i have a 3 yrs and a 8 week old...?

Question

i also have a 9 yr old step daughter, all are children are girls. If you were me, would you try for a little BOY?

Answer 1

Yes,Try if that's what you really want.To be able to have children is a BLESSING,cause there are a lot of people that can't have kids at all.Kids are a gift from GOD.I have a 9 year old girl,a 6 year old boy,and a 2 year old boy and I thank GOD every day for my kids.Kids are a big responsibility but they are your blessing from GOD.

Answer 2

I have three beautiful daughters also, one from a different marriage. I didn't try for a boy. If you get the boy and have no other children, then they will all know you were trying for the boy. This may make them feel less appreciated and loved. I just wanted 3 kids. And that is what I tell them and anyone else who asks.

With a 9 and 3 year old and a baby in your arms, you need a rest momma. The girls need you attention, so right now is not a good time to get pregnant again at any rate.
I am assuming you have been a step mom for 3 years at least. Does your step-daughter seem happy. She now has 2 new sisters and a mom who seems preoccupied. Maybe you should plan some time with her. Reading, playing video games, teaching her how to take care of a pet. A little bonding can go a long ways.

If you do try for a boy, wait a year or two at least. The girls you have right now need help through some very important developmental stages. That 9 year old will be a teenager soon, and pre-teens sometimes have some rough times with hormones also. The three year old is at a challenging time for verbal skills. The 8 week old propably doesn't have a good sleep schedule going yet.

Enjoy the ones you have. Cherish them. Give the family time to enjoy each other for now, don't get obssessed on a gender. Right now none of your girls can think you love them less because they are girls and none of them should think you had them because you were trying for a boy. At least I hope not.
Good luck. Girls can be a blast, but you are going to need patience to get through the teen years. Take the hormonal mood changes with a grain of salt, cook, shop, or do yard work with the girls and enjoy their company.
My sisters had boys and no girls, so I always figure mine balance things out.

Answer 3

well not at the moment considering u just had a baby.. so id wait atleast a year or two "ATLEAST" .. so why dont u wait and see how u feel then.. it all depends on how u and ur husband feel about trying one more time.. if u both are up to it.. sure.. but id give urself at the very least a year before even thinking about having another baby as ur situation, or feelings could change by then especially when ur running after a 4 year old and a 1 year old..

After reading one of your answers that was comparing babies to horses.. let me tell u this..

My x husband, his father comes from a family of 4 boys, and 2 girls.. so boys are dominant in his family, Him and i have 2 boys together, but his last two children with his new wife are both girls.. and obviously his (your husbands) father put out a boy so he should have a slight chance of having a boy himself.. so dont listen to that crap.. u get what god intended u to have.. so if u want to try one more time go for it when ur ready and sure, but go into it with the thought that no matter what sex the baby is you'll be happy as long as the baby is healthy, and leave it in Gods hands, if ur meant to have a boy it will happen if not.. oh well God has other plans thats all.. I do know a couple that wanted a boy so bad that they ended up with 11 girls no boy.. it just wasnt meant to be for them..

I was the opposite of u, i have 2 boys and i wanted a little girl.. and as far as the comment saying dont do it cause they will think u love them less cause their not boys again thats horse Sh*t.. i wanted a little girl.. but i went into it thinking i didnt care as long as its healthy cause thats the important thing, and i just kept telling myself its a boy.. cause i didnt want to get my hopes up.. and when we had the sonagram i still wouldnt believe the doctor when they said it was a girl .. lol..AND MY KIDS KNOW I LOVE THEM ALL THE SAME...if the kids feel like one is loved more its because parents act that way .. so dont listen to that crap...

So it does happen...The possibility of getting the opposite sex ... but just have a baby.. dont go into it "Wanting" a certain sex.. just do it to have a baby and just hope maybe it will be a boy.. but dont put all ur HOPE into it, if that makes sense.. Good luck..

Answer 4

If you are dead set on having a boy, perhaps you should look to adopt. There are plenty of children in the world who need a good home. There is no way outside of expensive science to pick the gender. Even then its not 100% reliable.
I wanted to have a boy after my 2 girls were born, and then I had twins. I love them all, and financially we are ok, but that may not be the case for everyone in this predicament.

Answer 5

If your desire is a little boy and you are able to support all the children equally and you can handle it mentally I would try but since you have an 8 week old I would wait a little while. You dont want to be pregnant and taking care of a baby who can't walk... you wear yourself out. give it 6 months and if you still want a boy then try

Answer 6

Absolutely not. First, you have your hands full, sweetie. Secondly, if you already have two daughters with this man, the likely sex of the child in the future will also be a girl.(theoretically it is always 50/50 with each pregnancy, but in reality, no, it really isn't In horses, (sorry, I know horses best) there are some stud owners that advertise "no filly, no fee". (We are talking purebred horses with fees of ~$5000.) True, they have several breeding seasons before thay make that offer, however, men aren't much different. I have 5 girlfriends who tried a third time for a child of the other sex. Guess what? All five of these women had the same sexed child as their first two. You may get lucky, but since it costs $250,000 per kid to get it thru grade 12, why would you want to? Wouldn't more vacations for you and your present family be nicer??????

Answer 7

I think that it is too soon for you to be thinking about having another baby. I have two boys and a girl. But I do remember wanting to have her.. and felt very depressed because I had my two boys. If I would have had another boy, I don't know, I would've probably be like you..so I was pretty lucky, but you know what, it's a big responsibility to have children so don't do it just because you want a boy!!

Answer 8

If you feel you are ready financially, than I think is perfectly OK, considering that the cost of living is gotten very expensive.

Besides, how do you know the next one is going to be a boy? I have three boys myself, and I am very happy they are all boys. I just adore my 3 boys.

Answer 9

How disappointed would you be if you got another girl? If you don't really care and would just enjoy having another child, then go for it.
You can use methods like Shettles, although nothing is 100%.
I would give yourself sometime though before making any decision.

Answer 10

Children are very expensive. If you can afford to try again, go ahead. Girls are beautiful though. You may end up with another girl if you keep trying. :)