yourself, inside and out - to realize that there is no "right" or "wrong" body type ..

Answer 4

You are probably really cute. You might need some counseling. I can make a couple of recommendations, though. First is the piece of advice that will sound really dumb, but it might help. Don't spend too much time looking in the mirror. Second, hang around with people who will tell you that you look good. If these don't help, get some counseling.

Answer 5

Depending upon age.... society itself makes us obsess about what and how the world sees us. You could possibly just try and get a hobby, non food or clothing related. Possibly help at a woman's shelter and see REAL problems will take you outside yourself and see what you have going on is just minor compared to others problems. I have been thin, I have been mildly fat.... I prefer a happy in between.

Answer 6

Maybe you don't like what you see because you have no curves. Gains some weight, girl! Size 0?! I thought a 6 was small!

Answer 7

I never been in that situation before so I really can't help you in that situation just think of it like this you fit in a 0-3 allot of girl fit in a 10-12.

Answer 8

You have to try to quit being overly critical about your appearance. Sure, we all want to look as good as we possibly can, but that's not everything. I'd like to think that I was as outgoing, considerate, fun-loving and happy in addition to being attractive.

You might not be able to do it alone, especially if you can pin-point the cause to your formative years. Remember, poor self image has lasting and devastating effects. Seek help as soon as humanly possible.

I have faith in you and your ability to overcome this obsession.

Answer 9

I don't know how old you are right now, but it's really important that you start just liking what you see,...because all that will change one day..you will look at your pictures when you are let's say size 12 after pregnancy...and then you will really regret not having been happier with yourself then.

Answer 10

Why are you obsessed? Its all in your mind. You should learn to love yourself and not look at your self with distaste. Nobody is born perfect and moreover its always the inside that counts.