he postponed and lied and said I sent off the forms keith, I finnaly called after two years and they said they had nt recieved the forms so they could send me the benifits from dads insurance policys, he hid a number of policys so I would die and he get the money, I was due, I just dont know how to forgive him, it really is bad, upsets me, greatly. I called, he said well, I have money on one hand and this brotherly ^*%* on the other, which hand do you think I would be going with., I stayed with mother for nine months till the cancer went to her brain and killed her and had a nervous breakdown, and am sad all the time, and now this,. I just dont know how to handle it,I wont to forgive. I am a grown man, and I cry,my other brother I found out is the same way,. all my friends died, and family died in a car wreck, and I take medicine for depression, and I have cronic pain, take lortab, I believe in god, but. anyway, any suggestions, about how to deal with all this? THANKS.
2006-09-21 17:36:47 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
That is terrible, I'm so sorry for your situation. Not everyone is fortunate to get a family that is really a "family" - I suggest you re-frame how you think about the people in your life. These are no longer family to you, they are just people that you have known a long time, like old neighbors or something. Your family is who you choose now going forward. It sounds like you need to get out and meet some new friends, there are lots of ways to do this - a cancer support group, any kind of class at the local recreation center or YMCA, church, group activities at your church. Develop new friends and before you know it you will have some new family all your own, who love and support you.
As for forgiveness, it is not easy I know, but one thing that helps me is to think of all the suffering that person must have endured &/or be enduring, in the depths of his being, that make him act so vile. Do you think someone who acts that way could possibly be a happy person? No? Then think about what he must be going through, materially and mentally, and how bad it is for him to have done the evil actions that you know about, and how since what comes around goes around, that will come back to him, and how horrible that will be for him when it does. Soon you will look at him with compassion instead of anger, knowing what it must be like to have to be him. It does NOT mean you should ever let him walk on you again, but it will allow you to forgive, which is really for YOU so you don't have to carry the resentment around. And, don't forget to pray for him, that his life may be improved in every way, so he won't feel the need to hurt others in the future.
Best wishes.
2006-09-21 17:48:34 · answer #1 · answered by kellyault20001 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
since you already believe in God, i just wanna add to believe in consequences. something will come to him sooner or later more than what he deserves.
but for you, instead of hating him, pray for him. pray that may he find love in God, may he wake up one day with the presence of God and realize all the terrible things he's done to you. the more you pray for your brother, the more it will be easier for you to forgive him later. God knows what you're going through. things happen for a reason. good things come to those with rightiousness.
i feel for you.
2006-09-21 17:49:28 · answer #2 · answered by Mrs. JSV 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
not to be rude or anything **** that basterd...why would you want to forgive someone who did something like that???i say you forget him and everybody else who did you wrong and just live your life to the best of your abilities...clearly he doesnt care about you so why do you care about him.??
2006-09-21 17:41:25 · answer #3 · answered by chew 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow ! You poor thing ! Write your brothers off as a$$holes and go on with your life.
2006-09-21 17:39:48 · answer #4 · answered by vik 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't know dude, just say fuc.k you to all that s.hit. you never know what kind of life you will get :( some people are more lucky then the others, just sad
2006-09-21 17:46:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