How can I deal with a constant crying baby? Sometimes I feel like I'm going to lose it!?

Answer 1

First of all...if at anytime you feel like "you're gonna lose it" just lay the baby down in it's safe bed and walk away. Go to another room and if you have someone you can call...call them and tell them you need a break! If you don't have anyone to call...just take a break anyway. If the baby doesn't have a medical problem he/she will be fine to let them cry while you pull yourself together for a few minutes. And this doesn't make you a bad mom either!
Let me tell you girl! I have a daughter who is 20 yrs. old now and she's my only child and I love her very much but this child delt me fits! I never got any sleep...she cried constantly, day and night!. What we found the reason to be was acid reflux and case after case of the colic.She kept the colic until she was nine months old. She was like an over full glass...when she would nurse as soon as she finished it all came right back up...and it would shoot across the room, it had that much force. God love her. I felt so bad for her but I was so tired and still not recovered from her delivery by c-section there were times when I too thought I might lose it! And most times, I had no one to help me so I learned that she wouldn't break if I just layed her down and walked away until the feel'in passed. I'd say a little prayer and then go and pick my precious baby girl back up and try it again. So make sure your baby doesn't have a medical problem that isn't mak'in her cry like that. It might be something a change in formula might help. Or your baby might need medication or something as simple as that. If she does have a tummy ache this will make a baby cry constantly until something is done to help. Milacon drops you get over the counter may help this. But you do need to make sure there it isn't something more. I think a doctor should see the baby just to make sure it's not something serious.
Please, anytime you'd like to have someone to talk with...I'm always around so email me if you'd like and we could even talk through a messenger if you like. It might help if you had someone that's been through it to talk with. At any decision, I have you in my prayers and I hope things get better soon. I wish you and your baby "better times" This should be a wonderful time in your life honey so make sure there isn't something serious going on with your child making him/her cry out. Most babies don't cry constantley unless something is bothering them. Then again...even little things seem big to newborns. Just yell if you need me! @-}-}------

Answer 2

Been there. I had to carry my son for more than a year to avoid the screaming. He would not allow me to set him down. It was so bad, I went to the bathroom holding him. I couldn't eat. He would not sleep and would only doze on my chest. If I tried to move him, he would become totally alert which happened eight to eleven times per night even when he wasn't moved. He ended up having sensorimotor issues. He screamed so much in the NICU, that he ended up with a private room because he was adversely affecting the vital signs of the other infants.

I did not find an answer at the time and I was uncomfortable letting him scream. There really was no problem other than the sensorimotor problem. They say that babies can not manipulate, but I now know that they can.

I would hold and comfort the baby only as much as I could. I would definitely buy the best ear protection so I wouldn't lose it. Wal-Mart stocks protection for hunters but there may be better protection elsewhere. I was too afraid that I would damage my child by letting him cry, however, I think he would have been better off had I set him down for a few minutes every day.

There is supposedly a book on the market that deals with crying babies. Maybe that would help. The other idea I have is to drive around. My son would be lulled by the motor. If this works maybe you could tape record the motor and play it back to him/her.

Answer 3

Above all keep calm because the baby will cry just from feeling your stress.
Could it be it has gas in it's tummy from not being burped?
Could he or she just be a really hungry child? some are and need to be fed more often. My aunt put baby oatmeal in her sons bottle and just made the hole a little larger on the nipple for the food to get through and it calmed him right down. He need solid food in just 4 weeks but the oatmeal had been added in week 2.
Putting the baby's head to your chest and let him/her hear your heartbeat will sooth them, as will swaddling:, wrapping the baby very gently in it's blanket with her arms inside to help reduce the stress of movement. Be careful not to force or go too tight.
If your baby was used to hearing you sing a certain song or listening to it on the radio, or even a TV show while you were pregnant, let the baby hear it now. It makes them feel as though they're back in the womb. Worked every time for my children.
Rocking gently and singing softly in a chair......
Give the child lot's of stimulation, play, walks, outings, drives visits, whatever during the day and he/she will be too tired after dinner to cry. Don't forget to burp tho, that's a biggie. We used to place the baby on his back and gently move his legs in a bicycle peddling movement to relieve gas pains.
Could the child be teething and need a numbing agent on the gums?
If it continues you should have the baby checked by a doc......
Hope this helps.
Smile, this too shall pass.

