Help!!! I want to finally have a healthy baby?

Question

Hello all and thanks for your advice,
I have gotten pregnant twice. one in 2001 and again this past february. I miscarried both times aroung the 6th week. My doctor says it's nothing to do with me, he said it just happens sometime and I'm still young (I'm 21) my husband (who is 28 and is dying for a child) and I have been trying for a little while now. I'm really starting to feel like less than a woman. I've told him (while I was depressed and just putting my feeling out there that if he was with somone else he would have her pregnant in like 4 months. we've been together 3 years and that baby was the only one conceived. Does anyone know anything I can do to increse my chances of getting pregnant, besides reading a huge book or taking meds.

In fact I'm not even gonna be picky LOL. What ever advice you have would be appreciated. thanks so much and God bless!!!!

I've been praying to God for years for a child. I 4got to include that

Answer 1

Take prenatal vitamins 3-6 months before trying to get pregnant. This will build up your folic acid levels to help prevent certain birth defects. Keep sugar intake to a minimum, eat whole grains, fresh fruit and veggies. Try to stay away from junk food and sodas. Drink at least 8 glasses of water a day. Keep track of your periods. Count how many days are between the first days of each period. A normal cycle is around 28 days. Try having sex about 10 days after the first day of your last period and have sex every OTHER day, not everyday because that can lower the man's sperm count. I had 3 miscarriages before finally having my now 2 year-old son. Good luck to you.

Answer 2

All i want to do is hug you. We aren't given a choice when it comes to conception. Either our body can handle it or it can't. My best advice to you is - don't try so hard! I already had two children previously with "my man" and we wanted a third and fourth and etc to go with them. We tried for 4 years, and in the end intercourse became a chore rather then love making. I tried the body temperature thing, the tilting my hip thing, the well i tried just baout everything! When i finally said enough is enough, we just may have to adopt and started considering this possibility, i started to relax and so did my husband. It took the chore out of it all and brought romance and fun back into the whole - the whole aspect of love makeing. A few months later - i missed my period. We were awaiting the final approval for the adoption when i was Dr confirmed of being pregnant - whoohooo we scored a double horse shoe! My point is - your trying to hard. Sit back, relax and allow your "fate" to take it's own course. Think of it this way - when you try to be quiet, that is when the pan slips and crashes to the floor, that's when the door squeaks behind you, that's when the fire alarm rings it's warning bells. When you try to be quick - that's when you get all the red lights and everything goes "wrong". Just keep your chin up, in the end there is nothing wrong with you. Whether it be that you can or cannot concieve. There is nothing wrong with you. Fate is decided for us in the end. I wish you the best of luck - grab a bucketful of strawberries and a good champagne and enjoy a week end get away - literally get away from it all. Just be you and enjoy you, things will turn out right in the end.

Answer 3

Well .... have you tried taking your BBT and monitoring your CM and your cycles?? I know that it is easy for people to say just wait and be patient and it will happen when it is suppose to, but that doesn't ease the ache.

I have found a few websites that help you to track all of this information - there is not a lot of reading unless you want to know more about what you are doing.

I used these with conceiving my youngest son and the pregnancy I am in now. I have found that once you understand what is going on with your body, you can better predict when it is a good time to try to conceive. Also like one of the other answerer's have said start taking prenatal vitamins and folic acid.

GOOD LUCK & GOD BLESS!!

Answer 4

First of go to your OB/GYN not just a regular dr. At your age miscarring more than once in a row is not normal. You need to have your hormone levels checked out. I could not get into my second trimester and it was determined I had a hormone difecenty. It is very common in women and very simple to fix. If you need it they put you on clomid to ovulate and progeterone until you are 14-16 weeks along. Put simply your body provides the progeterone to keep the pregnancy going until the placenta takes over in the early second trimester. If you dont make enough progeterone even a healthy pregnancy will not make it. From the research I have done this is the most common thing that happens with women who have early miscarages. They did several tests on me before determining the exact cause of my losses. They always start with blood work and charting/ovulation predictors. They like to see 6 months of charts or 3 months with o predictors. Then you move on to the more invasive test like HSG (take pain meds before this test can be painful). The HSG gives you an unoffical boost in firtillity for 3 months due to the way it works. Basicly it cleans out any debre from you uterus and falopian tubes. This test is used to determine any defects in your uterus and tubes or blockages. If you are not ovulating the only answer is meds. If your hormones are to low they will need to give you meds as well. Also the MOMENT you find out you are preggo call your dr for an early HSG count and make sure you are being monitored if you arnt on progeterone at the time have them check that level too. Sometimes you can catch it early and get the meds and save the pregnancy. Your husband may also want to get his sperm checked for motility and count to make sure his guys are working right. Good luck.

Answer 5

To get pregnant you must have sex on a day that your eggs are being released.

After the 3rd day from the day that menses started put a thermometer into your mouth and check your body temperature every morning before you start turning in bed. The best time is at about 4 a.m. Maintain a chart. You will find that on one day the body temperature drops from 1/2 degree to one degree. This is the day that your eggs are being released. If you want to get pregnant this is the day that you must have sex. Tell your husband to ejaculate on his inward thrust so that the sperms will shoot deep inside.

After having sex you must stay in bed for about 30 mins with your knees bent up with a pillow under your buttocks so that the sperms will not pour out - to enable them to travel up.

Get your husband to save his sperms in the testacles for at least 3 days before sex to enable them to mature well to do their job.

Miscarriages can be due to many reasons. You must remember that the child formation in a body is not like something that is happening in a machine. There is nothing being held together by bolts and nuts. There are no screws to be tightened. The whole thing is held together by your own muscles and other results of hormones and enzyme reactions.

Your physical activities contribute to this a lot. If you strain yourself. If you wear tight body wear. If you wear high heeled shoes - all have an affect on it

Your mental condition also matters a lot. If you are depressed. If you get angry often etc affects the enzymes in your body.

The food also contributes - I know unripe pineapples affect pregnancy.

I know of a lady who spent the last 6 months in bed with knees up most of the day to avoid her 3rd miscarriage - and she succeeded.

Good Luck

Answer 6

well there are a lot of things But the biggest is you have to have sex when you ovulate or it wont happen. So you can chart your ovulation, Check cervix position, Check temps, Watch you mucus changes. These all are great to tell you when you ovulating and used together are very good. Positions also help. If you have any questions on these or need help charting or figuring out how to do these thing you can feel free to email me. Best of luck here is some baby dust.

Answer 7

You should invest in some ovulation kits and be sure you are having intercourse during the most fertile time. Have sex EVERY day for the 5 days before you are scheduled to ovulate. Assuming you can both conceive, and it seems you can, all you can do is wait. It WILL happen.

BTW, the only reason sex is sometimes suggested every other day is to keep the mans sperm count high. You have conceived so most likely his sperm count is normal and every day will obviously increase the odds.

Answer 8

Sometimes there isnt much you can do. You can try taking prenatal vitamins even before you get pregnant, take extra folic acid... cut out the caffeine.... and keep praying... Good Luck

Answer 9

If I were you I would do the usual, watch your diet and exercise. I would definitely be taking prenatal vitamins with folic acid and baby asprin helps tons of people who have repeated miscarriages! I would also have your progesterone tested by a doctor. Good luck!

Answer 10

i'm very sorry on your loss. My mom had 5 miscarriages finished, yet did have 3 healthful infants. i'm specific it extremely is nevertheless achieveable for you to have extra little ones, exceptionally if the known practitioner can not locate something incorrect so far.