Answer 4

Been there-done that-bought the t shirt and ripped it up. Oh how I feel for you. My son, now 8, cried for the first 10 months of his life-I kid you not. He had THE worst colic despite being exclusively breast fed.At times I had to put him in his cot & close his bedroom door-then mine,turn the radio way up high and I cried my heart out.I still remember it so clearly and I felt like I had noone to help me,although I have the best husband in the world.
He did eventually grow out of it and I can't remember the day it stopped as it really did seem to last an eternity. I really understand how you feel and my advice is to get out on your own sometimes and do something for you.Even if it's just going to the mall and getting a coffee for an hour or so, you have to do it to put some normality back into you're life and some sanity with grown ups. Try this web site and call someone and I wish you all the luck and it will stop at some stage.

Answer 5

A crying baby does not mean that you are not giving that baby enough love, it means they are trying to communicate something to you such as I'm hungry, wet, tired, I don't feel good, or something like that.

If you listen carefully. depending on how old your baby is , you will eventually learn what each cry means.

If you get to feeling really frustated always make sure you have a backup somewhere or someone who will watch your baby for a few minutes while you go outside for a walk or to take a deep breath. If you feel you are going to lose it and no one is around to help, it is okay to leave the baby in one room, and go to the other room, and count to ten or 1000 or whatever you need, a few tears are not going to hurt that baby.

Answer 6

If they are colicky put a small hand towel or washcloth in the dryer for about 20 minutes and place it on top of the baby's onsie. This will help settle baby's stomach down. The nurses at Children's Hospital did this with my son when he got really gassy. You can also put a dry cloth in the microwave for about 1-1 1/2 minutes and place it over the onsie. Try gas drops (Mylicon). One day my son screamed for 4 hours straight and the next day I took him to his doctor and he didn't cry once...I felt like crying. I had such a bad headache by the time my husband got home. As soon as he walked in the door I handed our son to him and went and cried in the shower.

Answer 7

Probably baby has colic, you can calm him/her by keeping their tummy's warm. Laying baby against your bare skin may quiet him. If you are breast feeding, keep your diet more bland, avoid things that cause adults to be gassy.

Make your husband take the baby for at least three hrs. a day.

But, key is, a breast fed baby eats what mom eats. If it gives you gas, avoid it.

If baby is not breast fed then you need to talk to your pediatrician, he may suggest you change formula. And weigh your baby regularly.

After a bath is a good time to do this, they tend to be calmer.

Warm baths help with colic too.

Try going for a ride in the car, this soothes some babies.

If you try all this and baby is still crying a lot take him to his doc.

Answer 8

Make sure you get a min to breathe away from the baby believe it or not most of a babys emotions are based on you. If you are tense or upset so will the baby. I know I am a single mother of two toddlers. They even know when your faking happy. Make sure the baby is comfy MAKE SURE you burb it gas is terrible thing for anyone and just be happy some babies just cry.

Answer 9

There's a lot of missing info and it's hard to give help without it. How old is the baby? Are you all on your own, or is there somebody you could ask for help. If all else fails, call somebody. Anybody- from child welfare to the doctor, to your church if you have one. Babies cry for a reason, even if it doesn't seem like a good one to us- and yes it can drive you to a wall. But before you get to that, call for help that is a lot closer than us on the keyboards. If you have to, take the baby to the closest hospital and ask them for help. I promise somebody there will help you and your baby make things better.

Answer 10

1 there is a reson one they could be over simulate go to a dark room queit ture on box fan and cuddle on your chest 2. gas which you can purchase a gas relif for infants at walmart # some babys have intenstal pain from feeding try soy milk oky parenting is easy i have four there several options if your child still crys more than 30 try laying them done in there crib turn a fan or the herat rtym bear leave the room take a shower have me time if the child still cry for more than a hour make appt with your doctor